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6A FEATURES My body’s my body Dear Annie: My hus- with Robert and told him that band, “Robert,” and I moved he was very infatuated with back to our hometown sev- him when they were younger eral years ago to help with — and one of his dying aging parents. I went back wishes is to see him naked. to work as a nurse, and he Robert came home all shaken joined his father’s up and upset and DEAR law firm. Upon mov- didn’t know what to ing back, we struck say. Now, I have to ANNIE up a friendship with tell you that Robert is an old acquaintance very fit for a 47-year- of Robert’s. “Tim” old man. He works and Robert went to out, runs marathons high school together and is very charming. and a year of college. But he doesn’t want We have invited to accommodate Lane Tim and his partner Annie Tim’s dying wish. I Creators Syndicate Inc. over several times for said, “Go for it. The dinner. We have often man is dying. Let him gone to their house. And we enjoy his ending days — even have spent time together at if it means you have to ‘strip’ parties and social gatherings for him.” I’m perfectly fine of mutual friends. with it; Robert is the one with Tim was recently diag- the issue — Open in Oregon nosed with an aggressive Dear Open: Well, Rob- type of cancer and has begun ert would be the one to take the process of getting his issue, wouldn’t he? After all, affairs in order. Robert has it is his body — not yours, been gracious in helping him not Tim’s. Only Robert gets with finances and household to say what he’s comfortable things that need to be taken with, and he’s spoken on this care of. He’s even stayed the subject. Now let it be. Surely, Tim can think of another last night when needed. Recently, Tim had a talk wish that doesn’t involve making a friend feel violated and uncomfortable. Dear Annie: I could be the person to whom “Loud- ness Sufferer” was refer- ring in her letter. My voice gets very loud. After chastis- ing and scolding me over the years, my friends now just use a hand gesture that tells me to lower my voice, and I do. However, it doesn’t sound any different to me. I have had my hearing tested, and it’s fine for my age. It’s not a habit I can break, as I don’t hear it. So my friends help me keep it in check, and that’s the best I can do. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one with this problem. Just thought I would let you know that “Loudness Sufferer’s” friend probably doesn’t hear it, either. — Bar- bara Bly Dear Barbara: I love the idea of the hand signal. It’s discreet but effective. Perhaps it’s the quick fix that will save “Loudness Sufferer’s” friend- ship. Thanks for the insight- ful tip. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JANUARY 22, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Today will present a “try before you buy” situation in the form of an item or an idea you can play around with awhile before it’s decision time. You might be surprised about what makes the cut. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There will be a strong inclination to rate yourself. If you must, then grade solely on what you’ve learned. Note that it would be ridiculous to grade yourself on money and resources you don’t have. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Steer clear of the “amateur therapy zone,” in which under-qualified people are overtly attempting to fix emotional matters. Leave it to the professionals. You can learn a lot more in the “zone of casual relating and observing.” SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Maybe you don’t really have bad habits after all. Maybe you just have a few different versions of yourself vying for ultimate power over you, each trying to do what will serve its unique purpose. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It is easier to be kind and loving when you feel safe. That’s why erecting an imaginary bubble of psychic protec- tion around yourself will help your interactions. You’ll be open and empathetic, yet you’ll deflect negativity. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You are always creating yourself. Sometimes this occurs in obvious, socially supported ways. But most efforts you make are quiet and internal — deci- sions to be braver or more compassionate and patient. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You won’t shy away from confrontation; rather, you’ll strive to face it the most effective way you can find. You won’t mind playing “bad cop” to someone’s “good cop” if it keeps the peace in the end. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You feel limited in a situation, but it’s unclear whether these limits are real. The only way to know is to test them. If your small infraction causes an incommensurate reaction, it’s an indication that the boundary is false. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s a little weird when spending your money becomes a group activity. However, weird can be good! And anyway, today this committee approach will be way more fun than spending your money alone. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The kind of change you want doesn’t just drop down from the sky or naturally occur if you wait long enough. It has to be made. That’s the main reason you’ll be so busy today. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Funny thoughts can be wise, and serious thoughts can be foolish. A great thing about today is that it won’t be nec- essary to categorize your thoughts in any terms other than “helpful” or “not helpful.” TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 23). You’ll see loved ones more often this year, and your days will be improved by friendship. February shows a financial breakthrough. March brings romance and creativity in abundance. A craving for free- dom will lead you to new places and experienc- es. The skill you pick up in June will continue to enrich you for years to come. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 10, 5, 30 and 43. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You are stepping into the gravitational pull of a different sphere of influence. It could be a new crush that will get you orbiting, or it could be an idea, project or attractive interest that draws you ever nearer. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE