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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THuRSDAY, FEbRuARY 28, 2019
Wedding No. 3 is too much
Dear Annie: Our beau- a small party to celebrate
tiful 44-year-old daughter down the road.
is making plans to be mar-
We’re not sure whether
ried for the third time. Her to broach the subject and
first wedding was over- give her our opinion or to
the-top and cost us a for- leave it alone. Her father
tune. Her second
and I would be
DEAR
wedding was also
financially unable
ANNIE
expensive, held at
to attend the des-
tination wedding.
a private home. We
— Mother of the
helped her pay for
bride, Times 3
that wedding, as
Dear Mother
well. She is now
of the Bride: For
planning her third,
everyone’s sake,
which she says will
be a destination ANNIE LANE I certainly hope
Creators
that the third
wedding. The des-
Syndicate Inc.
tination she chose is
time’s a charm
across the country
and that your
in a very expensive area.
daughter found her Prince
Between the two of Charming.
them, they have five chil-
Though she will always
dren. They make a good be your daughter, she is
income but not enough for still a 44-year-old adult
this not to be a burden to who is capable of mak-
ing her own decisions. If
them financially.
My husband and I feel she and her fiancé want
that because their friends to have a destination wed-
and family have now ding, then by all means,
attended two weddings let them do so. The fact
and given two gifts, this that her friends and family
would be too much. We have attended two wed-
wish she would have a dings might make it more
very low-key local wed- challenging for them to
ding with just her imme- have many people attend,
diate family and then have but maybe they want it
that way.
All that being said, I
think you need to sit down
and talk to your daugh-
ter — not to tell her what
you think her wedding
should be like but rather to
tell her you and her father
would be unable to attend
because of the financial
burden. Once she has this
knowledge from you, it
will be up to her to decide
whether she wants to
either pay for your travel
expenses or have her par-
ents not attend her wed-
ding. By pointing this out,
you may make her realize
that it might be a financial
burden to others, as well.
In the end, it’s her party.
You can always share your
wisdom and advice with
your grown children, but
you can’t always expect
them to listen.
Dear Annie: Recently,
you printed a letter from
“Bashful,” who was frus-
trated that her face flushes
so easily when embar-
rassed.
My suggestion
would be that she work on
becoming a better speaker.
— Ann K.
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The most frustrating
thing is when something doesn’t quite work right,
but it doesn’t work wrong enough to warrant the
cost of repair or replacement. Hold on. What you’re
dealing with isn’t broken, just temporarily wonky.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your ambition is high
gear, but the question that keeps coming up is: At
what cost? The biggest clue will come from observing
the people around you. What’s it costing them?
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your prize for doing
everything right may be simply that you get to keep
doing it. Is it worth it? Doing a thing differently to
satisfy your own curiosity will be lucky for you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You do have
an overactive inner critic; it’s true. But your inner
ambassador also has a lot of energy, as does your
inner cheerleader. Pit them against one another if
necessary — whatever it takes to do your best work.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). No need to agonize
about your choices today because there won’t be any
wrong paths, just paths that get there a little sooner,
or paths that don’t get “there” at all but go some-
where delightful nonetheless. Enjoy.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re still sorting
something out — your feelings, your involvement in
a process, what you are and are not willing to do. You
don’t have to decide all of this in a day and anyone
pressuring you has an agenda. Factor that in, too.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). When you please that
one certain person, the rest goes better. Maybe this
person has too much power. Or it could be that this
is just what works for both of you. The good news is
that this person will be easy to please today.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). One pop song sug-
gests that “it’s too late to apologize ...” and yet it never
really is. The apology may not hold any sway, but if it’s
sincere, it shouldn’t come with such contingencies in
the first place.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The prize may seem just out
of reach, and as uncomfortable as this is, it’s a great
sign. One leap, shove or gust of wind is all it will take
to bring this to hand, so keep that hand outstretched.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). To impact the world,
one must first impact the personal. It sounds big, but
it’s accomplished in all the small actions you take to
assume responsibility for yourself and your surround-
ings. Give yourself credit for this.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There are things you’re
experiencing that can’t be described in words be-
cause words are inadequate. And yet, there are parts
that can be described, and when you try to do this,
you’ll gain new insights and understanding.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Sweet afterthoughts,
door prizes, party favors — the add-ons do make a
difference. And while the novice finds them frivolous,
the seasoned expert has counted them as part of the
package all along and made it into a surprise.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 1). This year fea-
tures the warrior in you — the part of you willing to
work up the courage take on your fears and obstacles
and to fight for those who need you. You’ll have a
breakthrough in your work that connects you with
people you never thought you’d know. Beauty in your
home life has to do with far-off influences. Aquarius
and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7,
30, 1, 11 and 45.