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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JULY 6, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Helping male assault victim Dear Annie: About six months conversation without projecting ago, a friend confided in me that he my own emotions — or emotions had been sexually assaulted a year that I think should be expected — prior by a blind date. After watch- on him. Annie, do you have any ing an episode of “ER,” we were recommendations or resources for talking about sexually transmit- helping men who’ve been sexu- ted infections, and he mentioned ally assaulted or for their friends and family members? — needing to get tested, DEAR At a Loss which brought up the rev- elation of his assault. He Dear At a Loss: I am ANNIE was very straightforward so sorry your friend went about telling me and said through that. He’s not that he had dealt with alone. Approximately 1 in everything already and 6 men have experienced was ready to move past sexual assault or abuse. it. He’s also had relation- The fact that he opened ships and casually dated up to you about his expe- Lane rience means that he sees people since the assault, Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. your friendship as a safe and he said things were space in which he can be completely fine. I’ve tried to let him know that vulnerable. If you can continue I’m here if he wants to talk, but providing that space, you’ll have he brushes the concern aside and done a lot. Ambivalent and com- starts a new topic each time it plex emotions will arise at times. comes up. He’s even joked a few Know that it’s not necessary to times about hoping it doesn’t hap- “resolve” those feelings; simply pen again as he’s heading out the sitting with them and with him is door for a date. I’m never sure how often the best thing you can do, to reply to jokes like that. Awk- even when it feels uncomfortable. ward chuckle? I doubt he needs Sometimes survivors use or wants any pitying glances. His humor as a way to cope with demeanor is very different from trauma, which may be what he’s that of my female friends who doing with those jokes. But you have also been assaulted, and I don’t have to laugh at them. A don’t know how to navigate the neutral reaction is fine. For more tips on supporting him, visit https://1in6.org; select the “Get Information” tab and then “For Family and Friends.” You can also chat with a trained advocate using the 1in6 website, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Dear Annie: Summer is here, and so are summer scams. Recently, my mother-in-law received a call from my daughter’s “friend” telling her that her grand- daughter had been driving and caused a wreck resulting in seri- ous injuries to a woman in another car. She insisted that my daugh- ter didn’t want to tell us about the accident and asked for money that she would pay back soon. She even said she had a lawyer to rep- resent her and gave a number. My mother-in-law is a trusting woman. Luckily, she felt she had to talk to her son before she did anything, and of course the fish failed to swallow the hook. Never provide information or money to strangers, no matter how convincing their script. — Now Wiser Dear Now Wiser: Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Scams can also be reported at https://www. ftccomplaintassistant.gov. Stay safe and savvy. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Put yourself out there and you’ll get ratings both good and bad (because trolls, unfortunately, are a fact of modern life) but mostly good and definitely worth the effort. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You won’t have to worry about what to say. Egotistical people are easy to talk to. They will go on and on about themselves without prompting, never more than one sentence away from the turnaround. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Incurious people have a way of making others feel boring while fascinated people can make their com- pany feel like the most interesting people in the world. Whichever way it goes, don’t take reactions personally. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Lingering emo- tions could slow you down if you let them. Be willing to feel and you won’t get stuck. Release all resistance. Let the emotions flow through you and they’ll work themselves out without much effort on your part. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Fitting in will be part of the deal, but there’s really no need to pretend that you’re in the know when you’re not. Saying “I don’t know” is perfectly acceptable — maybe even preferred. Only smug people know everything! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). To look forward to the offerings of the day without expecting or demanding any particular outcome — that’s a recipe for happiness, and a very achievable one. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Of course you can’t believe everything you think, but there is a recurring idea you’ve been having lately that’s worth putting to the test. It will open up a new area of study and work. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You won’t get immediate proof that this course of action is worth taking, but keep at it awhile in good faith. You’ll be luckier as you continue along in the belief that good things are coming. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). To expect yourself to constantly generate good energy is asking too much. You need renewal. When you run out of power and you can’t shine your light, go where the light is already shining. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Being attractive will have pluses and minuses. You enjoy the attention, but only when it comes at you in a certain way. Even then, you can only take so much before you need peace, quiet and solitude. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s not enough to hear that you are appreciated; you need to see it and feel it from the intention, action and the warmth of others. Settle for nothing less than true respect. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re not one to take risks just for the thrill of it. You’ll fully as- sess the situation, decide on the best course of action and take a chance, all the while bearing the fear and uncertainty entailed. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 7). Keep an open mind, because if you stay flexible, your plans will give way to something bigger. A well-matched collaboration will yield results within 10 weeks. The money flows easy in October. Beautiful scenery and fun activities close out 2018. Your social graces will cata- pult you to leadership in 2019. Scorpio and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 43, 20, 14, 7 and 32.
