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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 26, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE She has feelings for husband’s ex Dear Annie: I have a tricky not sure what brought it on, but she problem going on right now. I am is a great person, and maybe I’ve married and have been for a while just started to realize that. I’m even — 20-plus years. dreaming about her at night. It’s been a typical marriage, I have had same-sex feel- with its ups and downs, but I’d say ings off and on my whole life and I’ve been fairly content and things was in a brief relationship with a have been pretty good. woman before I met my DEAR Right now, I would say husband. It was quick but I am in the middle of my intense. ANNIE life, so this issue could When I met my hus- band, I only had eyes for very well be a midlife him, so I didn’t think any- crisis. thing more about women I have a great relation- ship with my husband’s until now. ex-wife. We have always I am sure I should gotten along famously. probably talk to a thera- Lane Lately, I have been Annie pist because this can’t be Creators Syndicate Inc. having strong feelings normal. I’ve tried every- thing to stop the thoughts, for her that I shouldn’t be but they just seem to be getting having. I have four stepchildren, and stronger. there is always some function or I don’t want to be con- get-together with all of us. We sumed with this any longer. typically have a wonderful time My husband and stepchildren would together. I find myself thinking be shocked to know about this, but about her all the time when I’m not I am very good at hiding my feel- ings and would never say a word around her. I know that nothing can to them. I wonder, though, whether come of these feelings, and it any of my feelings show when I am seems ridiculous to me, but around the family. I’m open to any I can’t seem to stop them. suggestions you might have. — I never felt this way in the early Pining Away Day After Day Dear Pining Away: Before de- days of my marriage. It started a few years ago. I’m ciding whether to act on your feel- ings, you should talk to a therapist, as you acknowledged in your letter. Developing strong feelings for another person could be a sign that there is a lack of intimacy in your own marriage. If that’s the case, then the next person you should talk to is your husband. The type of uncontrollable thoughts you have could also be a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder. The way around them is through them. The more you resist intrusive thoughts the more they come. That which we resist per- sists. You sound pretty calm, con- sidering the catastrophic potential of your acting on your feelings, and you will know so much more and be ready to act — one way or the other — after you have talked this through with a professional. Dear Annie: A while ago, the issue of noisy children in restau- rants was discussed in your col- umn. You have yet to discuss the more ubiquitous problem of noisy adults in restaurants. — David B. Dear David: I have no solution to your problem, unfortunately, but thank you for the chuckle. Here’s to remembering to use our indoor voices more often, no matter how excited we are to be out to lunch with friends. 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). When people mean well but don’t make the impact they hope to, it’s usually a function of misread- ing the situation or simply not knowing enough about it. The best move you can make now is to sit tight and learn all you can. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). In nature, the bull goes with the herd; it suits the bull and it suits the herd. But if it doesn’t suit the bull, the bull leaves. Be the same. Only stick with the herd if it is what’s in your heart. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There you go again, moving forward as if unafraid. What the onlookers don’t know is your internal dialogue and how you quiver inside your boots. And that’s what makes you truly brave. You feel the fear and do it anyway. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Public speak- ing is easier for some than others. There will be shy ones who aren’t sure if it’s worth the trouble to stand and be counted. You’ve felt like that in the past, which is why you’ll be a most encouraging presence. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There are some decisions you’ll make that you’ll never really know the consequences of. That’s why today it will be most satisfying to get evidence that a choice you made long ago was the right one. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Bringing peo- ple together will be your specialty today, though you may not be consciously aware that it’s what you’re doing. Your inclusive- ness starts a ripple of happy effects. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). What you see is not only what you get; it’s what you’ll keep getting. So if you don’t like it, make a quick change. It will be way easier to set things FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE on track in the early stages of an arrange- ment. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The best ones to spend time with today will fall into one of two categories. Either they are peo- ple you’re sure to have fun with, or they are people who genuinely need you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). For some, loneliness is a palpable problem, an actual chill that your fire sign energy can thaw with the stretch of a smile. Don’t underestimate the good a little warmth and kindness can do. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). They’re better because of you, and this much they’ll tell you. Nothing could be more soul-fortify- ing than knowing you improved the lives of those closest to you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People make mistakes, but people are not their mistakes. For learning purposes, separate the person from the deed. Examine each factor separately and then reassemble and reconsider. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Before you leave the house, or go into any dealings at all, consciously set an expectation for what’s to come. In doing so, you’ll take a more assertive, conscious role and get clearer outcomes as a result. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 27). This solar return, you ride in on a bubble of freedom and then bounce along for months working your advantages. The hard work begins in February. But don’t worry; this will actually be your favorite part of the year. You’ll see what you’re made of and be ion- ically bonded to colleagues in the process. Capricorn and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 33, 31, 29 and 16.
