THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 5, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Friend’s annoying social habits Dear Annie: Over the past Her serial one-upmanship six months, a wonderful friend- may be an attempt, however ship has been developing with a misguided, at impressing and potential friend who enjoys the connecting with you. You can try cultural and outdoor activities gently raising the subject: “Have that I do. We are both exchang- you ever noticed that when I tell ing viewpoints, backgrounds, a story, you seem to have a ten- dency to tell a similar likes and dislikes freely. DEAR but more extreme story? However, I have two I think you’re trying to problems: When I share ANNIE relate, but sometimes it my experience about a makes me feel as though difficult health situation what I had to say wasn’t or maybe a familial sit- uation, she has to top important.” She’s prob- ably annoyed other peo- it or go one better with ple with this habit, too, her own personal expe- riences. I don’t ever feel and you’d be doing her Lane as if she’s really listen- Annie a favor by bringing it to Creators Syndicate Inc. ing in a compassion- her attention so she has ate way. And some- the chance to correct the times her response doesn’t even behavior. relate to the actual topic at hand. But the one-upmanship and The other difficulty is that she repeat storytelling could also repeats and repeats her own sto- be a case of pure self-absorp- ries. I respond — kindly, I hope tion. In that case, calling the — with “Yes, I remember you issue to her attention would do telling me about that.” How can little to change it, and you’d I bring about changes without have to look for close friendship hurting feelings or losing the elsewhere. Dear Annie: I’m writing in friendship? — One-Upped Dear One-Upped: Though to sound the alarm bells. I just relating to a friend is nice, listen- read the letter from “Problems ing is even better. That’s some- in Pennsylvania” — about her thing your new friend doesn’t husband’s porn habit, as well as seem to understand. his sudden interest in connect- ing with friends on Facebook — and it could have been the story of my ex. He had become more and more interested in sex- ual fantasies and looking at porn online, and when I realized his interest in our marital intimacy had diminished, I discovered long letters and conversations he was having with old girl- friends on Facebook, in which he expressed a desire to hook up again, with some very sug- gestive language. I subsequently learned that some meetings were taking place, and I moved out. When he begged me to come back, promising he wouldn’t continue, I foolishly did. Not a month later, I learned he was in a new affair, and this resulted in our divorce. I do believe, look- ing back at other behaviors, that he was a sex addict. Don’t over- look the warning signs. — Been There Dear Been There: No voice is wiser than that which speaks from direct experience. Thanks for sharing your cautionary tale. Readers, if you think your spouse may be a sex addict, visit the S-Anon International Family Groups website for resources: http://www.sanon.org. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Doing things right takes twice as much time as doing them wrong, except when you take into account all the time you’ll spend fixing and redoing. When you include that part in the calculation, doing things wrong takes three times longer. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll be entertained by your own subconscious. The ideas that pop into your head will surprise and delight you. Your wild imagination is a talent that the best people around you will celebrate. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You want to focus on the basics — work and relation- ships — but the non-essentials seem so much more fun. Why resist? There are silly adventures to be had and bits of ridiculous fun to grab. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Usually when the tug of war is over, someone has been dragged through the mud. When you feel the first resistance, consider bowing out of the game. You may not win, but you’ll stay clean. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Poor communication is never the problem of one person. The “co” in “communication” gives it away. It’s as much about what’s expressed as it is how that expression is received. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s more fun to visit places you’ve never seen with people you know well. The shared excitement of exploring builds bonds. If this dynamic isn’t in your immediate future, plan something. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You know a lot. You also know not to say all you know, because as interesting as your wealth of knowledge is, people prefer it in brief doses. Instead you’ll focus on listening and encour- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE aging others to play along. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Here’s a coun- terintuitive remedy to stress that will actually work today: Increase your task load. That’s right: Take on even more responsibility. Ev- erything will magically fall in order, and you’ll get it all done. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Someone wants to leap into your world, but don’t let it happen. It will be far more effective to slowly envelop them. Create a journey you both can enjoy. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When it comes to love, today you’re dangerously unguarded, opening your heart based on nothing but an intuitive notion. Ultimately the rewards will more than match your risk. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It will feel really good to handle what isn’t working. Get repairs. Mend the tears. Fix whatever needs it. And if it still won’t go, it will feel even better to cut your losses. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When two peo- ple have more or less the same conversation over and over again without understanding each other’s needs any better than when they started, this is an illustration of poor communication. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 6). Your solar return begins with a flurry of activity in your personal life. You’ll be making an import- ant commitment, too. You’ll find it easier to make money with what you learn in April. If you need a fresh start, May brings renewal and a clean slate. You’ll acquire property or a new vehicle for a great price in July. Virgo and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 48, 1, 13, 33 and 50.