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H usband A s H ead
of the
W ife
By M att W illiam */VP Promise University
y son was once asked in the pres­
couple of the observations from my study.
ence of both my wife and
In 1 Corinthians 11:3, God’s message
myself: "Who is the head of your
through the Apostle Paul is very clear to the
home?’’ My son. only six at the time, men
really
of the home: "Now, I wan, you to real­
had to think about that question. He looked
ize that the head of every man is Christ, and
at his mother, then at me. He looked again
the head of the woman is man and the head
at his mother—and back at me. I was feel­
of Christ is God.” Pretty straight forward
ing pretty embarrassed at this point and
stuff, huh?
wanted to answer for him: "ME of course!”
Let’s change the firs, par, of the first
But I knew I had to hear his answer to see
line into a question: “Now I want you to
how I was doing in my leadership role. He
ask yourself is Christ the head of your
answered, “My daddy...and my mommy
life?" Our ultimate goal cannot be to be the
sometimes too!” How honest can you get?
best husband, father, leader, employee or
Did that mean 1 was generally louder than
good steward. Our goal must be to be all
my wife when barking out commands and
that Christ would want us to be. Because if
orders and he perceived those actions as
that’s our goal, then we will be operating
being in charge? Did his six-year-old mind
under His direction, instruction and guid­
believe that my leadership skills were better
ance and fulfilling each of those roles to
than his mommy’s because I was physical­
His glory.
ly bigger'.’ Or, did he really pick up on that
If you will allow me to paraphrase the
fact that his dad and mom both wanted to
verse this way: “If Chris, is in charge of
provide a home atmosphere that would nur­
your life, the way God controls things
ture and protect him? I really don’t know
through His Son, then you will be a tremen­
what his answer meant. However, it made
dous leader, lover, protector, guide and
me stop and think. What does it really mean
friend to your wife.”
to be the "head" of the home? Here are a
M
J ohn C. M oore
journey of having Christ as the true "head"
of our life so that we’ll be the right "head”
for our wife? Well, assuming we've already
accepted Him into our hear, as our Savior;
the next step is to get into His Word, the
Bible! We begin by accepting His Word as
the ultimate guide of our heart, mind, body
and soul.
I want to be very practical in showing
how I use God’s Word to instruct me in my
leadership role. I’ll just pick one word relat­
ing to my relationship with my wife,
LOVE. Let’s go to the Bible and look a, a
one/verse example about a husband’s love
for his wife. Eph 5:33 says; “...each one of
you also must love his wife as he loves him­
self and the wife must respect her hus-
band.”(NIV) The next step is simple. Ask
yourself the verse in question form. Do I
love my wife as I love myself? If not, pray
that God will soften your selfish hear, to
show your wife the same concern you have
for yourself. Is it easy? NO! Is it worth it?
YES! Look at the reward in the second part
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