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6A FEATURES Drama over solutions Dear Annie: My middle child she makes a change. Right? Or is graduated from college last year there a more constructive solu- and has been driving me crazy tion? — Mom Running in Circles Dear Mom Running in Cir- ever since. The transition into the adult world can be a difficult, cles: Your daughter needs to confusing time for most college decide for herself that she’s tired grads; thinking back, I obsessed of being a part of the Whac-A- Mole-like game, and over picking the “right” DEAR she won’t reach that job, the “right” career, etc. point as long as some- So, that I can empathize ANNIE one’s playing with with. But every time she her. So setting down presents a problem and I the rubber mallet and present a solution, she then stepping away was presents another problem. the most constructive It reminds me of Whac-A- thing you could have Mole. Honestly, I think she done. If she seems seri- prefers the complaining Lane ously stuck in a rut, it and drama to the promise Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. might also be construc- of positive change. tive to encourage her to This cycle is truly exhausting for me — and every- seek counseling. one else in the family. Half the Dear Annie: Your tipping time, our conversations become column really hit home. I work tense and end up being com- part time for a ski area, where pletely unproductive. Our most I teach skiing to all ages and recent one resulted in my telling groups of people. We are out her to not come to me for help there in all kinds of weather and until she’s ready to listen and are expected to always put on a act on one of the possible solu- smiling face. For the most part, tions. It’s difficult for me to see we start our lessons and fin- her getting in her own way, but ish them in the time restraints. if she’s not going to be an adult During that time, we do our best about it, then I guess she’s going to improve the skiing or board- to have to learn the hard way by ing skills of our students. Many feeling frustrated and stuck until times when we arrive back at THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 21, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. the starting area, we have to wait for 10 minutes for the parents to show up. This then causes the next lesson to be delayed, can- celed or given to another instruc- tor. We work for minimum (or slightly above minimum) wage in most cases — and only if we have a lesson. The percentage of tips given to ski or snowboard instructors is very low, and I would guess that only about 25 percent of the pop- ulation remembers to tip. I don’t know of another coaching indus- try that pays such a low rate, and the customers using our ser- vices feel they don’t have to tip. Granted, they do pay big bucks for tickets and lessons, but they think nothing of spending the same amount in a restaurant or bar and then tipping the waitress or bartender. Thanks for letting me vent. And if this helps or encourages one person to say thanks for a job well done, then I have done my job twice. — Ski Bum Dear Ski Bum: A useful instruction to know before hitting the slopes. I’m sure many people aren’t even aware that they’re supposed to tip for ski lessons. Thanks for writing. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You simply can’t learn everything you need to know from a sin- gle point of reference, so you’ll move around and investigate the story from many different angles. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The phrase of the day is, “That’s not how I remember it!” Even while uttering this, the memories will rearrange themselves, having gained greater context and meaning in light of current events. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll be present- ed with ideas that are such a bad fit for you it’s almost comical — but don’t laugh. Listen. The perspective you’ll gain will be invaluable. CANCER (June 22-July 22). In seeking partnership, pay keen attention to how you feel around other people. This is far more import- ant than what others can do for you on paper. The best partner will make you feel lively and motivated. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You can avoid future awkwardness by playing against the tendency to make endings so definitive. Keep it open. Try, “see you around,” “until next time,” or “enjoy!” instead of “goodbye.” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Life is your art form. The artist’s journey includes playing around with new and different materials to keep things fresh. You’ll find something that is “so you,” but only if you step out of your current comfort zone. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Opportunity isn’t something to wait for — it’s something to make. The ingredients are simple: communi- cation in numbers. Write the letter and make the pitch, and then get it to as many people as possible. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). A crowd can’t love you like an individual can, and an individual can’t love you like a crowd can. You need both kinds of love in your life. They fulfill different needs in your psyche, so don’t settle for just one kind. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You don’t have to be prepared for everything, only the next thing. Overpreparing is like overpacking — heavy, hard to move and harder to organize. Love where you’re at. Keep it lean and mean. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re not lacking in faith, but you should be a little care- ful about where you put it today. Don’t put your faith in one plan, institution or person unless that person is you or someone you love dearly. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What con- spires between you and the competition will not dissuade you, but will instead strengthen your convictions and your fearlessness. You may change your approach, but you’ll continue the journey. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Embrace your constraints; they make you more creative. Also, you may suspect that you don’t have all the information — good! There’s a Forrest Gump kind of luck born of blissful, optimistic ignorance. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 22). Most positive-minded people can find the opportuni- ty in a bad situation. But you will do something much more rare this year: You’ll turn an al- ready good situation into an optimal showcase for your unique work. You will touch and inspire people. Your strength springs from family; your best ideas spring from what and whom you love. Gemini and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 12, 9, 38, 2 and 17.
