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A6 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JANuARY 14, 2019 Grandma wants to help Dear Annie: I have two with a girl’s bedroom set! — grandchildren, ages 11 and 7, Worried Grandma Dear Worried Grandma: and I am worried about them. I am trying to persuade my Instead of focusing on all that daughter to clean up their bed- your daughter is doing wrong with her children, rooms. As an aside, DEAR try to see what she is they need new bed- ANNIE doing right. Remem- room sets. My grand- ber, she is recently son still has my girl’s divorced and needs bedroom set, and my support, not criti- granddaughter refuses cism. She is going to sleep in hers, saying through a great deal. it is uncomfortable. Instead of telling her I just do not know what to do, as I want ANNIE LANE how messy her kids’ Creators rooms are or that her to help her yet cannot Syndicate Inc. son has a girl’s bed, get anywhere with her. take action. Just clean Sometimes they sleep downstairs on the floor and are the room yourself and ask the up late at night. I don’t know kids whether they want to help whether they are getting proper out. They probably will — if not at first, eventually. Make it rest. My daughter is recently fun, and consider buying a new divorced, and her ex makes bed or painting your son’s bed a over $100,000 per year. Should different color. People respond much bet- I interfere and try to do some- thing? I feel for these kids. ter to positive actions than The rooms are a mess, with complaints. Dear Annie: I can relate to clothes all over the place, and other rooms in the house are a the situation described by “Are mess, too. I offer to help, but Obituaries Over?” — the per- my daughter does not want son whose friend was upset my help, which makes me when his son’s wife didn’t put feel powerless. What can I do? an obituary in the newspaper. Please help! My grandson is 11 My dad died four years ago. My brother was responsible for handling notification paper- work, and he refused to put an obituary in the newspaper. He said people “don’t read the newspaper anymore.” Because family tension was already on the rise, I didn’t raise a stink. I always felt he was wrong, because our dad had grown up in the area and lived there all his life. Also, my parents had moved from a neighborhood of close friends, and I think those people would have liked to have known about Dad’s death. Also, he worked at the same company for 39 years. There are many avenues from which people come into our lives. Not everyone is on social media, and many of those who aren’t would still like to know about a death. Remember, too, that peo- ple read newspapers online and might see the digital obituary. Don’t deny people an oppor- tunity to acknowledge one’s passing simply because of lazi- ness or inconvenience. You will be glad people thought enough about your loved one to offer condolences or even attend the funeral. — Been There and Wish I’d Spoken up TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Clones are now scientifically possible, but it’s your experiences, not your DNA, that’s made you amazing. The cool way you handle today’s challenge couldn’t possibly be accomplished by anyone else, not even your clone. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Something in your envi- ronment is changing in a way you can neither ignore nor stop. The ego wants to fight this. That’s natural. But acceptance is going to happen sooner or later. Sooner would keep you from wasting your effort. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The simple logic sug- gests that if you can solve a problem, there’s no need to worry; if you can’t, the same. But worry still serves a purpose. Wasn’t it the first indicator that you had a problem? Thank your worries. They’re only trying to help. ly, it’s not a cynical question, just a realistic one. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Are you excelling be- cause you’re working hard or are you working hard because you’re excelling? The point is that it’s really coming together, so enjoy this exhilarating part of the ride. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You have ideals, and you really might embody them at some point, but you don’t have to in order to be worthy of love and acceptance. Use them like the ship captain uses the stars — as guides to orient the map. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Having someone you can rely on is a pretty big deal right now. Just knowing that there’s someone who’s invested in your success and well-being will reduce your overall stress and anxiety. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’re very generous when you want to be. And when you don’t want to be, there’s a good reason, though perhaps it’s an unconscious one. If you dare to investigate it, you’ll learn something new about yourself. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). One game strategy is to pick an arena that doesn’t have too much in the way of competition to increase your odds of winning. It’s a good way to gain experience and competence until you’re ready to go to the next level. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Remember when you went to a function and got cornered into listening to an unsolicited advice monologue that there was seem- ingly no end to or exit from? You learned from that so today you’ll know what to avoid. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Rejoice in the discovery of your own mistakes. It’s what scientists and scholars do; it’s what lifelong learners and those committed to excellence do. It’s the secret to growing quickly. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When you share with someone you love, it doesn’t feel like giving. It’s natu- ral and effortless. The energy comes back to you and you seem to have more than you started with. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). As you’re not a cynical person, sometimes you don’t think to stop and ask, “What is this person getting out of the situation?” But that’s something to inquire about today. And, actual- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 15). Goodwill radiates from you, and good fortune flows to you. Though you’re not trying to become famous, you’ll be “discovered” in some way, maybe in the form of a contract or an inspired relationship. Other highlights: scoring big tickets for an unforgettable event and a heartfelt moment straight out of your fondest dreams. Cancer and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 33, 28 and 1.