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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Granny kept at arm’s length Dear Annie: I’m very frus- respect and leniency as the other trated, and I would like your opin- grandmother. I’m often told they ion, please. need family time when I ask to be My daughter-in-law doesn’t more involved, which I keep to seem to realize that some of the a minimum so as not to intrude. things she does really hurt me. I’ve On one very special occasion, her always been there for my son and mother knew what I was buying for daughter-in-law. I try very my grandchild (which was DEAR hard to be a good moth- supposed to be sentimental er-in-law. I never interfere. between my grandchild and ANNIE me) and basically bought I never show up without the same thing and gave it calling, and I hardly ever to her first. My daughter-in- ask them for help because law was aware of the gift I I know how busy they are. I have changed my plans had gotten and how excited and moved my work sched- I was but allowed it all to ule around so I could baby- happen anyway. Lane sit, take my grandchild to Annie Her mother is included Creators Syndicate Inc. some activities or watch in getting my grandchild their house and pets while ready for special events. they’ve gone away (which I’ve been Yet I’m told things will be too hec- happy to do because it makes their tic. I can’t say anything because my daughter-in-law has a short fuse lives easier). Her mom is not reliable and not at times, and my son doesn’t get allowed to baby-sit because she can’t involved. be trusted. I’m asked to do most I’m just afraid I’m losing the things, which I don’t mind, but I feel closeness that I had with my grand- as though her mother gets invited to child, and I’m really at a loss as to so much, whereas I have to ask. She what to do next. Please help. — Left just shows up at their house anytime Out in California Dear Left Out: It’s time to stop and sleeps over for every holiday, and that seems to be OK with them. bending over backward for them and I try to make time for my grand- start standing up for yourself. Flex- child, but it seems that unless I’m ibility and generosity are great attri- baby-sitting, I don’t get the same butes — but without communica- tion, they’re a recipe for resentment. Talk to your son about how you’re feeling. Let him know that you respect their need for space and family time but you don’t want the only time you see them to be when they’re dropping off your grand- daughter to be baby-sat. And you shouldn’t only get to see your grand- daughter when you’re baby-sitting her. Express your desire to be there for special events. And set personal boundaries, such as deciding not to rearrange your work schedule just so you can baby-sit. Whatever happens, know that their deferral to her mother is most likely a matter not of playing favor- ites but of avoiding fights. It sounds as though she has some serious per- sonality issues that they’re just try- ing to manage. Dear Annie: I would like to add to your advice to “True Lies.” You said he “may be confusing criticism with honesty” when giving advice. To this, I would add the Buddha’s take on telling the unvarnished truth. He observed that telling the truth only is not enough. He said that in order for your input to be effective, it must be both kind and true. Kindness works. — Dr. Stewart A. Denenberg Dear Dr. Denenberg: True wis- dom. Thank you for sharing. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MAY 31, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The main deter- minant of today’s outcome will be your will. Your ability or inability to accomplish a thing is defined only by your inner determination to do so. If you want it badly enough, you’ll do what it takes. riences that are really beyond words ... perhaps most experience is. But if you try, with whatever words you have, you might be surprised at how it helps you process and appreciate what’s happened. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Whining is the noise animals make to signal frustration, fear and distress. The young human animal produc- es among the most annoying whines of all. But mature humans figure out a way, no complaints. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Through the ages, fearful, repressive societies have branded anyone different as “ill,” even though communities of all kinds are made stronger by diversity. We will be as strong as what we accept in ourselves and others. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s the perfect com- bination inside your head. You have the ambition of an artist and the mindset of an engineer. From this space, you’re poised to do your best work. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Sometimes one size fits none. The generic advice will be off — not just for you but for everyone. Success starts with a strategy that fits your understanding of yourself. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Each person’s mind is unique. Your experience will overlap with that of another, but it’s not the same. One of the best gifts we can give each other today is to listen to the details of an experience without comparing it to our own. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You are able to be very honest with yourself, and this is why today will be an important milestone. If your reason for not moving forward is really more of an excuse, you’ll figure out a way around it today. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s something you find odd about the mind: that you can have the most vivid show flashing on the screen inside your head and no one else can see it. Your intellectual air-sign nature will be delightfully activated. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are expe- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Exercise will be the panacea. Moving your body, blood and breath will move your mood, emotions and destiny. Even though exercise isn’t always about comfort, the more you enjoy it, the more likely you’ll be to come back to it. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The astronauts go so high they can see the whole of their coun- try at once; then the home continent; then all of Mother Earth. Relatedly, the division between you and your love will dissolve as you rise higher and higher above it. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Each of the 100 billion of your brain cells has the mark of you in- side it — the DNA to prove it’s yours. When you expand and change your mind, universes inside you do the same. There’s power in this. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 1). This solar return will give you more time to focus on the people and interests that feed your soul — not because something opens up, but because you decide to cut out interference and take charge of your joy. You’ll travel to at least three remarkable new places. The skill you pick up in September will introduce new work. Aquarius and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 4, 44, 48 and 30.
