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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 12, 2018 FEATURES Secrecy surrounds daughter Dear Annie: My husband 49 years. What do you think? and a daughter he fathered — Baffled and Hurting in 50 years ago recently found Florida each other via an internet Dear Baffled and Hurt- post from the two children ing: Are you positive this we have together. Since they woman is actually his daugh- met, he has been hiding in a ter, or is that just a cover story? Because he’s locked room and call- DEAR ing her several times treating this more like a day. When I asked an affair than a fam- ANNIE ily reunion. Either him to stop sneaking, way, the behavior is she sent him a phone wildly inappropriate to use just to call her. We live in Flor- and disrespectful. He ida, and she has come should want to inte- grate his newfound here twice in the past daughter with the rest six months and picked Lane of his family, not hide him up from several Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. you from each other. doors down the street. If she’s going to be Now I find she has been sending him cards and in his life, she needs to be in asking him to hide them from yours, too. That said, there are me. I might also add that the far too many layers than can first time she came here a year be excavated in the space of ago, he did not want any of us a column. Before issuing any to interact with her, going so ultimatums involving divorce, far as to throw our daughter try digging deeper with the out of the house when she was help of marriage counsel- there with her daughter mak- ing to unearth the truth of the ing a Mother’s Day gift. matter. My husband thinks this is Dear Annie: Reading the normal behavior. news about sexual harass- This behavior has caused ment, one might get the idea many arguments and has me that only men are guilty of contemplating divorce after this. I know this is not true. I do believe men are more prone to do so, but women in power can and do some similar acts. I know for a fact, because it happened to me when I was an elementary teacher work- ing with a female principal. I’d like more stories like mine to be shared. It is still embarrassing after all these years. Recent events have brought up feelings that I thought I had left behind, not counting the damage that was done to my career. The dam- ages of harassment can be long-lasting. — Bob Dear Bob: Sexual harass- ment and abuse are never OK, regardless of gender. I am so sorry that happened to you. It wasn’t your fault, and you shouldn’t be embarrassed. But I know that’s easier said than internalized. For help process- ing your experience, I encour- age you to consider counsel- ing. You can also reach out to 1in6, an organization that sup- ports men whose lives have been disrupted by unwanted or abusive sexual experiences. For more information and to chat with a trained advocate, visit https://1in6.org. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). To craft a surprise for another person requires you to be thought- ful, clever, knowledgeable of the other person’s rhythms and tendencies. ... Bottom line: To craft a surprise is a rather unforgettable act of love. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). If you’re con- stantly afraid of falling out of favor, you’re not in the right place. When you’re among people who really get you, you don’t have to sec- ond-guess your every move. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). New friends are often acquired in a setting of common interest. That’s why you help your chances along by following your curiosities and frequenting the places and topics that really do delight you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). One way to turn the fortunes in your favor is to organize your world the way you want it. As in all other organizational efforts, decide on your primary aims first, and then figure out how you’re going to support those ideas. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Some may know “just enough to be dangerous,” but a lot of ignorance is really much more dangerous than a little knowledge. A factually accurate education will be the balm that helps all steer clear of danger. CANCER (June 22-July 22). There are so many strange paradoxes in the world to reconcile. You may fully buy in to two opposite beliefs today. It actually isn’t that confusing as long as you don’t think of them both at once. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You love someone, and you want to make that person happy. And yet, to surrender your own will to the approval and good opinion of another would make you a slave to love. True love is unbound. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Celebrating your accomplishment in some way is absolutely critical to the success cycle. It might not seem important to you, but do it anyway. Otherwise the cycle will be broken and ineffective in gain- ing momentum. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If even the powerful and rich cannot entirely control their own worlds, maybe freedom isn’t really the ability to do whatever you want. Maybe it’s the ability to accept whatever is. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A black hole isn’t really a hole; rather, it’s a magnificently dense object with enormous gravitational pull. Relatedly, there’s something in your life that you once thought of as empty space that is actually loaded with power. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll give yourself fully to those closest to you, so you really need to make sure that your inner circle includes people you can count on to under- stand you. This is one of the cornerstones of your well-being. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s no time to wait around for people to make their minds up. You know what you want, so start moving. The high value you place on your time and energy will inspire others to value it, too. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 13). You’re impressively capable. You’ll attract people who are equal in this quality, as well as those who are seriously lacking in it. Team with the for- mer; work for the latter. You’ll rack up the good reviews and charge much more after August. Love will be lavished on you all year, though April and June will be especially romantic. Pisces and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 6, 44, 41 and 38.
