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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 30, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Finding affordable therapy Dear Annie: I want to do have a specific problem that therapy, but I don’t think I can you are dealing with, you could afford it right now. I’ve done a ask the psychiatry department few sessions in the past, but I for recommendations to help don’t want to keep hopping from you with your issue. Instead of doctor to doctor; I want to find online groups, you could also try someone I vibe well with and to find group meetings with peo- ple who are facing chal- stick with that person. DEAR lenges that are similar to So, my problem is this: yours. Keep trying and a How do I afford a good ANNIE solution will appear. therapist? In my experience, the Dear Annie: Your cheaper therapists aren’t response to “Holding the as good at their jobs (or Chair Down,” the gen- tleman who recently lost at least haven’t worked his mother and is find- for me). I know there are ing himself depressed lots of online counseling Lane and uninterested in his options, but they don’t Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. old hobbies, may have feel as effective as meet- ing with someone in per- missed something. He son. I figure I’ll just have to see mentioned that he no longer has which therapists have availabil- many friends whom he keeps in ity and take my insurance, but touch with, and you said that his I’m hoping there’s some way old interests and friendships will to make that process easier. — come back in time. Thinking of Therapy It may be that the loss of Dear Thinking of Therapy: his mother has affected him Your decision to have face-to- more profoundly. Caring for face therapy is a great one. If his mother may have filled his you live near a medical school, retirement and given him mean- you should check to see whether ing that he is now looking for. It it offers counseling from stu- may be that his old solitary hob- dent residents and interns. Many bies do not give him the social medical schools offer such ser- interactions he needs. I would vices at reduced rates. If you suggest that he make an effort to find a couple of places where he could volunteer his time in the company of other people. He also could take some classes in new subjects. Political parties always need help at the polls, and he might find like-minded souls that way. He could volun- teer at his house of worship. And are there local libraries that need someone to volunteer time with student groups? Are there tutor- ing or literacy groups he could help? Maybe he could volunteer at a hospital. Maybe he could teach a continuing education course in car repair or assist in an ongoing course. He could try dance lessons; many clubs are always looking for men willing to learn. He should try to do some- thing soon, and he should make a commitment to himself to stick it out for at least three months before quitting. There are many places where he could make new friends and feel useful again. I wish him success and happiness. — Esther Dear Esther: Thank you so much for your wonderful sug- gestions. I think “Holding the Chair Down” will appreciate them, too. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Happiness gives you so much, including improved health, vitality and self-control. So it really is powerful to know and gravitate toward happiness and all of its fortifications. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). While you like a good mystery, you also note that there’s a differ- ence between a mystery and a vat of confusion. Mysteries have elegance and the potential to stretch out and be known. Vats of confusion are more like garbage. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are those who are happy to take whatever personal power and resources you hand over. Don’t! Remember that you are equally entitled to living a good life as anyone you may be employed by or obligat- ed to serve. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be in a position to create a system of doing things. It starts with you figuring things out for yourself, and soon you’ll realize that there are others who need to know, too. That’s when things get clearer. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). As you’ve already done a certain kind of work, you can appreciate what it takes for another person to do the same job. It changes how you interact and increases the amount of respect flowing through your scene. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Humor is a shortcut to connection. To make a person honestly laugh, or even just smile a little, is to skip 10 steps toward rapport. But it’s a risk, because eliciting a false laugh or causing an offense is 10 steps away from rapport. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s a strange day when you actually sustain a high level of productivity by doing very little. This has to do with knowing when to be quiet and when to let FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE people fill in the blanks and do the work they want to do. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The conflict is a part of life and life could not be without it. But the level of engagement will be up to you. If you steer away from dramatic situations, you’ll still have enough conflict to keep things interesting. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve been touched by the efforts of people you don’t know, but you don’t have to have a personal interaction to derive meaning and to get real value from someone’s work. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Redundancies are fine when you’re learning something or when you must double-check things for safety reasons. But unnecessary redundancies are boring and cumbersome. You’ll get rid of some- thing like this today. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You will learn so much about people by observing what they default to, do by accident or talk about when there’s not much else going on. You’re “people,” too, of course. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The robin’s song may sound sweet to us and to other robins, but it’s not even close to the sort of honk that a goose prefers. Whatever your “song” today, there’s someone out there who will appreciate it over the others. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 1). Each solar return you become wiser, more loving and more powerful. Some years this happens in a natural, easy flow. This year, it’s more of a rocket ride where you get out in an entirely different world from the one you started in. Also featured: a key aesthetic choice, a memorable celebration and a career twist. Cancer and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 13, 25, 1 and 11.
