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land and Vancouver
and fam ily life. Can we really
have it all? A m ericans have
become very busy people. Be
cause society teach es us we
can have it a ll, we becom e
frenzied trying to fu lfill the
A m erican D ream H o w ev er,
life is re a lly a b o u t tr a d e
offs.A fter many sch ed u le co n
flicts and m isu n d erstan d in g s,
our family came to the con
clusion that we co uld not co n
tinue to segm ent o ur life as if
the other parts did not exist.
M anaging a fam ily is d ifficu lt.
It is an ev e r-c o m p ro m isin g ,
c o lla b o r a tin g , c o n f r o n tin g ,
avoiding, and n eg o tiatin g p ro
cess. Below are som e helpful
tips to increase your success
in m anaging your fam ily:
1. Fam ily focus. C reate a
w ritten fam ily plan to balance
your work and fam ily life .2.
P rio ritiz e . D eterm in e w h a t’s
really im portant to your fam
ily. This w ill allow you to b e t
te r s c h e d u le y o u r t i m e . 3.
C om m itm ent. D o n 't ov erco m
m it y o u rse lf to too m any o r
g an izatio n s or p eo p le.4. L is
ten. Set asid e tim e for your
c h ild re n . A c c o rd in g to one
s tu d y , th e a v e ra g e p a re n ts
spends only 15 m inutes a day
per c h ild .5. P lanning. Allow
your ch ild ren to pick one m a
jo r ac tiv ity for the sem ester.
M any p a re n ts try to do too
m uch ( b a ll e t, s o c c e r, G irl
S couts, etc.) and get stressed.
6. Fam ily calendar.
E stablish a fam ily calendar
to b e t t e r s c h e d u le e v e n ts
around your fa m ily .7. R efo
cus. Lim it the am ount o f TV/
com puter gam e tim e th at you
and your ch ildren h av e.8. Fam
ily tim e. Set aside at least one
day a w eek w ith your fam ily
(q u iet tim e) w here you focus
on its n e e d s.9. School time.
S ch ed u le p la n n e d /u n p la n n e d
t r i p s to y o u r c h i l d r e n ’s
sch o o ls. It show s them you
c a r e . 10. P h y s ic a l tim e. Set
aside perso n al tim e for ex e r
c i s e . 11. M en tal tim e. Know
w hen you are stressed and take
action.
R em em ber, the home is the
basic foundation for our so ci
ety and strong com m unities are
b u ilt by strong fam ilies who
can p roperly balance work and
fa m ily .D a ry l and E s tra le tta
G reen, T h irtysom ethings with
ch ildren, are national speakers
and fam ily advisors. They ap
ply a lo g ical fam ily process
sprinkled w ith common sense
and sp iritu ality .
unending cycle.
critical acceptance o f duplic
The only people who benefit
ity and deceit it beams at us 24/
are the dope p u sh ers, retail
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You can’t hide from yourself.
stores, charlatans and con art
from thinking for ourselves,
Everywhere you go, there you
ists o f all stripes and sizes.If life
m aking decisions, or shaping
a r e .” L y ric s from a T eddy
is designed to be lived from the
our lives in integrity with our
Pendergrass song.M any people
inside out and you desire a better
best interests and our highest
m istakenly believe that chang
life, where is the obvious place to
good. Becoming self-actualized
ing where they live will m agi
make changes and improvements?
whole people is not prom oted.
cally transform their lives. Not
On the inside, of course! Stop and
Too many o f us are frustrated,
so. Yes, a different environm ent
think about your life. What it
fearful and dissatisfied with our
may inspire you to have a differ
would take to make you really
selves and the quality and tenor
ent perspective on life, for a
happy? Is it a new house, a new
o f our lives. We have listened to
while.
car. Big Willie lifestyle, “power”
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However, as the song “You
and status in the eyes of the com
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that
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C an’t Hide From Y o u rse lf’ so
munity? Guess what, there are
conform
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buy,
seek
life
in
the
aptly says, “everyw here you go,
countless people who have all
external,
ignore
your
authentic
there you are.” M eaning, you
that and they are still miserable.
self
and
your
soul.
Escapism
is
can run, but you can ’t escape
Why? Because they haven’t real
the order of the day.
from yourself.Life is designed to
ized that the genesis for happi
We seek escape from the frus
be lived from the inside out. We
ness lies within. If you hate your
tra tio n s , d is s a tis fa c tio n and
are souls with great creative po
self, moving into a stately man
alienation that characterizes our
te n tia l. We have p o w ers o f
oppression. We defect from san
im agination, visualization, will,
ity and liberation retreating into
discernm ent, the ability to gen
consum
erism , shallow relation
erate em o tio n al force field s
ships
and
mood altering sub
within ourselves and create ob
stances.
However,
when we ex
jects, circum stances that we en
perience
a
glim
pse
o f sobriety
vision in our m ind’s eye.
and
reality,
we
realize
that our
We are powerful beings en
lives
haven’t
changed
or im
dowed with skills and talents to
proved, so we take more drugs,
dominate our personal space and
enter into yet another debilitat
to a large degree our lives. This
ing relationship, or we purchase
is how the C reator envisioned
additional gizm os and gadgets
and planned it for us. However,
thinking they will bring us joy
we live in a society that pro
and happiness. It becomes an
motes blind conform ity and un
sion will not keep you happy tor
long. Nor will having five or six
cars, a fat bank account, fine
women or handsome men depend
ing upon you.
It all boils down to you. You
could travel to paradise, but if you
have self-negating b e lie f and
value systems, low self-esteem
and hate anyone who remotely
resembles you, you will not enjoy
it. You see everywhere you go
there you are.If you desire true
happiness and peace o f mind it
can only be found on the inside.
First you need to change your fo
cus. The universe is mental. En
ergy follows thought. Does that
mean what we see doesn’t exist or
is an illusion? No. It just means
that m e n ta l/sp iritu a l energy
undergirds all matter. If you re-
ally desire change in your life,
you must first initiate lasting
change in your inner mental world.
Life is what you say it is and what
you make it. Do you have absolute
control over everything in your
life?
No. But you do over how you
define and respond to everything
in your life. You don’t have to be
a puppet dangling on the stings of
outward circumstances or con
vention. Redefine yourself to/for
yourself. You are far greater than
you realize, you are immensely
more talented and resourceful
than you imagine. Get to know the
real you. Discover and actualize
your hidden potential. Love, honor
and respect yourself. This way ev
erywhere you go, you’ll find bring
real love, respect and honor.
Get The Lead Out
Now Conference
September 9 th
Portland Observer
OBSERVER
front o f the school. Y our son
d o e sn ’t want to get out o f the
c a r .F i n a l l y , y o u a r r iv e at
w ork. late. You try to unw ind
and make the best o f the day.
Y our boss com es by your o f
fice and asks w h a t's w rong.
You tell him i t ’s the first day
o f school. He says he u n d er
s ta n d s . s m ile s at y o u , and
shuts the door.D oes this sound
fam iliar? As m uch as we hate
to adm it it, going “ B ack-T o-
S ch o o l” can be very stressfu l
for m ost fam ilies. C hildren are
expected to be nervous. They
are m oving into new areas o f
learn in g and being exposed to
d iffe re n t th in g s. Som e w ill
need to n u rtu re new frie n d
ships. And m any parents m ust
also cope w ith changes. The
q u estio n that m any fa m ilies
face is how to balance work
B> J lniols R icardo S tanton
Talunaka Washington
D
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You Can’t Escape From Yourself
anager
Gary Ann Taylor
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Sum m er is over. These days
the alarm rings at 5:30 am You
get out o f bed. You w ake the
kids. No one w ants to get up
You lay back dow n. A fter you
hit the snooze b utton for the
fourth tim e, you n o tice that
everyone is up. The kids are
arguing about who gets in the
bathroom . You need to get to
work by 8:30. One ch ild c a n ’t
fin d h er s h o e s . T he o th e r
d o e sn ’t want to eat cold c e
real. You push them out o f the
house into the car. I t ’s the first
day o f school. You ca refu lly
m aneuver through the heavy
tra f fic o f s tre s s e d p a r e n ts .
Some try to cut in line. T here
d o esn ’t seem to be m uch c o n
trol. You edge your way to the
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R T IC L E S DO NO T NEC E S S A R IL Y R E F L E C T OR R E P R E S E N T T H E V IE W S OE
Because o f advances in treat
ment and media attention focused
on the health risks of lead, there is
a new, more pubi ic awareness of the
dangers of lead poisoning in hous
ing. This awareness has resulted in
a coalition to provide information
and resources to landlords as a cru
cial player in lead abatement solu
tions.
The coalition is planning a com
prehensive seminar on lead abate
ment strategies for landlords and
property managers to be held Sep
tember 9,h at the Oregon Conven
tion Center. This seminar is further
proving that Portland is an innova
tor and model for the rest o f the
country. It is rare that regulators
and the regulated can come together
to work to address a common con
cern!
This coalition is comprised of
the Housing Authority o f Portland,
landlord associations such as
Metro Multifamily Housing Asso
ciation and the Oregon Rental Hous
ing Association, the Multnomah
County Health Department, the City
of Portland through various bureaus,
and my involvement representing
the Portland Housing Center.
To register landlords or property
managers for the Conference, call
either Metro Multifamily Housing
Association at 503/226-4533 or the
Oregon Rental Housing Associa
tion at 503/249-1728. Renters or
homeowners who have questions
about lead abatement can call the
Multnomah County Lead Poisoning
Reduction Unit at 503/248-3842, ext.
245. •
Please help get the word out so
that we can get the Lead Out Now!
Victoria Anderson
Landlord Tenant Fair Housing
Specialist
Portland Housing Center
503/282-1964
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