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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Brother says she’s a hoarder Dear Annie: I am feeling so several bags to The Salvation desperate, angry and frustrated. Army. I have thrown many things I deal with depression, and my away. And some of the items I’ve brother is certainly not helping kept will be set up for a rum- matters. I am 65. I cannot do a lot mage sale this summer. If these of lifting because of back prob- items do not sell, they are going. lems, so I wait for my grand- This is not good enough for my kids to come and help me brother. DEAR when they can, which is I was going to my not so often as I’d like. own counselor, but she ANNIE My brother thinks I retired at the end of am a hoarder. He tells April. She was awe- struck with some of the me that I have obses- sive-compulsive dis- things that my brother order and that I need has said and done. Now to deal with my prob- he wants us to go to lems. My brother is an counseling. The prob- Lane lem is that I’m so tired of alcoholic but does go to Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. his abuse that I just don’t Alcoholics Anonymous want to be around him and has not imbibed for over 20 years. Every time we get anymore. My brother has no con- together, he is rude and sarcastic cept of what personal boundaries and will not stop the conversa- are. What is your response to all tion when I tell him that he is not of this? — Want Peace Back in my counselor and that my issues My Life are my business and not his. Dear Want Peace: You are I do not feel that I’m a hoarder right that these are your issues, by any means. I will admit that not your brother’s. He might be I have accumulated things over trying to help, but forcing his the years and that this has got- version of help upon you clearly ten out of hand, but my home isn’t helping anyone. The good is not filthy or toxic. My down- news is that it doesn’t matter too stairs area is not accessible at this much if he has no concept of per- time because I have been sorting sonal boundaries, because the through my things. I have taken person who sets your boundar- ies is you. You get to decide how often you talk to your brother and how many of his comments you take to heart. Peace is within your power. That being said, it does sound as though clutter is getting in the way of your life. Your items have rendered a floor of your house inaccessible, and you admit that it’s gotten out of hand. If you have a desire to address that issue, you don’t have to wait until your children or grandchil- dren come by to help. Consider hiring a personal organizer or senior move manager to sort out your belongings and move things into storage. You can also call a junk removal service for the items you have no use for. Even more important than addressing your clutter, however, is treating and managing your depression. Your therapist should have referred you to someone else when she retired. Follow up with her for some names. If you can’t get in touch with her, the American Psychological Associ- ation offers a psychologist loca- ter tool on its website. Psychol- ogy Today offers a similar tool: https://www.psychologytoday. com/us/therapists. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JUNE 13, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). This thing you want to do — you’re not totally prepared for it, nor will you ever be. Go on anyway. No one else was prepared when they started this either. All of the insiders had similar feelings to the ones you’re having right now. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). If something won’t bother you a month from now, don’t let it bother you now. If it won’t please you a month from now, don’t buy it, commit to it or do it now. Use the perspective of time in your decision-making process. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s an excellent day to strictly reject the extreme limits that people will claim exist. They’ll say, “Impossible.” They’ll say, “Never.” How do they know? It’s better to err on the side of optimistic fantasy and possibility. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). A conflict-free life is so pleasant! Of course, there’s no story there. Stories need conflict. If you happen to get friction instead of an easy life today, rejoice in the knowledge that it’ll be something people want to hear about. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Many scientists be- lieve that early humans made music before they could make speech, and that love songs were part of our primal culture. Whether or not that’s true, today you’ll be deeply moved and bonded by a melody. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The appear- ance of confidence is often indistinguishable from actual confidence. Both states will produce similar results. So however you feel, put on your brave face and go forward. CANCER (June 22-July 22). To give something a name is to claim it in some way. Try this with your feelings today and you’ll create a bridge between emotion and thought, closing the prob- lematic gap that was keeping you from moving forward. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What is best for all? With so many different people spouting var- ious opinions, the question seems complex — until you realize that most people are speaking out of self-interest. Who is really after the good of the group? LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Those who say, “I don’t have time,” are really saying, “This is not a priority to me right now,” which is a more empowering bit of language both to hear and to say. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Education can be extremely expensive, or it can be free. Those who have access to a library or the internet have access to the top minds that have ever lived. You’ve an excellent reason to take advantage of this. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The occurrence you don’t find ideal, and possibly think of as terrible, may actually be the best thing happening in your life right now. It’s strengthening you, and it’s also saving you in some way. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll try and enjoy the unfolding moment. And when you can’t seem to quite get there, you’ll still be able to go along, knowing that the big picture is coming together nicely and you’ll appreciate all of this later. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 14). People think highly of you and will promote you in ways you will love and also be slightly challenged by, as it sets up an expectation. Don’t worry: You’ll get there, with the same optimism and dedication you used to arrive at the place you are right now. You’ll discover treasure in July. Your legacy will ex- pand in September. Cancer and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 30, 18, 33 and 28.