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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2017 FEATURES Teenage third wheel Dear Annie: I do not get to I am not good with con- see my friend “Amy” as often frontations but have hinted a as I’d like because of our few times to my friend that busy schedules. My problem this bothers me. Can you give is that she continually shows any advice on how to handle up to our planned outings this situation? I’m thinking of with her daughter, just giving up on this DEAR “Jennie.” She gives until Jennie goes to little or no notice college. — Three’s a ANNIE when she’s bringing Crowd her. Her daughter is Dear Three’s a 17 and not mature for Crowd: Mother birds her age, and I don’t shouldn’t wait until feel comfortable they’ve an empty nest talking about adult to take alone time for things (such as mar- themselves now and Lane riage issues or other Annie then. It’s healthy to Creators Syndicate Inc. personal problems) in get together with front of her. I end up friends and commis- feeling obligated to ask her erate about adult problems questions about her school — though not in the presence and her boyfriend, etc. This of children. I’m not sure why has been going on for years, Jennie would want to go to though I understood when the every single lunch with her child was, well, a child. I just mom or why her mom would want to have grown-up time make her. But there’s no rea- and conversations with my son you can’t politely request friend. I almost want to can- one-on-one time. The next cel when I find out that Jen- time you two are planning nie is tagging along again. an outing, say something like It bewilders me why a girl this: “I’d really like a chance this age cannot cut the apron to talk to you about my per- strings, though I don’t care if sonal life, and I just don’t feel comfortable doing that when it doesn’t affect my time. Jennie’s there. Could we keep this lunch to just us?” If she rejects the idea, put the ball in her court. Ask her to let you know when it’s a good time for the two of you to get together. Dear Annie: I am writ- ing in response to “If Only He Had a Heart,” who com- plained about her younger brother’s behavior. One of her statements was sheer prejudice: “He was ... let’s face it, a teenage boy.” Not all teenage boys are trouble- makers. Why should “teen- age boy” be a synonym for “bratty, angsty and enti- tled”? No other group can be treated as being all the same just because some are bad. But apparently, it’s OK to say such a thing, because you didn’t correct her. — A Teen- age Boy in Texas Dear Teenage Boy: I appreciate your writing. You are absolutely right. Not all teenage boys behave badly, and making sweeping gener- alizations helps no one. I’m printing your letter to correct the record. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Who is on your side? Not that people have to be on your side for you to get something out of interacting with them. But if they do happen to be on Team You, you’re going to feel much more comfort- able and free around them. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Every family has its own kind of delicate balance to strike, and today you’re throwing weight in this corner or the other just to keep things afloat. Don’t wear yourself out over it. Give others a chance to contribute. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Lying opens the door to doubt. It makes it hard to believe or to be believed. There’s a small and tempting lie hanging over you — maybe it seems like the kinder choice — but if you can avoid it, do. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your family balance may be upset, but this is very positive. It’s what had to happen to strengthen the bonds. Tonight, you’re open-minded. You may even be willing to travel beyond reality as you know it. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Improvement is the goal. If improvement is always the goal, even- tually you’ll hit the heights. But if you make the heights the goal, every small win will be dimin- ished by the cruelty that is comparison. CANCER (June 22-July 22). For the sake of being orderly, you may have to cut something out. You may have to lose a lot of something, actually, but the remaining part should be much easier to manage. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The simplicity of your approach will be disarming to those dealing with massive complexities. And as they pause to observe, perhaps in wonderment or maybe just to chuckle to themselves, you’ll make your next brilliant move. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Strongly consider putting your thoughts into written form, espe- cially in a letter to someone you appreciate. Everything about the written expression will be thoughtfully received, maybe even cherished. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you can keep to the topics and activities that contribute to your health and stay on purpose, this is no small thing. Reward it. You might be surprised how few people can do this. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Do you have people around you who believe in you even more than you believe in yourself? Because that’s a gift. Treasure them, and let them know about that, too! AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Today’s luck springs from appreciating where you come from, partly because you’re now experienced enough to understand the pressures and free- doms of adulthood and the difficulties involved in raising another human. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). In the wizarding world, you say your spell, wave your wand, and it’s done. In the physical world, there’s so much more breath and flesh to involve in it. Maybe that’s better. Work will feel good to you today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 24). It’s not that you want a total change, but a few key refinements on your wish list will be granted in the next three months, and this will up your entire game. January is the start of a new level of self-love and acceptance. March brings a change of scenery, and June is all about build- ing up your loved ones. Gemini and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 44, 5, 16, 21 and 37.
