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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Son not paying back mom’s loan Dear Annie: A few years Dear Confused and Disap- ago, one of my sons needed pointed: Your son should keep funds for support during some his word and pay you back with- difficult times. I explained that I out your having to prompt him, would help but that I needed the but “should” doesn’t put money funds to be returned. His spouse in the bank. It’s time to speak up was checking other avenues to and speak firmly. As you said, you’re not an ATM. gather it. DEAR It has now been over You’re an autonomous three years since the person with a voice. ANNIE loan was given. In that Now use it. Tell your time, they have pur- son directly — not just chased a second vehi- through your husband cle and even gone on — that you expect him a vacation to Disney to pay you back in full World. within three months (or Recently, they were however long you deem Lane having an issue with one Annie acceptable). Draft up a Creators Syndicate Inc. of their cars. My hus- contract with a timeta- ble, and have him sign band (my son’s stepfa- ther) fixed it for them. When my it. There’s no guarantee of his son asked how much he owed repayment unless you want to for the repair, my husband said, get an attorney involved, and “Just pay your mom what you I don’t get the impression you owe her.” do. But he might be moved (i.e., I have yet to receive the shamed) to action once he sees money, and we have had several how serious you are. family functions. I love my fam- Lastly, don’t blame your- ily, but I am not an ATM. This self for his lack of accountabil- hurts me to my heart. I raised ity. No matter how strongly we my kids as a single mom and a impress values upon our chil- veteran and thought I instilled dren, it’s up to them to see that good values in them. I guess they stick in adulthood. Dear Annie: I could have that doesn’t apply to all. — written the letter from “Tired Confused and Disappointed of the Tips.” I, too, suffer from migraines and am tired of the tips. People think they are being helpful, but what they are actu- ally doing is negating years of pain and making me feel as if I have to justify being in pain. If you want something to say, please stick with something like this: “I am so incredibly sorry. That sounds awful.” Please don’t mention an uncle who had something vaguely similar or some special treatment or medi- cation you’ve heard about. I know “Tired of the Tips” is tired of tips, but if he or she wants a tip for dealing with the constant unwanted comments about his or her migraines, I have found that when I want people to know I will be indis- posed for the week but don’t want any unsolicited advice, I say I am dealing with chronic paroxysmal hemicrania. It sounds sufficiently painful for people to accept as seri- ous but too medical for them to feel comfortable with offer- ing advice. I hope “Tired of the Tips” can find a little comfort in knowing there are others who have this frustration. — Yes, I Have Tried Excedrin THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JUNE 6, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Anyone can listen closely to the story they enjoy, the information that flatters them, the music and people they prefer. But it’s those who know how to tune in to the messages and tones they don’t like who will become smarter. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). For business to run smoothly, communication will be essential. Over-communicate. Communicate redundantly! Whether hearing or telling a story, it will be better to err on the side of repetition. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). As for the conver- sation you’ve been putting off, this is the time to have it. Those who need to hear you will be all ears. Your words, planned and unplanned, will eloquently tumble out. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Creation and destruction are part of the same cycle, though they run on different timetables. What takes years to build can be destroyed in a blink. So while destruction is necessary to creation, often the smallest amount will do. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You may feel that you still have something to prove to yourself, or something you can do to become worthy of your own accep- tance. So what would it take for you to become your own best friend and supporter across the board? VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you feel that your peers are providing undue pressure, consider that you may be inadvertently giving them reason to believe you’re on the brink of agreeing with them. Walk away. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). In the name of smooth business, it wouldn’t hurt to spend a few minutes “catastrophizing” — that is to say, coming up with a handful of worst-case scenarios and what you’d do in each case. With preparation comes FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE confidence. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re perfectly capable of rational thought and communication. However, as you wisely lead with your emotional intelligence, logic gives way to something that, on the surface at least, makes less sense: the poetry of the heart. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can’t afford to let the vagaries of communication distract from, diffuse or cover up the truth. You can get to the bottom of it with direct questions, as long as you make people feel that it’s safe to be honest. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll be a teach- er today, so you may as well be an excellent one. Excellent teachers communicate clearly to impart information and skills in a structure that best facili- tates student comprehension and absorption. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve learned this lesson before, but it bears repeating now: If you think someone can’t fail and you treat him or her accordingly, the relationship is doomed. Instead, see the flawed humanity and give your love anyway. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It will be particularly difficult to see people for who they are because you can’t help but be blinded by the possibilities you notice about what they might be able to do for you. Make your expectations known. Accountabil- ity will be key. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 7). The focus will be on habits. Daily practice will lead to an exceptional performance and financial remuner- ation. What could be better? You’ll achieve a goal, develop your potential and participate fully in your community and wider society. The insights you share in 2019 could alter the course of an entire organization. Leo and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 10, 5, 30 and 13.