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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MARCH 14, 2018 FEATURES Just too many expectations Dear Annie: After working with him during the day. Surely, my whole life, I am retiring in a you and your husband can come couple of weeks. I’ve been look- up with a plan that doesn’t ing forward to some downtime, require you to serve as 24/7 sleeping in, time for myself and nurse and chef. The same goes time to do the things I want to do, for your son and his wife. They but a problem has appeared. should not rely entirely on you My husband wants for child care. Baby-sit- DEAR ting should be a favor, me to take care of his not a duty. 97-year-old semi-in- ANNIE valid father, who Though setting expects a full cooked boundaries may lead to breakfast every morn- some conflict with fam- ily members in the short ing at 7 o’clock. On top term, it will make for of that, my son and his healthier, less resent- wife, who work differ- ful relations in the long ent shifts, expect me to Lane term. Congrats on your care for their screaming Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. retirement. 2-year-old toddler and Dear Annie: I am a their new baby, who is gay man in my late 20s, and I’ve due in a few weeks. I hate to say “no” to my fam- found myself in a very confus- ily, but what about me? What ing situation. I could use some should I do? — Distressed in advice. My best friend, a woman Utah I’ve known for almost 15 years, Dear Distressed: Don’t think and I are so close we’re almost of it as saying “no” to your fam- like siblings. I spend holidays ily. Think of it as finally saying with her family and take vaca- tions with them. Her parents “yes” to yourself. Someone was taking care of consider me one of their chil- your father-in-law up until this dren. She has three elder sib- point. Can that person continue lings, a sister and two broth- to do so, at least in some capac- ers. I am incredibly close to all ity? Perhaps you could hire a of them, especially one of her part-time caregiver who could be brothers, “Bryan.” Bryan is like a brother to me. We tell each other we love each other. If he were gay, I would most likely be in a relationship with him. So compatible are we that his parents often joke that we would make the perfect couple. However, my fraternal rela- tionship with Bryan has always sort of had an undertone of his appreciating the fact that I find him attractive. It’s not uncom- mon for him to take his shirt off and ask me whether I think his workouts are paying off. I know that this is quite common with other people, too; straight men often relish the idea that they are the object of desire for gay men. But recently, it’s come to a weird apex. Now, I should probably men- tion that he has a girlfriend whom he loves and is about to move in with. But I still have these com- plicated feelings. Is he just teas- ing me? Is he just joking? I love him like a brother, but I would definitely be intimate with him if he wanted. I’m so con- fused. — Confused Dear Confused: I take it Bryan is confused, too. But that’s no excuse for his selfish behavior. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The social scien- tists suggest that the most important (and telling) part of a conversation is the start of it. As the sign of beginnings, you get this intuitively and lead with the intention of making something positive happen. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). On the surface there’s not a lot of difference between going with the flow and conforming like a chameleon. The difference is on the inside. Don’t fool yourself. Make strategic compromises — external, not internal. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The less you own, the less you are owned. There was a time when these symbols meant much more to you; but now that they don’t, the thing to do is to take the cash value. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’re a help- er. Also, you’ve the experience to easily solve many problems. However, refrain from giving advice or solutions until and unless you are asked. No one likes to be told what they should be doing. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll be somewhat impervious to what others are reacting to. It’s not that you’re unfeeling; rather, you are protected by your broader point of view. Seeing the big picture minimizes the impact of circumstantial pettiness. CANCER (June 22-July 22). One would think that extremely valuable things would be con- stantly guarded against theft, loss or damage, and yet it’s not always so. People lose valuables all of the time. This is no time to take for granted what you hold dear. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Today’s success secret is a no-brainer. You’ll seek out and study those who live the way you want to live. Furthermore, though it won’t happen overnight, eventually you will become one of them. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll focus on what’s good and ask the same of others. This will not be accomplished overtly, which would only be annoying. The positivity is an extension of how you are, your general personality and approach. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Deep down, you know what you want. Press yourself! It’s a good thing to figure out early in the day, because you could waste a lot of time with vague actions. Have the confidence to be specific and direct. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Should you avoid or embrace conflict? Much depends on motive. If you’re avoiding conflict to be liked, the plan will backfire. If you’re avoiding it to be peaceful, the moral high ground will be your paradise. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Many believers in angels and spirit guides suggest that these ethereal entities communicate with us through feelings. Today it will seem that your intuition, or some extrasensory stimulus, is trying to tell you something. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Whether it seems to be going very right, or very wrong, you’ll be cool with it. These things have a way of stabi- lizing. The midpoint is called that for a reason. Everything settles there eventually. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (MARCH 15). You’re not required to answer every call, show up to every invite or react to every situation. Over the next three months you’ll reinforce your power position and nudge out those who want to con- trol your scene. Then everything starts coming together in June — financially, romantically and domestically. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 30, 2, 19 and 44.
