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Divorce hardest on kids
by Lynne Phillips Werbd
(This is a reprint from Lutheran
Family Service Newsletter.)
RELIGION UPDA TE
by Dee Armstrong
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t e * oí the ettemaeonaf work of a * Church of God fe Chrtat. which * inapeed
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There are over 12 m illion children
in this country whose parents are d i
vorced, so it would seem logical to
assume that the stigma o f divorce no
longer exists for these children and
their fam ilies. A fte r a ll, it ’ s not as
though a child is stamped with a capi
tal “ D ” when his/her parents decide
to end their marriage'
U n fo rtu n a te ly, the error in the
above assumption stems from the fact
that what a child feels or experiences is
N O T always logical. The truth o f the
matter is that most children whose
parents have separated or divorced fed
very alone with their pain. Each child
feels like something terrible has hap
pened to him /her which no one else
could possibly understand, because
he/she is the only one in the w orld
whose's ever experienced it.
When divorce hits a child’s life, it’s
as if the bottom drops out. Not only
does it affect the child’s sense o f se
curity and stability, it hits at the core of
his/her being: i.e ., his/her sense o f
self. A fter all. so much o f a ch ild ’s
self-concept is based on his image of
his parents and what the child per
ceives as his parents’ image of him. D i
vorce distorts these images (at least
tem porarily) and , thus, distorts the
way the child feels about himself, just
as he’s feeling so d iffe re n tly about
his parents. Parents speaking badly
about each other in front of the child
only intensifies this, because the child
internalizes it and ends up feeling
worse about himself.
Offen a child will experience his/her
own feelings as though they were com
ing from the people around him /her.
For exam ple. " I 'm angry at my
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parents.” may be experienced by the
child as "Everybody's angry at m e,’ ’
or " I 'm feeling badly about m yself,"
gets turned in to , " N o one likes me
anymore."
A n o ther factor that affects the
child’s sense o f self in a negative way
is fee child's tendency to blame him-
seff/hersdf for the divorce Again, this
may not seem logical to an adult, but
it’s very real for children. More often
than not, a child will tell you that the
reason his/her parents divorced was
because he/she didn't do the dishes or
throw out the garbage when asked,
and somehow this "b ad " behavior by
fee child made one o f his/her parents
angry enough to leave.
All of these things can be very con
fusing for parents who are trying to
help their child deal with the emotional
aftermath o f a divorce or separation.
What makes it even harder on parents
is that often they are the last people
with whom their children w ill share
their feelings (especially when these
feelings are expenenced by the child as
"bad fedings"). After all, children see
their parents hurting so much at the
time o f a divorce that they may be
afraid to share their pain or anger for
fear of hurting the parents more Then
there’ s the fear o f punishment.
Parents need to recognize that this
is a time for them to use community
resources: teachers, school counselors,
pastors, therapists or friends.
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of that church. Mrs. Jewel Bell and
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on Sunday, June 23.
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