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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 26, 2018 FEATURES My mother’s other family Dear Annie: My mother had a My mom was Shelly’s “best workplace affair back in the 1960s friend.” Shelly always manipu- that lasted for approximately 10 lated my mother over the years, years. My dad knew about it, but holding this affair over her head. God rest his soul, he remained (She demanded a DNA test when with my mom and our family she was a teenager.) Now I feel she is manipulating her until he died. The affair DEAR “new family” and really resulted in the fourth wants to become a part of child in our family, with ANNIE that family. I feel that my a 10-year gap between me two elder sisters and I are and the new sister. Need- less to say, my childhood being left in the dust. My had a lot of chaos — yell- eldest sister is livid and ing, threats, sarcasm — won’t even discuss it. It which I worked through is all surreal. One of the with a 12-step program. I new sisters indicated she Lane want to be clear, though, Annie would write an email to Creators Syndicate Inc. that even with that tur- all the others after their moil happening, my mom mom dies and share this and dad were actually very loving “news.” parents to us. Shelly emailed me the other Here’s my concern. The baby day and told me that she had con- sister, “Shelly,” has not only us nected with one of her dad’s half three elder sisters but also nine sisters, who is 84. Shelly said other siblings from her biologi- she has been really sweet and is cal father. We have all remained including her on the family tree. I somewhat in touch with them didn’t respond. through social media, but espe- Advice on how to handle all cially Shelly has. Three of those this would be appreciated. The siblings are aware of Shelly and turmoil is only in its beginning know that their dad was a woman- stages, I feel, because that email izer. Their mom is still alive, and could cause a lot more — Not the they claim she has no clue about Baby Anymore Shelly. Dear Not the Baby Any- more: Shelly’s inclusion on another family tree doesn’t mean you have to prune her off yours, just as her growing closer with other half siblings doesn’t mean she’s growing apart from you. Let Shelly and her other siblings work things out among them- selves. And there’s no need to fear impending “turmoil.” Focus on yourself and discover the serenity of detaching with love, because once you’re truly grounded in your own life, others’ turmoil can’t shake you. Dear Annie: My letter is in response to “Workplace Drama.” I had my right breast removed in 2009 because of cancer. Why in the world didn’t the woman get a rebuild? Congress passed leg- islation allowing a woman who loses her breasts because of can- cer is entitled to have a rebuild. If this woman had a reason not to rebuild, she at least should have been fitted for a prosthesis. I wore one for a number of months before I could have my breast rebuilt. I am surprised that her doctor or surgeon did not inform her of her options. — Florida Survivor Dear Survivor: Thanks for sharing your story. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). What good is knowing better unless you also do better? The trouble is, you can’t be sure. You have to take a risk in order to find out. Pursue the promising fix; act on your hunch. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Though you can’t make another person see what they don’t see, you can point out what you see, and those who have the capacity at that moment will have a good chance of sharing in your vision. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The beginning of a project is light in the actual work that must be done, but it’s heavy in the amount of change that must be tolerated. This is about adjusting, settling in and figuring out your commitment level. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You often tend to define yourself through a role, which is essentially defining yourself through a set of responsibilities. Just don’t forget that you’re the one who takes it on. If it’s thrust on you, and you don’t want it, throw it back. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Regarding your proj- ect: You don’t have to make up the route. The explorers before you did a pretty good job, and you can refer to their notes to save yourself needless trouble, or, if possible, take one with you on the journey. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Like duct tape engineering, something you solve today may involve an inelegant fix, but if it works, it works. Don’t look back. You’re resourceful, and it’s something you should be proud of. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Brain scans can tell us which part of the brain is firing off neurons, but they can’t show us the thoughts and visions that light up the ultimate privacy of the mind. Your private thoughts will be most FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE amusing today! SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Share your ideas. They are what make you fascinating and maybe even irresistible to someone. Tonight, there will be interesting and yet inappropriate choices available to you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). All kinds of feelings get entwined in the excitement mount- ing around a project. Some of them will die down when the project stabilizes and becomes a working entity. Some won’t. Romance may be a part of this. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If you were chosen for the job, you can safely assume that you are the best person for it. Don’t worry about anything but giving this your very best shot. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Whatever is going on now, more of the same is to be expected today. You can see the potential in others. It’s something to nurture and believe in, but potential is not something to date or do business with. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s a lot you are capable of doing, but the thing you really want to do is taking a back seat. Just because you can fit yourself into a situation doesn’t mean you belong there. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 27). You say, “Yes!” and the excitement commences. You’ll become part of an inspiring group. In August, answering hard questions will make life easier. You’ll streamline your personal busi- ness in order to be flexible and spontaneous. You’ll cut out nonessentials once you figure out what is really essential. Cancer and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 30, 21, 35 and 18.
