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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, MARCH 30, 2018 FEATURES Seems like a roadblock Dear Annie: I’m feel- my path? — Stuck in Santa Fe ing stuck. Recently, my boy- Dear Stuck: Though you friend of two years and I have two might not be moving yet, been looking at new places to you are progressing. Keep move into together. It’s been focusing on the possibilities an exciting time, and I keep and you’ll solidify the foun- daydreaming of our future — dation for the life you’ll build together. It’s also a marriage, kids, nest- DEAR ing, chore charts, the great time to study whole thing. However, up on couples com- ANNIE munication skills, a wrench has been which will come in thrown into our plans. handy when shar- An old co-worker ing close quarters. let him know about Though I understand a great job — 1,000 why you’d like to get miles away. He’s an apartment together really interested in the Lane now, it’s not as if you position, and he’s been Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. two are stalling for looking for new work no good reason. Hang for a while now, but an offer, if it were to happen, tight and wait to hear about wouldn’t come in for a few the job (if you’re comfortable months. In the meantime, it relocating — and that in itself feels silly to keep looking for might be a whole other letter). Dear Annie: We live full new places to live, especially because we would most likely time in a pretty pool home on have a yearlong lease. But it a canal in Florida. Especially also feels silly to stop. Neither in winter, everyone wants to of us wants to put all our eggs stay at our home. Our family in one basket (this new job). comes first, and we welcome I know life’s not perfect, and family members to our home. there will always be uncer- We have many friends who tainty, but, Annie, how do I call and request a stay at our keep moving forward when I home, as well, or intimate that feel as if there’s a roadblock in they are in the area; they might as well invite themselves. Many of these people have stayed at our home repeatedly. I end up doing most of the cooking, cleaning and serving. My husband is not a big help and only grills. As I’ve gotten older, this has become a bur- den upon me physically and become mentally stressful. Attending to others’ dietary needs and pets can also be dif- ficult. If we say that we are busy, they try to talk us into a visit or put a guilt trip on us. How can I find a method to say “no” while keeping my friends? — Crowded Canal Dear Crowded Canal: People who stop talking to you because they couldn’t stay with you were never real friends to begin with. Rest assured that your true friends will understand and respect your boundaries. It’s perfectly reasonable that you would like the space to yourself, espe- cially as company has begun to feel like a mental and physi- cal burden. So take the plunge. Try out saying the word “no” — and no apologies necessary. I wager it will get easier with time. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It just doesn’t seem fair that some people should be allowed the freedom to do as they please and express themselves openly and others have to work and be appropriate all the time. That’s why you’ll make a change. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re open-mind- ed and flexible enough to use what you’ve learned in many applications. However, what you need now is very specific. Only take advice from those who have done the thing you want to do. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Among the arti- facts that you possess is one that, while not obviously valuable, is precious and irreplace- able. Why not display it as the treasure it is to you? Today will bring the inspiration and means to do so. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There’s a social pattern that occurs: You give more and they take more; you withdraw and they give more. If you’re conscious of it, it feels like a game. Someone will come along to shake up the dynamic. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Appreciate your current status even as you wish for something new. Change will happen soon enough. But of course the life you wish for will come with its own set of new problems. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The work itself won’t get any easier, but you’ll get better at it, and therefore it will be easier to you. This is the preferred way. You’d rather grow in skill and strength than have the rest of the world shrink. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Juicy informa- tion is difficult to keep quiet. Much success in restraint will be attributed to delaying your response to things, holding off your decision, waiting to send the email and the like. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Some things need nurturing to grow, but what you’re dealing with now is like a wildflower that pops up where it pleases — the side of the freeway, through the cracks of cement. ... It will thrive on its own volition. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Centuries ago, new shoes were a much bigger deal to acquire. And today, even though you own several pairs of them, the thrill is still real. Upgrades that hap- pen below the knee will lift your whole mood. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). They won’t care about all that goes into the result — not today anyway. They want what they want when they want it. Use this to your advantage. Don’t set your price based on what things cost; set it based on what people will pay. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). As far as you’re concerned, laughter and love go together. When they laugh, they show understanding and demonstrate their alliance. The one who can make you laugh will have your heart. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Human eyes are limited. We have but two, and they are not near- ly as keen as the eyes of some other creatures. But we can also try to see with our hearts, which will make all of the difference. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 31). There is little more satisfying than realizing your potential. You guessed at what you could do, and this solar return shows you surpassing the guess. The hope and kindness you extend through the summer will make a difference in someone’s life. You’ll triple your money with the financial opportunity in July. Aquarius and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 1, 11, 4 and 18.