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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2017 FEATURES Always tardy to the party Dear Annie: I have a friend ing it a very hard habit to break. who is always late. Lunch, din- So your friend’s chronic tardi- ner, concerts, movies — I don’t ness is likely as deeply embed- think I’ve ever gone to an out- ded in her as the things you love ing with her when she hasn’t about her. Keeping all that in mind shown up 10 or 15 minutes late. might make it easier not to take it She’s a lovely, caring person oth- personally when she’s late — but erwise and a thoughtful she can’t expect everyone DEAR friend, but I can’t help but to be so understanding. be put off by this seem- DeLonzor’s book, “Never ANNIE ing lack of consideration Be Late Again,” might for other people’s time, make a good holiday gift again and again. It’s hard for your friend, seeing as not to take it personally. she admits it’s a problem. She knows it’s a prob- Dear Annie: This may lem and has vowed to be seem like a strange prob- lem, but it is frustrating more punctual. It was her Lane me to no end. New Year’s resolution last Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. I have beautiful candy year, and it probably will dishes for everyday use be again this year, but I’m not holding my breath for change. and for all the holidays. I love to I just want to know: What gives? fill them with expensive candy for Why are some people always late? looks. I don’t have them all over the house. They’re just in the liv- — Waiting Games Dear Waiting Games: ing room and dining room. According to time management I don’t keep them out all the expert Diana DeLonzor, people time, but when I do put them out who are chronically tardy tend to and fill them, I want the candy to be optimists. They have unrealis- stay. However, my husband just tic expectations of what they can can’t get it. I have treats in the get done in a set amount of time. cupboards and freezer for him, so Jeff Conte, an associate professor he isn’t ignored. He can have all of psychology at San Diego State, he wants when I decide to change says lateness is connected to deep- candy or put away the dishes, but seated personality factors, mak- he is always in the candy dishes. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Another problem is that I have to hide goodies from him, or he will eat it all in no time. I will put candy, cookies and snacks in the freezer for our grandsons or com- pany. When I go to get the good- ies, they are gone. I can’t keep potato chips on hand for when I might want a few with a sand- wich. He eats a can of nuts before I know it. He is not overweight, and I cook good, healthful meals for us. I am like a chipmunk, stashing food all over the house. It irritates me so much! — Weird, Stupid or Selfish? Dear Weird, Stupid or Self- ish?: You are none of the three. You are simply frustrated that your husband eats any junk food that you buy. Picture your hus- band like a squirrel who eats or hoards all the nuts he can find. That is just the way he is, and he’s not going to change. As you say, you are like a chipmunk and you just need to find more creative hiding places. As for filling the nice dishes, check local gift shops or craft stores for beautiful hand- blown glass “candies.” These would look even prettier than real candy and be less appealing to your husband. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Arguably, half of belonging is just acting like you belong. Feeling like you belong is obviously huge, too. But if you do a little of both and still feel like a bit of a misfit, just know the others who “belong” feel about the same. now, you’ll want to remember. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You may get a late start because there are certain things you’ll do to get your head in the game; they take time. The rituals help! It’s more than just coffee. It’s ways you motivate yourself. Keep reinforcing what works. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it’s what keeps humans evolving. As for you, you’ll prove your superior in- tellect by listening to many sides of a story before forming an opinion, if it even comes to that. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It doesn’t feel true, but there really is a guidance system in you that never shuts down. In those directionless moments you think that your soul lacks a GPS, but it’s been in your pocket the whole time. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve felt at times that you were fundamentally different from those you were brought up around, so it’s pretty refreshing when today you recognize some nice ways in which you are alike. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s some- thing you want to know, and it will be revealed to you indirectly — through small talk, intonation and body language. So there’s really no need for probing questions, deep discussions or heated arguments. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The water drops seem to reach for each other. The stream is suddenly the river, and as the river connects with ocean, the river is the ocean. Today your water-sign nature will echo this tendency to join completely. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Simplification is part of the brain’s job. It’s why the first time you travel somewhere the journey seems longer and more detailed; then later trips are short and blurry. It’s also why you should go a different route today. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’re changed by every circumstance, and that’s a good thing. It means you’re open to letting life in. It means you’re listening and learning. It’s true that you have to protect yourself at times by making yourself hard, but not now. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Snap decisions will be necessary — mostly in matters of taste and style. Your decisiveness in this regard will make a project hum along at a pace that every- one can appreciate. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It is often the case that one broken bulb renders the whole line of holiday lights useless. Let the metaphor remind us to check on one another so we can all be bright together. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Choose a memento representing the mundane aspects of your life. A picture would be enough, but it’s not the same as something you can hold in your hand. Years from FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 13). You’re afraid of something, and you want it at the same time. Over the next seven weeks, desire takes over and fear lessens just enough for you to dive in. This exhilaration will benefit many areas — your health, your love life and more — and the best part is that this will be true whether or not you get what you want. Capricorn and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 3, 33, 38 and 50.
