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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 28, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Should I rebuild this friendship? Dear Annie: My father was Or is it kinder to leave her to her diagnosed with cancer a year own perception of our relation- ago. I told a close childhood ship? — Less Invested Dear Less Invested: Don’t friend. She responded, “I don’t know if I can deal with that.” put any stock in this woman. You Then she didn’t speak to me for told her your father had cancer, six months. This was hurtful — and her response was, “I don’t know if I can deal with as I had recently spent DEAR that.” That is not a best many weekends travel- ing (I live out of town) friend; that is not even ANNIE and hundreds of dollars a mediocre friend. I as her maid of honor, applaud your desire to supported her emotion- be upfront; however, in ally through the stress this case, such a conver- sation would only give of wedding prep, and her a chance to offer helped her move — but excuses. Her behav- I didn’t have the emo- Lane ior last year told you all tional capacity at the Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. you need to know. Keep time to try to rebuild the your distance, and spend friendship. Now that a year has passed, your time with people who truly we have been occasionally value it. spending time together again, Dear Annie: One of my big- though we avoid serious con- gest pet peeves is when you are versation. She introduces me in a parking lot and you kindly as her “best friend.” Recently, I stop and let people go in front of accidentally referred to some- you and they don’t think to thank one else as my best friend, and you by waving. Most people she took offense. I don’t want to seem to just expect it! I always lose an old friendship, but I can’t thank with a wave and feel oth- imagine being more than casual ers should, too. What say you? friends. How can I tactfully tell — Jan Dear Jan: I think they should her that she is far from my best friend and that I’m uncomfort- wave. But if they don’t, just pre- able with her possessiveness? tend they did — give yourself a little wave of acknowledgment, if that helps — and then move on with your day. Dear Annie: This is in response to the letter from “News Junkie,” who found himself con- stantly watching or reading the news and was feeling exhausted. As a therapist, I wonder what’s driving this person to constantly know what’s happening on the political scene. One reason that people go overboard on the news is that they’re unconsciously hoping to decrease their anxiety by knowing more. However, par- adoxically, this behavior usually backfires and increases anxiety. Another reason is that they feel pressure to be up-to-date when there are discussions of politics, which happens more often than it used to. This group of people may be afraid of not appearing politically savvy or fear being left out of conversations. — LCSW Dear LCSW: I’m always grateful for a clinician’s take on a letter. You raise some great additional considerations. Per- haps “News Junkie” and oth- ers binging on news would ben- efit from looking inward to consider what’s driving their overconsumption. 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Part of the reason for your tough time back there was that your gifts were not fully appreciated in the arena in which you were trying to apply them. You will focus your natural abilities differently and net much bigger rewards. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Today it will be futile to try to move things along at a different pace than is currently happening, and no one cool is doing that anyway. So just relax and let things meander as they will. You may even like where they wind up. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Much will depend on the question you ask. The right question will be like a magic button that opens up the eleva- tor doors and allows you to step inside and go as high or as deep as you like. CANCER (June 22-July 22). As much as you might like to be fooled by that charismatic pitch person (especially if said pitch has to do with being utterly in love with you), you wisely recognize the large element of drama here for what it is. you are, about to push “repeat” on that. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll fix dys- function and address what’s not quite right. How? First of all, no one will even see it as “dysfunctional” until you point it out. Of course, you would never point out such a thing without a solution to offer. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you say only what you mean, some won’t hear you, some won’t understand you, some will take of- fense. But the ones who hear, understand and accept the message will give you total trust. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It seems that the stability model doesn’t offer all that much stability after all. It’s time to spend more time with the visionaries — the creative people who are more excited by what could be than by what has been. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). In poems and in parties, a great entry point is when things have already happened. Actually, this is true of relationships as well. You’ll get the sense that you’re hopping onto a moving train. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If you can finish it in 10 minutes, don’t take 20. It will never be perfect, but it was probably good enough about five paces back. As they say in business, “Ship it.” PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll present yourself through a variety of formats. Whether it’s a meeting, an online forum, a telephone conversation or another medium, it’s the listen- ing you do that will make the best impression. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you don’t draw a line between what you’re willing to do and what you’re not, that line will emerge as if from great unseen forces — like hot lava drawn up from the core of the earth, thick and red. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 1). You know more than you let on. The silent power in that will be a key to your breakthrough this month. A lucky paycheck is involved, too. Fam- ily ties bring about strange and story-worthy events. There’s a contest of sorts this summer and entering will make you a winner in more ways than one. Sagittarius and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 3, 33, 38 and 14. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ve made com- promises, some of them tremendous. It wasn’t such a big deal to you because you sensed that what you were getting out of the deal would develop you in untold ways. Now here FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
