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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 20, 2017 FEATURES Husband’s surveillance too much? Dear Annie: I have a lov- tal conflict about cheating or any- ing daughter, and I respect her thing. She has no way of knowing husband greatly. I have visited whether his snooping gadgets are from across the country count- on or off. less times. I am 84, and they have She says that it’s his thing two grown children. Everyone and that there’s no use in fighting is happy when we are together. about it. However, it disgusts me, The only issue as far as I’m con- and I don’t think I will be able to cerned is that the hubby, visit their home again if DEAR although generous and I’m being monitored. It’s kind, is overly domineer- not moral or proper. It’s ANNIE ing, bordering on being an invasion of privacy. a tyrant, and a nut about Should I mention this managing things, espe- to him or just stop going cially electronics. there? He would proba- On a recent visit bly be grossly offended, of mine, my daughter seeing as he is allegedly mentioned that he had “the master of the Lane installed cameras in sev- Annie house.” Not seeing them Creators Syndicate Inc. eral places in their house would be devastating to because I was there. It me because my daughter was supposedly so he can see the is my closest living relative and entryways to their home from his I love her dearly. We have never cellphone for security purposes. had a real argument since the day He installed them, however, so she was born. — Loving Gramps that he can both see and hear vir- Needs Advice tually everything that goes on in Dear Loving Gramps: I agree their house. He has even called with you that all that surveillance her from his office a few times seems a bit creepy. If this is part to say, “What room are you in? of a larger pattern of controlling I can’t see you.” She is about behavior, it could indicate emo- the most hardworking and hon- tional abuse. (Call The National est and kindest woman a man Domestic Violence Hotline, at could ever expect. He is a suc- 800-799-7233, for guidance.) But cessful and important provider. unless and until your daughter They have never had any mari- comes to you with such concerns, there’s not much you can do. Why not invite them over to your house rather than create a conflict in their marriage where there may be none? Dear Annie: I have two grand- sons in the military, and I am very proud of them. Each Christ- mas, I send each a card and a nice check. One I hear from as soon as he opens his mail, but I don’t hear at all from the other. The first year, I reminded the parents sev- eral times before I received a very nice thank-you letter. This past year, I said nothing and received no thank-you. This year, I want to cut him off (to get his attention) and then give him another chance next year. What advice would you offer me in this situation? — Wis- consin Grandpa Dear Wisconsin Grandpa: You shouldn’t have to jump through hoops trying to train your grandchildren to write thank-you notes. This year, do only as much as you feel inclined to do. Per- haps send a card but no check so he knows you’re thinking of him and you’re not thinking of him resentfully afterward. To the grandchildren reading this, let this be a reminder of just how much a simple thank-you note means. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). No one wants to feel indebted, and yet it’s a quick way to be in a tight relationship. People need to feel helpful. An indebted person is fulfilling that need. Whichever side of the equation you’re on, know that you’re fulfilling a need. really invest in this ego circus. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Because you come by your gift of empathy honestly, you might assume it’s easy for anyone to put themselves in the shoes of another. Not so. Your gift is rare. Set an example for others and eventually they will follow. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It only makes sense that found things are often in the same place as lost things, and commonly these losses and gains occur in the intersec- tions of life. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll do what millions of others do and still feel like you’re contributing something different. It’s because you really are. The world needs you to keep being your unique self. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Those who have nothing will be called on to show their patience, work ethic and perseverance. Those who have everything will be called on to show their grace, kindness and humility. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Pen and paper are still among the coolest tools that technology has brought us. The info and insights will come rapid-fire today, and you’ll be wise to make notes as you go. Later you’ll pass it on. CANCER (June 22-July 22). When the other person seems compelled to give more and more, it may be a kind of power struggle. The person who gives more has the upper hand. Step back and assess the dynamics. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). If someone is talking behind your back, it means that the person is behind you and quite possibly beneath you, but positioning isn’t the issue. Jealous people are dangerous people. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The current dilemma is about understanding the nature of love. Ask your heart of hearts who is on your side and your heart of hearts may not echo the same names you expected. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll be a thought leader today. This is quite a respon- sibility, but more than that, it’s an opportunity for fun and creation. To inspire people toward a brighter and more interesting goal is to change the world. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s one of those times when responsibilities bunch up on you, the schedule gets crowded, and you wonder why you agreed to so much. You can and will relieve your own stress by doing the things that feel right and good to you. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). They say, “Own the room,” and yet how many owners can said “room” really have? Three, max. Anyway, some “rooms” aren’t worth owning. Look around to determine how much you should FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 21). Aug- mented powers of attraction are the cosmic birthday gift that will improve your life in every way. The more creative you are with this, the grander your adventure becomes. A promise will be fulfilled in March. June brings a fortu- itous merger. The special tools you acquire in the spring start a whole new venture. Pisces and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 19, 2, 22 and 33.