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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 27, 2018 FEATURES Married, but still alone Dear Annie: My husband is going on with you and your and I have been married for husband, it’s clear the status almost 30 years. Sometimes I quo isn’t acceptable. Partners think I don’t know him at all. should not begrudge each other He hardly calls or texts me for having dinner with friends when at work, but he would or talking often to siblings. It call his siblings at any time sounds as though you’re both of the day. He doesn’t stuck in a toxic cycle, DEAR answer my calls or and it’s going to take an outside force to respond to my texts ANNIE break you out of it. messages, either. He is Ask your husband to often late from work, usually arriving two attend marriage coun- seling. If he refuses, hours after he’s done seek therapy on your even though it’s 30 own; websites such as minutes away. I feel isolated and BetterHelp and Talk- Lane space connect patients lonely. I’m often per- Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. plexed by my hus- with health care pro- fessionals via video band’s reaction when- ever I tell him how I feel. chats, text messages and phone Recently, I told him, “I don’t calls, so you don’t even need think you love me.” And he to leave your house to get replied, “Go tell your friends help. But please, do get help. It that.” He isn’t happy if I go out could change your life. for dinner with my girlfriends. Dear Annie: I disagree He seldom goes out, because I with your answer to “Doctor caught him lying once. Mother,” who noticed a lump I feel trapped and tired in on her son’s girlfriend’s neck. this relationship. What should My husband, “Bob,” was sit- I do? — Is This Married Life? ting next to his boss, “Roger,” Dear Is This Married who is a doctor and health com- Life?: Trapped, isolated and missioner. Roger noticed that lonely — so much sadness in Bob’s neck bumped out when such a short letter. Whatever he swallowed. Roger exam- 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ined Bob’s neck while he swal- lowed again and said to go for a biopsy. It was thyroid can- cer in both lobes of his thyroid, which he then had removed. A year later, I noticed a lump in my daughter’s neck during a visit. She was in her early 20s. She followed my advice and had it checked out. A biopsy revealed can- cer in a lymph node that had come from her thyroid. She had the thyroid removed one month later. Had I not insisted, the cancer could have spread even further. I don’t even want to think of that possible out- come. Today she is 39 and can- cer-free. My husband is also cancer-free. So my advice for “Doc- tor Mother” is to speak up and tell her son’s girlfriend to get it checked out. Better to be safe than sorry! A lump isn’t always a skin condition. It could be a swollen lymph node. — WNY Reader Dear WNY Reader: You’re absolutely right. I should have more seriously considered the stakes. I’m printing your letter to correct the record. Thanks for writing. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You won’t be able to put your finger on exactly what’s changed. You’re you, only happier. With a cursory look at the situation, it will be hard to say why. But closer examination just might reveal the culprit: love. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The joke sug- gests we are all equal, but some are more equal than others. While you don’t believe you’re superior or special, you’ll get so much validation from the outside world today that it will be challenging to remain humble. appease them, consider whether or not these are truly reasonable requests. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Language will be the difference. It will make something happen instead of nothing. It will be the reason A hap- pens instead of B. Put some thought, planning and intention behind your choice of words. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Since you can’t very well surprise someone by giving them what they were expecting, you’ll think broader and more creatively before making your move. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Should you do it? Someone in the media is doing it. A friend is doing it, and it’s working great for that person. But is it right for you? The question is, is it af- fordable for you? This one is really only worthy of a small risk. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The yogic Triangle Pose, or Trikonasana, requires open eyes. Today will require similar balancing tactics. Find a point of focus in your sky-high dreams while grounding yourself. Reach up and down at the same time. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Revel in your amateur status in some regard today. Ama- teurs are not bound by the rules of taste or commerce that experts are held to. They can express more freely their unique take on the subject. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The power move will be to recognize where you’re not as strong, and where there might be gaps in your resources or knowledge, and then plan a way to solve for those gaps. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When you listen to a band, you may be actually hearing five to 60 different instruments playing parts, but what you experience is a song. Don’t get too caught up in the elements today. None of them are all of you. You’re all of them. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll find yourself in a position to defend, confront or dance around an issue. Consider employing the enormously useful power of misdirection, as a distraction will do wonders for the situation. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). They’ll tell you they need it sooner, that you should move faster, that it’s not quite enough. Before you move to FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ve been sur- prised before by your friend’s uncharacteristic behavior, only now it’s not surprising because it has indeed become a part of the character you now understand your friend to possess. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 28). Let your loved ones celebrate you. This will strength- en relationships and keep them from taking you for granted, too! You’re getting faster at delivering stellar results, and your profits will reflect it. Next month brings three new friends. Sign a deal in May and/or December. In June, invest in a lifestyle that suits you better. Leo and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 4, 33, 27 and 11.