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A5 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, DEcEMbER 17, 2018 Untrustworthy fiance Dear Annie: I got want to discuss a budget for engaged in June 2017. My the wedding. Should I go fiance and I are planning on with the wedding or just the wedding for next year, cancel and let it be? — con- in November 2019. But I’m fused About Life Dear Confused having some doubts DEAR About Life: Cheat- about my fiance. He ANNIE ers are always quick does not trust me. He to accuse others of keeps accusing me of cheating. He’s most having another boy- friend. He does not likely paranoid that want me to be friends you have a boy- friend because he with anyone, male has a girlfriend. or female. I have a close friend whom ANNIE LANE Even if not, all the Creators other behavior you he says he hates Syndicate Inc. mentioned is rea- intensely, and he tells son enough to call me repeatedly that he does not like the friend- off the wedding. The way ship. I asked this friend to be he’s attempted to isolate you my bridesmaid, and he has a from your friends is deeply serious problem with that. troubling and could be a sign When problems arise or of emotional abuse. (You can he has issues with me, he call The National Domes- does not tell me to my face; tic Violence Hotline to learn he goes and tells my cousin more about this or just to talk every time, and she will tell to someone about your situ- me. He’s also been sending ation: 800-799-7233.) It’s flirty messages to this cous- not easy getting out of bad in’s friend. I suspect he is relationships, but it’s even having an affair with her. He harder staying in them. is not taking an active role in Dear Annie: Speaking the wedding planning pro- up is hard for me. Mean-spir- cess. He has not given me ited people have taught me his guest list; he doesn’t that my opinions don’t mat- ter as much as others’. This is causing problems for me in the workplace. I’m giving 110 percent at my job, but I’m not making my voice heard as much as I should be. Getting past my timid- ity is even harder in a pro- fessional setting, as I often feel overwhelmed by the pressure to perform — as if there are always eyes on me. How can I overcome my learned shyness?. — Shy but Striving Dear Shy but Striving: Shyness can inhibit your career growth, so it’s good you’re striving to overcome it. First, know that feeling that there are always eyes on you is just that — a feeling. In the workplace as in life in general, most people are too consumed with their own image to pay too close atten- tion to others’. I don’t mean that your supervisors won’t notice your performance at work; I’m more talking about such things as getting tongue-tied while trying to speak at a meeting. No one other than you is going to be thinking about it that night. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re not asking much out of this day, but you would like to know that you’ve made a difference in the experience of others. You’ll get the feedback you desire. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There was a time when it took extra energy to be thoughtful and considerate. But that was long ago, when you were still learning how you wanted to operate in the world. Now it takes no energy. It’s just who you are. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You pay attention to the tone of interactions and try to raise the energy level, if only just a little so that you’re always leaving people in a better mood than they were in when you started. CANCER (June 22-July 22). While it may feel like you’re giving more love and attention to some- one than you’re getting back, that’s only if you’re capping off the count at the end of the day. Extend the deadline. This has potential to be a long relationship. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There are more moving parts today but don’t let it overwhelm you. The only moving part you need to concern yourself with is your own, and you can trust that it will connect beautifully where it’s supposed to. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People respect your power because you use it quietly, applying influence only where you really think it is neces- sary, and where it will do the most good for the situation. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The third eye is the one that sees what’s really important. But it’s vision can vary in accuracy, which is why it will be interesting to write down your predictions so you can look FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE back later and track what you got right. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Sure, you have your preferences — certain people you care to be around more than others — but you see things to love in many people around you today. Do you think it’s possible to love everyone? SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your mind doesn’t always fire off thoughts that create the neural pathways to feeling good, but luckily today you can take hold of the situation and feed it what it needs to get some favorable chemistry going. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Doing what you don’t want to do because you feel you should is the most direct route to wasted time. Your best bet is to either figure out a better reason to follow through, or bail fast. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Don’t worry about success or winning or anything along the lines of gaining approval. The only approval you need now is your own. Honest contemplation is in store. Can you still stand behind your choice? PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Mostly, things are going in your favor, and will continue to do so, as you show more enthusiasm for your good fortune, however small it may seem. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 18). You never stop educating yourself this year, and you become freer with every hour of study. Knowing how things work — emotionally, spiritually, practical- ly — gives you advantages you’ll use time and again. Major fun at the start of 2019 happens because you dare to do things different from your predecessors. Leo and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 20, 14, 4 and 32.
