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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JUNE 15, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Boyfriend enables his son Dear Annie: I’ve been does nothing around the dating “Grant” for a few house to help. He doesn’t months, though we have want to help prepare food, known each other for 20-plus and he doesn’t want to clean years. He has two kids, ages up after himself. I feel that 25 and 21, and I feel that his dad needs to let him make they run all over him. Their his own decisions and pay his mother died about own way as far as his DEAR five years ago. She personal bills go, but I feel I’m fighting a and Grant had been ANNIE losing battle. What to divorced for a few do? Thanks for any years before that. His youngest son, advice you can give me. — Frustrated at “John,” lives with Home him, and Grant got Dear Frustrated the boy a job at his at Home: Your prob- company. I feel that Lane lem is Grant, not his he needs to stop Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. 21-year-old son. See- treating the kid as if ing as Grant insists he were 15. Grant buys John beer, on treating John like a boy cigarettes and anything he and allows him to run all needs. He even pays his cell- over you, it is time to put phone bill. Grant says he tells your foot down. Tell Grant John that he has to pay a cer- that either his adult son helps tain amount per week, but with the household chores half the time he doesn’t get it. and acts responsibly — rules John throws temper tantrums to be enforced by Grant — or if he doesn’t get his way, and you will move out. You don’t Grant always gives in. have a choice at this point. It We just got a place is good that your relationship together, and John came with is in its early stages. us. John says he has no inten- Dear Annie: I dealt with tion of leaving. I don’t want a lot of trauma in my life, to live like this because he bottled it all up and smiled my way through the pain. We often believe that we are the only ones suffering from mental trauma of some kind or another. The truth is that if we step back and look at the big picture, we can begin to understand that we are not alone. Just because my hus- band never hit me doesn’t erase the fact that I was abused. When a friend per- suaded me to tell her what was wrong, she guided me in the right direction, and I got out of that situation (more than 25 years ago) and into a wonderful marriage. Ther- apy helped me to recognize my situation and accept that I can live a happy life. To any- one reading this who’s going through hard times: Give therapy a chance, and don’t be afraid to walk away and try again if you find that your counselor is not a good fit. — Stronger and Happier Dear Stronger and Hap- pier: Therapy really is a wonderful thing, and I think everyone could benefit from it. Thank you for sharing your story of hope and tri- umph after trauma. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Like a hot air balloon, you’ll reach the new heights with a combination of wind, fire and the willingness to release a sandbag or two. The more baggage you get rid of, the higher you’ll go. loved ones may place limits on you. They’re afraid of what will happen when you change and grow. Don’t withstand these subtle restric- tions. Call out the behavior while it’s still of minor consequence. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It won’t be import- ant to agree with your partner on every little thing if the big things are fairly in line. The ques- tion is, can you let the small stuff go without micromanagement? SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). A name keeps coming up in conversation, an indication that someone has nestled into your thoughts, whether or not that was your desire. The conver- sation can’t help but follow your thought stream. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Acting from a primal place, insecure people will try and weed out the competition through various means, such as ex- clusion, gossiping and aggression. The “kill ’em with kindness” approach will be most effective. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s a dy- namic of mild jealousy playing out —harmless, flattering, but still in need of due process. Don’t ignore this! Whether you’re the one experienc- ing the emotion or you’re the recipient of it, work through the feelings. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Are your expec- tations unreasonable? It really doesn’t matter. There’s what is; then there’s what isn’t. It’s only two categories. Hold your expectations up to what’s happening. Anything that’s not a match needs to be adjusted. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You may feel as though you’re hanging on to an arrangement for only one reason, or until one outcome makes it all worthwhile. There are other situations out there that would give you fuller satisfaction. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The last step of a project is to properly document it. Take this seriously. It would be bad to skip it. When you document something well, later it could serve as proof, entertainment, validation and more. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The random events mean nothing until you spot the pattern. But once you see the pattern, it changes everything. The pattern becomes a map, and you can see exactly where the relationship is going. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Well-meaning FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The morality of today’s options will be black and white. With such an obvious right and wrong, the way of good character won’t be hard to find. However, many value personality over character — a rating system to be resisted. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s a lot of dif- ferent advice out there, but the best advice will come from an internal source. It’s a message from your heart to your head. The only thing keeping you from following it is fear. Summon your courage. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 16). It’s the ones who don’t seek validation who tend to get it. The principle works in reverse, too. This year you don’t seek attention, approval, respect, affection or remuneration — and yet you get all of it. August brings a notable award. Financial highs are July, January and February. Vows and deals go down in October. Virgo and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 3, 33, 28 and 17.
