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Dear Deanna!
In the middle of a bad divorce and
I’m still intimate with my ex-hus-
band. Although we didn'tget along,
couldn't build a life or raise our
lamily together, we were able to
bond physically. The reason w e’re
divorcing is due to outside affairs
with other people, financial prob
lems and marrying too soon. I want
to move on with my life but for some
reason, manage to keep this part of
the relationship going. Am I wrong
for doing this? — Worried Divor
cee; Atlanta, Ga.
Dear Worried:
Sex is the fuel fora relationship and
Ask Deanna'.
Real People,
Real Advice
takes and if you must have a man,
be a better judge of character and
find one that will respect you more
than your husband and keep it
moving.
Dear Deanna!
not the glue. If you’re divorcing
your husband, you need to immedi
ately cut all physical ties. You’re
short changing yourself by giving
him your body because it’s obvi
ous he didn’t respect you as a wife
and won’t respect you as a homey
lover friend. Learn from your mis
My girlfriend is a woman with a cute
face but sh e ’s voluptuous and
doesn’t understand that all fash
ions aren’t suitable for her. I love
her and think she looks good in
most things but not everything.
It’s hard for me in public when
people stare at her or snicker and
make rude remarks. When I ad
dress this issue we argue. Please
give me some options because I'm
tired of being embarrassed and my
suggestions aren't working? -
Matthew; Boston
Dear Matthew:
Your partner has a mental problem
because she probably has a size 18
shape with a size 5 outlook. This is
not cute and you need to offer
Jenny Craig o ra shopping spree. If
she still refuses then you need to
llip the script and approach her
weight issue from a health perspec
tive and encourage her to lose
weight. If not, just be there because
her feelings will get hurt really good
one day if she still insists on walk
ing around looking like a sausage.
Gaston Farewell Reception Set
The Urban League of Portland
Board of Directors and staff invite
the Portland community to join them
at a reception to wish their leader
for the past three years farewell.
Vanessa Gaston is leaving her
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During her term in Portland,
Nurse Stands U pfor Children
A north Portland
ing the development
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The Urban League of Portland
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education, employment and eco
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and resources. I especially want
to work with black families, which
are having a difficult time with
adjusting to their new challenges.
I want to help families break tra
ditions of abuse, drug addiction.
she’s not a rocket scientist and
should see her kids are im itating
art. In this case, the bad art o f
explicit lyrics. W rite the lyrics to
some o f her music and give it to
her on a sheet o f paper. W hen she
looks at this mess in black and
w hite, perhaps s h e ’ll have a
change o f heart and be more o f an
adult when it com es to what she
listens to around her children.
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Dear Deanna:
My sister listens to music that is
vulgar and explicit. She listens to
any type music and doesn’t care
that she's exposing her children to
adult lyrics and content. Her chil
dren are now beginning to repeat
the lyrics and she gets upset and
shouts at them. She can’t see that
they ’re simply repeating and sing
ing the songs. Other than turning
off her music, what other options
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