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The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
(Crown Publishers; 1999)
By John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver
Just as Masters and Johnson were
pioneers in the study of human sexual
ity, so Dr. John Gottman has revolution
ized the study of marriage. As a profes
sor of psychology at the University of
Washington and the founder and direc
tor of the Seattle Marital and Family
Institute, he has studied the habits of
married couples in unprecedented de
tail over the course of many years. His
findings, and his heavily attended work
shops, have already turned around
thousands of faltering marriages.
This book is the culmination of his
life’s work: the seven principles that
guide couples on the path toward a
harmonious and long-lasting relation
ship. Straightforw ard in their ap
proach, yet profound in their effect,
these principles teach partners new
and startling strategies for making
their marriage work. Gottman helps
couples focus on each other, on pay
ing attention to the small day-to-day
moments that, strung together, make
up the heart and soul of any relation-
ship. Being thoughtful about ordinary
matters provides spouses with a solid
foundation for resolving conflict when
it does occur and finding strategies for
living with those issues that cannot be
resolved.
Packed with questionnaires and
exercises whose effectiveness has been
proven in Dr. Cottm an’s workshops,
The Seven Principles for Making Mar
riage Work is the definitive guide for
anyone who wants their relationship
to attain its highest potential.
Rage at God
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P r in c ip l e s
for M aking .
M a r r ia g e
W ork
(Ant HiU Press;1998)
By Anneliese Widman, Ph.D.
M illions of people in our society
struggle with the anguish o f their
past experiences - abuse, victim iza
tion, failure - and most keep it in
side, or worse, inflict the sam e pain
on those around them. It is too aw
ful for them to believe (or even con
sciously consider) that they are com
mitting the sam e torturous behavior
that their parents did.
Dr. Annelise Widman, a NYC psycho
therapist specializing in Bioenergetics,
sh ares her unique work with
Reflectivism, or negative transference.
Based on our history with our parents,
we reflect their traits in ourselves - of
ten in rebellion with the “way things are”
or as a RAGE A T GOD. Reflectivism
helps rid one of this behavior by accept
ing the concept, then expressing their
repressed, sordid feelings. This process
will cleanse and bring one to a more bal
anced, expanded self.
Within the book:
• Learn ways to accept that you are a
reflection of your parents, and how to
utilize this information.
• Methods to change your negative en
ergy into positive energy.
• How G od is involved and is per
ceived as the “ ultimate” parent.
•W hy forgiveness plays such a large
role in this process.
The Journals - A Message from the Council of Ancients
(DaScribe;1998)
By R.T. Stone
It’s this simple but profound mes
sage, contained within the pages of
The Jou rn als - A M essage from the
Council of Ancients, that’s setting the
literary world on fire and touching
the hearts, challenging the minds and
deepening the souls of all who delve
into its pages.C ontained within the
mystical blue and gold shell of this
extraordinary novel, labeled “vision
ary fiction,” comes the surprisingly
down-to-earth story o f an average,
plain-old C in cin n ati b u sin essm an
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who would sooner walk on hot coals
than subscribe to what he calls “ that
New Age crap.” Holistic healing, a
vegetarian lifestyle, saving the envi
ronm ent, spirituality - all foreign
concepts to the main character, R.T.
Stone, who describes himself as the
“official icon of the non-believer.”
A nd what readers all across the
co u n try are d isc o v e rin g , is that
whether they are believers, non-be
lievers, or somewhere in between.
The Jo u rn als is drawing them into
its pages with its astounding insight
into their lives and the extraordinary
n ature o f the hum an experience.
Whether the novel enlightens you,
enraptures you, or enrages you, it
will encourage you to investigate the
truth behind everything you’ve ever
been taught. It will challenge you to
accept the possibility that everything
in this world, including T h e Jo u r
nals, isn't always as it seems.
A P ra c tic a l G u id e from th e C o u n try 's
F o rem o st R e la tio n sh ip E xp ert
JOHN M. GOTTMAN,
and
NAN
S IL V E R
P H .D .,