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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 30, 2017 FEATURES Husband is always looming Dear Annie: I am concerned very first time, and it has led to some about one of my friends, “Amanda.” positive changes in their marriage. She and I are both middle-aged The next week, Amanda’s hus- housewives with only part-time band just showed up with her at jobs. For the past six months or so, our lunch. I welcomed meeting him we’ve been having lunch together because I knew he could see that I’m a straight woman who poses no once a week. Amanda comes from a threat. DEAR much more repressed back- Since then, however, ground than I do. She was he has come with her ANNIE raised to believe that wives every week. He owns his should be submissive to own business, so he must their husbands, etc. have rearranged his whole Our weekly lunch is in schedule to lunch with us! a restaurant that’s located He sits with us but doesn’t inside a supermarket. I like say much. He mostly plays the food there. Amanda with his phone. Of course, Lane used to say she liked the Annie my conversation with Creators Syndicate Inc. location because when her Amanda is quite different husband asked about her with him sitting there. This day, she could truthfully tell him whole thing seems weird to me. I’m she had only gone to the grocery. afraid that if I were to say much, She said it would take time for her our lunches would end altogether. to let him know about having a new Do you have any suggestions? — friend. Silenced in the Supermarket Amanda has complained about Dear Silenced: Though you her controlling husband. She told might be limited in what you can me he checks her phone and email say to Amanda, your mere presence all the time. However, she has speaks volumes. It tells her she’s such an upbeat, happy disposition, not alone — that someone cares. To I thought she was exaggerating. someone in an abusive relationship, About a month ago, she told me that that’s an invaluable message. And since she’s gotten to know me, she’s that’s why the best thing you can do had the courage to speak up to her for Amanda right now is to continue husband about some things for the attending these lunches and pretend- ing her husband’s presence is wel- come. Any perceived rejection of him would be used to separate you from her. Call The National Domes- tic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) for more guidance. Dear Annie: I certainly sym- pathize with “Concerned Legion- naire’s Wife.” Many years ago, I attempted to sign up for an Amer- ican Legion post but was told by a misinformed individual that women could not join the organization. Rather than judge the entire organi- zation by the erroneous view of one individual, I found another Amer- ican Legion post. Today I am the national commander of The Amer- ican Legion, and that original post displays my official photograph with the words, “She could have belonged to this post. Remember, women are veterans too!” Though I cannot speak about the specific allegations that “Concerned Legionnaire’s Wife” mentioned, I would like to encourage her to report any malfeasance to her state’s American Legion headquarters. With 13,000 posts spread through- out the United States and even over- seas, there will be some personal- ity conflicts. But I encourage people to visit our website, at https://www. legion.org, to learn more. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ve earned the chutzpah you have, but you need a little more for what you want. You don’t get to have the confidence for free. The price of confidence is doing what scares you. First you dare; then you become daring. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s hard to put a price on learning. But if you gain even one insight that changes you, makes you think differently, gives you a degree of comfort or inspires you to be more, whatever brought you to that was worthwhile. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There’s some- thing you keep locked away in your heart that’s become a part of you, reflected in your every move. Take it out; re-examine; and decide if it still belongs there. If not, toss it. If so, polish and return. CANCER (June 22-July 22). What keeps you good even when you don’t feel like being good? Principles. Your principles will now be the restraint keeps you on the path of being the best possible version of yourself. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Everything moves, not necessarily forward. Some backward slides are a positive relaxation of hypervigi- lance. Some backward slides are dangerous regression. Know the difference. In the latter case, take preventive action. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you believed that whatever or whomever you’d like to add to your life was within the realm of possibility, what would you do to get ready? Do that. Because with this kind of clearly defined wish, amazing things can happen. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s hard for some to clock the moves you’re making, because you’re simply going too fast for them. You’re a FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE blur! There’s no reason to slow down, either, since there are plenty at your pace who will keep you company. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you write your priorities down, much will become clear about your life, what’s working and what’s not. Today, the tic-tac-toe model will work well. If you have more than nine priori- ties, it’s too many. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Some people don’t know the value of a thing until other people point it out. But if it’s not apparent to them, is it really valuable or not? Maybe good things are only good to those who see the goodness. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When others throw stones at your ideas, don’t even bother throwing them back. It’s a waste of time and energy. Collect the stones as if they were a gift. Use them to build your empire. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your cravings will be informants that point to an underlying need, a nutrient that your diet is lacking or an emotional nutrient that is currently absent in your life. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You may not know exactly what you want to do now, and that’s OK. As long as you have a framework that guides you, you’ll be in a fine position. Opportunity will arise that you had no idea was in the realm of possibility. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 1). You give yourself to your loved ones, and you’re a cherished part of the group. But to live for them is to deny the one life you’ve been giv- en: your own. In summary, you’re a person, too. Aries and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 11, 40, 45, 21 and 18.