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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MARCH 6, 2018 FEATURES Wedding invitation snub Dear Annie: My youngest they talk to regularly. daughter, “Marta,” is beautiful Brian and Marta were already and caring but intellectually chal- saving up money for both of them lenged. I have always encouraged to go. Additionally, Marta is not all my kids to do what makes them capable of getting there herself happy, and she is no different. A because of her aforementioned dis- couple of years ago, she met a won- ability. I said all this to Elle, but derful man through mutual she still said Brian can’t DEAR friends, “Brian.” After dat- come. I said, “Then maybe ing for almost a year, they we won’t come, either, ANNIE married last fall. We could because it’s not fair that not ask for anyone more you’re treating your sister caring and giving. Brian this way.” Now Elle is not makes Marta his first prior- talking to me or Marta and ity as a spouse, partner and blocked my number and friend in his life. my messages online. The reason I’m writ- Am I wrong here? I Lane ing: My second-youngest Annie do understand that they Creators Syndicate Inc. daughter, “Elle,” who is haven’t wanted the wed- ding from the beginning. 27, is getting married this fall and wants to invite Marta but But now that they’re having one, I think it would be wrong to exclude not Brian. Elle and her fiancée would her brother-in-law. Family is fam- have preferred to skip this whole ily, whether you talk every day or ordeal altogether and just get mar- not. — Wedding Woes ried at the courthouse. But they Dear Wedding Woes: You’re are doing the wedding his parents not wrong, but you can’t force want (spending money that is sup- them to do what’s right. Though it posed to be saved for a down pay- does strike me as odd to exclude a ment on a house, but I digress). Elle brother-in-law, this isn’t my wed- has been really stressed out about it ding — and it’s not yours, either. If Elle and her fiancée don’t want from the outset. They said that they are only to invite Brian, that’s their mistake inviting people they talk to regu- to make. larly and that Brian isn’t someone Were I to squint hard to try to see a halfway decent rationale for their actions, I suppose I might focus on the fact that they didn’t want a ceremony or reception to begin with. They may not see this as a big deal or understand how hurtful such a snub can be. As for how they expect Marta to get there when she needs Brian’s assistance while traveling — well, I have no idea what they’re thinking. You and Marta might contact airlines to see what assistance is available for travelers with disabilities, if she’d still like to go. But it would be per- fectly OK for her to stay home, too. That would be the bride and groom’s fault and, most of all, their loss. Dear Annie: In this day and age, when one has to be constantly aware of scams, I find it terribly annoying to receive phone calls from people who do not identify themselves when they call. Often when my wife and I get phone calls from fundraising groups or even from doctors’ offices and the like, they ask for my wife or me imme- diately. What’s the deal? — Who’s Calling Dear Who’s Calling: I’d say the decline of phone etiquette cor- responded with the rise of cell- phones and, specifically, texting. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Wanting to do the thing or not wanting to do the thing is beside the point. You do the thing because you said you would, because it’s good for you, because it’s right. This is the way of exemplary character. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s said that the best things in life are free, exempli gratia: love, clouds, podcasts ... and so much more today. Bonus: Someone will buy your way — not free, exactly, but close enough. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Head foggy? Does it take you longer to come to a con- clusion? Do you forget why you walked into the room? It’s because part of your mind is working on something mind-blowing and the other part of your mind is blown. CANCER (June 22-July 22). There are tasks to be completed, and there is pleasure to be had. And there’s no reason that both of those things can’t be combined in the same activity. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You can be cuddly, and you can try to snuggle in with your flock, but don’t be surprised if they can’t complete- ly let down their guards. See, you’re not a sheep. You’re a lion. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Time to face the “yuck” of yesterdays. Have no fear. There are many ways to let go of the past that don’t include lying on your back in a therapist’s of- fice while repeatedly answering the question, “How did that make you feel?” LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll either burst through emotional blocks or wear them down by pushing ever-forward. You really can overwrite past baggage by creating new successes. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Motivating people is your thing today. You’ll be free with your enthusiasm, encouragement and ideas. Bonus: You’ll be well-compensated for this, though perhaps not in a financial sense. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). We are living in a realm of opposites — a dimen- sion of polarization and contrast. One sign of emotional maturity is when people stop pointing out the contradictions of life and start accepting them as the norm. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Watch your step. Perceptiveness on your part will help you to discover the golden opportunities hidden in a social situation — while avoiding the quicksand that’s also hidden there. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). If you’re not making a mess, you’re not living big enough. Though you usually clean it up solo, it’s not always possible to get it back in order all by yourself. Ask for help. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You tell your- self that you don’t really need closure — that life is a circle and therefore there is no end, and by extension, nothing to be closed. Tell yourself. But if you still feel incomplete, what exactly are the words you long to hear? TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 7). This year it’s ambition, faith, effort ... then throw it in reverse. Everything is doable when you apply yourself consistently and sometimes relentlessly. Love is the luckiest thing that touches your life in the next three months. Keep showing how you feel. Connections and lifestyle improvements are part of the summer fun. Libra and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 30, 16, 28 and 45.