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B2 THE ASTORIAN • TuESdAy, MAy 7, 2019 My life is miserable at home Dear Annie: I’ve been What do you think? Is there married for 32 years, but my any way out of this night- wife and I have never made mare? — Stuck Dear Stuck: Failure a great pair. We now have two grown children and a is an orphan, even in rela- well-established life in the tionships. I’d ask for you to look for your local community. I DEAR part in this. While find great fulfillment ANNIE I don’t know in my work and my exactly what you hobbies, but our mean by “(she) home life is misera- ble — for me, for my makes us all mis- erable,” it doesn’t wife and for my chil- dren. I’ve thought sound totally fair. about divorce, of Perhaps your wife course, but my wife ANNIE LANE is struggling with Creators wouldn’t be able untreated men- Syndicate Inc. tal health issues; to support herself it’s hard for me to financially, so I’d need to send her payments, guess at what’s going on I’m sure. How do I bal- without knowing the specif- ance my needs with hers? ics. Regardless, my advice We vowed “for better or for to you is to give marriage worse,” but she has been counseling a sincere try. It’s a negligent wife, refusing the least you can do for your to help support the fam- marriage, yourself, your ily when we’ve been at our wife and your children. breaking point. I’m so torn. Dear Annie: My daugh- I don’t want to break her ter is getting married in two heart or put her in a finan- weeks and I have been bat- cially and emotionally pre- tling pneumonia for more carious situation, but I also than six weeks. I’m being know I’m setting a terrible heavily medicated, so I example for my children by am hoping to feel well by staying with someone who the time of the wedding. I makes us all miserable. have been told by my doc- tor and several medical friends that I can’t get close to people or it could really set me back. There will be family and friends attend- ing that I would want to hug and be close with. Pho- tos alone keep people pretty close together. I’m at a complete loss as to how to handle this. — Anxiously Recovering Dear Anxiously Recov- ering: While I understand your desire to embrace and be close with all the friends and family that will be at the wedding, you should heed your doctor’s advice and try to keep a safe distance. Let your family know the situation ahead of time and ask that they avoid giving you hugs, as it will be easy to forget in the moment. As for photography, talk to the photographer about poses that won’t require your being cheek-to-cheek with anyone. Congratulations on your daughter’s wedding. Know that even if pneumo- nia means your experience of her big day isn’t exactly how you always envisioned it, it will still be wonderful. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE (MAY 8) By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Successful move of the day: Give your energy to those who give back. And even though it’s not always possible or advis- able to love only those who love you, etc., today it’s your ticket to heart-happiness. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Even though you may feel clueless as to what is your next move, your intention to avoid trouble and steer yourself in a healthful and supportive direction will lead you into becoming who you want to be. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll be put in a position today. Make it easy for present-you by saying yes. Make it easy for future-you by saying no. The second way is better, causing you less stress overall, but of course, it’s harder. CANCER (June 22-July 22). When you’re doing something for the first time, it seems to take a lot longer. The novelty changes your perception of time and makes moments stretch. Break the routine. Variety is a must for a memorable life. motivation to dig in and try harder for the answer. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Everyone judges. “No judgment but...” is one way judgy sentences can start. If you find yourself judging, even if it’s only mentally, then add an “or not” to the end of what you were thinking. Because the opposite idea may be just as true. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). An unhelpful idea that’s been engrained in you since you were small will be tricky to free yourself from, but that’s exactly what you need to do to move to a lighter mode of being. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The different kinds of inspiration will compound. Intellectual inspiration will ignite physical exuberance; social inspiration will effervesce into spiritual joy. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). For a conflict to resolve, one person has to soften in the name of resolution. That person is automatically the big- ger person, as it takes a great spirit to be humble. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There are a lot of things that mistakenly pass for gratitude. Manners, hu- mility, deference — they’re all fine and well, but they are not gratitude. Gratitude is a type of joy. If it doesn’t feel joyful, then it’s not really gratitude. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your learning pro- cess can be very mysterious. Maybe it feels like nothing is clicking in, but keep exposing yourself to the material you want to absorb. When it does click in, it will be sudden and magical. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Get into the kind of relationships you can handle. You know what you have time for and what you don’t. You know what feels easy and what seems right but somehow isn’t quite. Trust yourself. WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (May 8). Though you don’t make finding love, joy and fun your priority, these qualities will be abundantly present this trip around the sun. It’s like a new part of your being is activated. You’ll find yourself interested in things you wouldn’t have suspected you would be. Different teachers show up in the form of friends and a boss. Scorpio and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 20, 14, 44 and 32. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have a problem. Other people have the same problem. If you can solve it for you, you can solve it for the others, too. Knowing it’s bigger than you will give you FRANK AND ERNEST THATABABY PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN LOLA SIX CHIX MUTTS BABY BLUES ZITS
