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About The daily Astorian. (Astoria, Or.) 1961-current | View Entire Issue (Aug. 21, 2018)
6A FEATURES A friend who flaunts and mocks Dear Annie: I have been try- old my car is, which we have ing to decipher my recent bad to take whenever we go out to feelings toward a friend who is save hers. My question is: Am much wealthier than I am. We I merely jealous, or is there have known each other for a something to how I feel? I feel decade. Whereas she has been violated by her insensitivity. — married to the same man for Less Than over 30 years, I was usu- Dear Less Than: DEAR ally a single mother. Our A friend doesn’t boast daughters are about the about how great her ANNIE same age, and we have financial situation is the same jobs and make while mocking the con- dition of your car. At the same income. We the same time, a friend also were both raised in usually wants to see fun abusive homes. Here the photos of a nice fam- commonality ends. ily vacation. Sharing I have been poor all Lane my life and have prior- Annie those photos and wav- Creators Syndicate Inc. ing a hamburger in front ities besides money and of a homeless person are bank accounts. She has a husband who makes engi- two very different things. Con- neering wages, and they go on sidering that you couldn’t care vacation every year. When she less about her photos and she is returns, she plasters the atmo- making rude comments about sphere in front of my face with your car, this does not sound photos of her latest excursion, like a friendship at all. But the and to be honest, I cannot relate fact that you are writing to me and could not care less. I don’t leads me to believe that you flash photos of burgers in front really like her. Instead of bot- of a homeless person to show tling everything in, why not what I had for lunch, which tell your friend how you feel? is what I liken her actions to. Remember, you are not “less She has also begun rattling on than.” Tell your friend this is incessantly about her savings how you feel with her at times, bonds and commenting on how and if she responds helpfully, all will be good. If not, you need to find a new friend. Dear Annie: I was heartbro- ken to read the letter to you from “Still Suffering,” the woman who, because of financial hard- ships and health problems, moved back in with her parents, who abused her when she was a child. I can only imagine how painful and challenging her sit- uation must be. I am disappointed that you did not direct her to contact women’s resource services in her area. Many areas have ser- vices and counseling for women in abusive relationships — at no cost. Though she is not in an abusive romantic relationship, the situation isn’t very different, and one of these agencies might be able to help. Please let her know there are people who are sending her love. — Supportive in Sarasota Dear Supportive: Thank you for your wise suggestion. Advocates at The National Domestic Violence Hotline can help refer abuse survi- vors to resources in their area. I encourage anyone in such a position to call. The number is 800-799-7233. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, AUGUST 21, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your stars are ex- cellent for striking a deal. Look for sales. Believe that you can find high quality at a lower cost. There’s always a way. Don’t settle for the first thing people offer unless it’s crazy-good. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Early success is seen as a gift, though it may be a bad one, as it robs a person of the extensive body of knowledge that comes with early failure. You’ll win, but try to stay humble so you can still learn all you possibly can. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your skills might not seem to be a great match for the challeng- es of the day. Don’t let this stop you. Intention and creativity will make up the difference. You don’t have to be technically good at something to pull it off. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You admire peo- ple who know what they’re doing and do it very well. You become more creative and profes- sional when you stick close to such people and learn what they know. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Sometimes you find yourself pulling away from others without know- ing why. Try to figure out why, though, because the knowledge will help you in this relationship and others to come. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You will do as most people who have a choice will do — that is to say, what you feel like doing. You’ll also be in a position to lead others, which will require that you help them feel like doing the thing you want them to do. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). For what are you willing to trade your hard-earned cash? Your eye may be drawn to the luxuries and extras you don’t really need but somehow still really want. Note that value sometimes has very little FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE to do with cost. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re wondering what someone sees in you, where the rela- tionship stands, and the nature of the feelings being silently exchanged. Be patient. Feeling comes first and then seeing. Words come last, if at all. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The people you love will cause more work for you. It’s what they’re good at! It’s part of why you love them! It keeps you in service, and in shape. You’re better off for it, though it’s not always pleasant. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When people have something better to do, they do better. You won’t take this as a fact of life; rather, you’ll go the distance and take it as a challenge, a responsibility, even. What better thing can you offer them to do? AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Though you’re working with a team, it’s still crucial that every- one is individually acknowledged, including you. When it’s your turn to accept the applause, take a bow. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Life is a lot less stressful for the people who happen to be around you because you use your sense of hu- mor to lighten things up. Bonus: You feel loved and appreciated when you hear their laughter. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 22). Your social life ramps up this solar return with several fortuitous meetings. An introduction in September will soon have you thinking of the world and your place in it very differently. Workwise, you’ll build on what you’ve learned, but you’ll take it in a very surprising direction. Truly, you will be a creative force. Sagittarius and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 33, 32, 10 and 30.
