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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 29, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE You get no reference from me Dear Annie: A couple of years comfortable serving as a reference. ago, when I was starting a busi- I’d hate for anyone else to be put in ness, a friend put me in touch with the same situation I was in. How do her friend “Margaret,” who had just I handle this? — Not Impressed started her own boutique marketing Dear Not Impressed: You’re and public relations firm. I ended already doing her a kindness by not up hiring Margaret to help promote saying yes and telling her would-be my new business. She client the truth. So don’t was going to pitch articles worry about being rude. DEAR about it to a few local pub- Tell Margaret that you ANNIE lications (she was a part- don’t feel comfortable time freelance writer), as serving as a reference, and well as some blogs, and she leave it at that. She may agreed to write copy for my ask you what she could website. All in all, I ended have done differently to up paying her a few thou- better serve your needs. Be sand dollars yet really had honest. If she ever wants nothing to show for it. She Annie Lane to succeed in marketing, Creators never got any press for the she should value customer Syndicate Inc. business. She wrote a few feedback. hundred words of copy for my site. Dear Annie: I have never writ- And she posted about the business ten to a column such as yours, but on her own blog. I was disappointed the letter from “Tormented and Dis- but didn’t want to bother confront- tressed” — a high school senior ing her about it. My business was who wrote in about past sexual doing well enough. I just decided I abuse and her fear of male medi- cal professionals — changed every- wouldn’t work with her anymore. Well, recently I got an email thing. I am a retired critical care from Margaret. She wants to know nurse, and what she describes about whether she can use me as a ref- alleged male nurses is both horrify- erence for a potential client. I was ing and not typical of the wonderful pretty incredulous that she’d ask me professionals I know. I am so sorry about what hap- for a reference after doing such a half-baked job for me. I don’t want pened to her at the hands of her to be rude, but I really don’t feel mother’s boyfriend. “Tormented and Distressed” needs to address her fears about male medical pro- fessionals, because her own life may depend on it. We never know when a medical emergency will occur involving us. It may be a car crash. It may be an unexpected ill- ness or allergic reaction. It may be nothing but a fall that results in an injury requiring emergency care. But the last thing one needs in any medical emergency is paranoia about the sex of the person or peo- ple caring for you. If you refuse care from a male doctor or nurse, he has to honor this, but your life may be in danger while waiting for a woman to care for you. I empathize with “Tormented and Distressed.” I was also terrified about having a male medical pro- fessional touching me — with my first breast exam, my first pelvic exam, etc. — but she will get past this. Most importantly, she needs to get past it before putting her own life in danger. — Been There, Too Dear Been There, Too: You make a great point. This is yet another reason it’s important for “Tormented and Distressed” to seek help in processing her past abuse. Thank you for sharing your professional insight and personal empathy. 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Someone who has come to your emotional rescue in the past is now in need of a little attention. This won’t be a “rescue” per se; rather, it will be the sort of nice acknowledgment that keeps a rescue situation at bay. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You can’t exactly control everything you think. Your mind is like a great dragon, far more powerful than you, but you can ride on its back and steer it. It’s likely to go where you tell it to. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll be attracted to the people who can do little things right, correctly assuming that this is a sign that they might do their best to get the big things right, too. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be in the support position today, and the role will come as a nice break to you. “We can’t all be heroes, because somebody has to sit on the curb and clap when they go by.” — Will Rogers LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Look at the facts, references and all the evidence you can find, but don’t base your decision solely on these things. Let your gut feeling weigh in. Evidence can be falsified. Your gut is less likely to be fooled than your mind. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You hear yourself differently depending on whom you talk to. That’s why it’s important to talk to many different types of people. People with different status levels, skills and cultures will help you understand. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). A core of self-ap- preciation will help you improve quickly. When you know, at a very basic level, that you’re OK, you won’t be defensive in the face of feedback. You’ll take every note and build from it. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Brilliant interac- tions are often less interactive. More contact means more tangles. Believe in people’s abili- ties to solve their own problems, and let them know you’re there to back them up if needed. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). All results will be the results of action. The one who takes action gets to change the landscape, define the story — indeed, to be the star of it. Even passivity can be active, with the right level of awareness. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Small things matter, but petty things don’t. It’s not the size that makes things trivial; it’s the significance. Pay attention and you will understand the difference and avoid mixing into anything that would reduce you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re inclined toward the big questions today, although this will be displayed in a very down-to-earth way. The big questions can be answered with simple acts of cleanliness, organization and kindness. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You may make an innocuous and breezy comment, but others won’t hear it that way. Some consider you the official word from above. Your position gives your words weight. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 30). There is something inside you that’s as luminous as anything on the planet has ever been. Clear away anything that shades this secret. Go where people see you, and use your talents. The respect you’ve shown the authority figures in your life will pave the way for many lucrative opportunities in 2019. Pisces and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 2, 33, 38, 4 and 18.
