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THE ASTORIAN • SATURDAY, MAY 18, 2019
Person hurt over
their omission in
sister-in-law’s obit
CRV: ‘It was in the blue car that we
started off on our many family adventures’
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Dear Annie: I am in tioned in obits. Really,
my 80s and recently lost I’m their last living aunt:
my beloved sister-in-law, How do you forget to
who was 90. She mar- acknowledge that per-
ried my brother when son? How can this breach
I was just a child, and be fi xed? — Hurting in
we had been close ever Ohio
since. Aside from the
Dear Hurting in
many things I did for her, Ohio: What a remarkable
I loved her dearly as she bond you and your sister-
was the last of my ties to in-law shared. It sounds
my brothers, who
as though there are
have all passed
still some pretty
DEAR
on. So that leaves
raw feelings here,
ANNIE
me as the only one
and you might be
left. My problem
focusing on being
lies with her chil-
left out of the
dren, with whom
obituary because
I was very close.
it’s an easier pain
I told her children
to grapple with
what a wonderful
than the enormous
job they did taking ANNIE LANE pain of grief. Still,
Creators
care of their mom.
it’s not fair to hold
Syndicate Inc.
I was there during
a grudge against
her last days, but
your niece and
more importantly, I was nephews. They’re griev-
there for her after my ing, too. They just lost
brother’s death. I took her their mother.
on errands and doctors’
Regarding your wish
visits, etc. My niece and for friends to reach out to
nephews always tell me you: I encourage you to
how much they love me, reach out to them to seek
and the feeling is mutual. the healing you need.
But when the obit for
Remember, the fact
my sister-in-law came that your name wasn’t
out, I was shocked to fi nd mentioned in her obituary
that they never acknowl- doesn’t erase the imprint
edged me as a survi- you left on each other.
vor. I was devastated. It I’m so sorry for your loss.
hurt me so much to think
Dear Annie: Recently,
they forgot to mention I excused myself at a
me. It would have meant restaurant to use the
so much, as a lot of my restroom. When I arrived,
friends didn’t know my another man was leav-
former last name (the ing the stall. I went in,
surname I shared with only to be “greeted” by
my sister-in-law), and so the fact that he walked
none of them knew that away without fl ushing. I
I, too, was in mourning. didn’t call him out on it,
Even though they apol- but felt like it. Why are
ogized for the error of some people so disgust-
omitting me, I just can’t ingly lazy? — Dismayed
seem to get over it. This in North Carolina
is eating at me all the
Dear Dismayed: Well,
time. I really do love that sounds like quite an
them, but am I deluding awful greeting. What a
myself? Did I think I was slob! To all my readers:
more important to them Please fl ush the toilet. It
than I really was? I was only takes a second and
told by one of them that could save someone from
they didn’t think a sister- having to walk into a dis-
in-law was usually men- gusting mess.
Changes
Change is such a over-
whelming experience in our
lives, the few constants can
take on weighted meaning.
So much has changed
since 2001.
When Lindsay was born I
worked at home as a writer,
but soon after I went back to
school to become a nurse.
The blue CRV took me
through many a snowstorm
to arrive at school and work
in Longview and brought
me safe at home again.
Yet most of the time it
was the family car.
Lindsay and her younger
sister, Grace, attended the
Astoria School of Ballet
for years, and the little blue
CRV was my wife’s reliable
transport across the river
and back late at night. It
was in the blue car that we
started off on our many fam-
ily adventures — sledding
on Mt. Hood and huckle-
berry picking on Mt. Adams.
In the great Hanuk-
kah Eve Storm of 2006, it
got caught in rapidly rising
fl ood waters before I could
pull it out of my garage.
We dried it out and it was
not much worse for wear.
It was stolen in 2012 from
the street outside the hospi-
tal in Longview, while I was
working. I came out after
my night shift to fi nd an
empty parking spot where
it had been. It was such a
humble and unassuming car
that I couldn’t believe any-
one would steal it.
Miraculously, it was
recovered by police in Van-
couver just before it got
chopped up for parts.
When I gave Lindsay
her fi rst driving lesson in
the Rosburg School parking
lot, it was in the CRV that
we had bought just after she
was born. I sat in the passen-
ger seat giving her instruc-
tions, while glancing back-
ward, thinking about the car
seat that used to always be
strapped in the back.
Lindsay Hunt has found a new creative energy with the amazing Ilwaco Jazz Band.
When she got her license,
the blue CRV became “her”
car. She put a hula guy on
the dashboard and drove off
to school with her younger
sister and our exchange stu-
dent riding along. I trusted
her with this responsibility
somehow. It wasn’t the car
— with its all wheel drive
and its airbags and antilock
brakes — but the girl driv-
ing it.
At the start of her senior
year, Lindsay came back
from one of her many trips
across the state as part of
her student leadership activ-
ities renewed with ambi-
tion. She wanted to take
jazz band in Ilwaco. Naselle
High School didn’t offer
jazz band and she was want-
ing to challenge herself and
grow as a saxaphone player,
to try something new.
I was skeptical. The class
started at 7 a.m., and that
become the symbol of Lind-
say’s ambition and inde-
pendence for me, as well
as her reliability. She even
checks the oil — because at
313,000 miles, it does burn
a little. The back hatch is
stuck shut and the air condi-
tioner doesn’t work, but the
plucky little thing just keeps
on running.
In the fall, Lindsay will
be off to Washington State
University and will leave
the little blue CRV at home
— parking fees on cam-
pus are almost as much as
tuition.
That will work out fi ne,
because her younger sister
starts driving lessons soon.
Ed Hunt is a writer and
registered nurse who blogs
on medical issues at redtri-
age.com and on other sub-
jects at theebbtide.blog-
spot.com. He lives in Grays
River, Washington.
meant she’d need to leave
the house by 6 a.m. every
weekday morning for the
long drive. Most teenagers
like to sleep in and I didn’t
think this adventure would
last. Instead, she unerringly
wakes before anyone else
in the house and gets her-
self out the door before the
sunrise.
The rewards for that
effort have been enormous,
she’s made new friends,
grown as a musician, per-
forms amazing solos during
the band’s performances.
She also takes advantage
of the Grays Harbor Col-
lege facilities in Ilwaco for
her Running Start college
classes. Her senior year and
she is technically attending
classes at two high schools
— Ilwaco and Naselle
— while earning college
credits.
The blue CRV has
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