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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JULY 27, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Feeling shame over relationship Dear Annie: I am seek- answer his calls. I finally sent ing your advice about some- him a text, told him I was well thing that has been troubling me. and wished him well. He asked My faith has always been very why I did not want to talk to him. important to me. I have strong I told him that I was very busy moral values, and I don’t believe and that when he called, I was in having a sexual relationship not always where I could talk, outside of marriage. So which was true. How DEAR I am deeply ashamed can I put this behind about a relationship I me? I haven’t seen this ANNIE had with a man to whom man since I quit talking I am not married. This to him. man had some problems I’ve become so that made intimacy diffi- depressed about this cult, which was a bless- that I have just stayed in ing in itself. The relation- except to do necessary ship didn’t last long, and things. I’ve experienced Lane it mostly just consisted Annie panic attacks. I have Creators Syndicate Inc. of telephone conversa- spent most of my time tions. Still, the fact that involved in church activ- I allowed myself to enter into a ities and doing volunteer work. relationship of this type haunts I don’t think I have agorapho- me. I have prayed repeatedly bia; rather, I’m so ashamed that I about this, but I am having diffi- have retreated. I love people and culty forgiving myself. doing for others. I am on an anti- What can I do to be at peace depressant, and I do have some- about this? I cannot talk to my thing to take for panic attacks. — minister about this. I do not I Knew Better Dear Knew Better: I have contact with this man. He would call quite often to check applaud you for seeking pro- on me. I reached the decision fessional help, and I encour- that I should not have telephone age you to keep taking medica- conversations with him. A few tion as directed by your doctor. weeks ago, he called every day But medication is only one part for about a week, and I did not of the equation. You should also be seeing a licensed therapist, someone who can help you talk about what you’re feeling and help you move past the shame. Ask your doctor to refer you to someone, or search Psychology Today’s database at https://www. psychologytoday.com/us/ther- apists. Be prepared to try a few different therapists to find one with whom you really click. And please stop being so hard on yourself. You seem like a warmhearted person who values kindness. Try to show yourself the same compassion you would show anyone else. Dear Annie: Why are we saying 2018 as “two thousand eighteen” instead of “twenty eighteen”? We didn’t say “one thousand nine hundred eigh- teen.” And it’s much easier to say “twenty eighteen.” This bugs me and my adult son. Care to comment? — Curious Dear Curious: This is one question for which I have no answer. If I hear a compelling explanation, I’ll print it here. In the meantime, I see no rea- son you can’t be the change you want to see. Pronounce it how you’d like, and others may fol- low suit. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your intuition is spot on today — not because you can see the future but because you can make the future. You’ve a sense about what’s possible and how much work it will take. You do it until it’s done. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A weak teacher will tell you that the reason you didn’t succeed in the class is that you didn’t work hard enough. A strong teacher makes you want to work hard; a strong teacher considers your success a joint mission. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Even though you know better than to get “attached to an outcome,” for better or worse, you’re invested in what happens next. It just happens that way when you love something this much. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Life doesn’t always fall into a lovely pattern; some- times it has to be forced or puzzled together into one. Actually, the forcing usually only works for a short term. Better to toy around and find something that fits. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). In order to fit into the group agenda, you might have to com- promise on your approach, plan or product, but you shouldn’t have to compromise who you are. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Every time you introduce a new variable, things change. One person alters the whole group, and indeed every person is the “one” person who does this. So don’t discount your contribution, even in very large gatherings. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be invigorated by people working together to accomplish a common goal, especially if the goal has something to do with improving themselves or improving the world through kindness. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). This is an ex- cellent time to look at your expenses and cut the subscriptions and recurring payments that go to things you don’t really use. It will bring your finances and more back into balance without a sense of sacrifice. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Ask yourself the questions that will help you get clear about what you want to accomplish. Then the “how” won’t matter so much. As you focus on the effect that you want to have, the details work themselves out. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Even though your reflexes are superior, you’d rather live proactively so that you’re not in a reactive po- sition. Tonight brings a hint that will help with the mystery you’ve been trying to solve. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There’s a pleas- ant (not outrageous or startling) surprise in this day just for you, a little something to make your ride smoother and your smile wider. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). To get more problems, obsess about all the problems you already have. To get fewer problems, focus on just one problem and solve it. Then move to the next. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 28). You keep creating and making things happen, and that’s why this year brings four major celebra- tions of you. October brings special courage, and you’ll dive into a daring aim — something you wouldn’t have had the guts or skills for in the past. You’ll be ready! This will begin a trajectory you’ll follow through to your next birthday. Pisces and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 30, 29, 44 and 12.
