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6A FEATURES Adventures with social media Dear Annie: In this day and social gathering. age, it is very hard to ignore what I am trying not to take this per- people are doing in their private sonally, but I can’t help but feel lives when it’s plastered all over slighted and disappointed that Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. our family has yet to be invited Specifically, I am referring to pho- to their home. I “like” all the tos of social gatherings that have pictures from all their parties, me feeling left out. but inside I’m bothered DEAR I have a grown child that we aren’t import- who is married. Recently, ant enough to have been ANNIE the married couple invited over as every- one else has been. Sug- moved. When they moved gestions? Thoughts? — in to their home, we were Family Matters there to physically help Dear Family Mat- them. The whole family ters: I can tell your feel- helped in their move — ings are about to boil all four parents, an uncle, Lane over, so turn down the a sibling and a nephew. Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. flame or take off the lid. We also gave them a The former means very generous check for a housewarming gift so they could cooling off. They only moved in buy a few extra things for their recently, as you said; maybe they wanted to host an intimate dinner new home. It has been my great displea- with each side of the family sepa- sure to learn, from their posts on rately and your daughter-in-law’s Facebook, that my son and daugh- side just happened to be first. The ter-in-law have hosted a few din- latter means expressing how you ners in their new home. She’s had feel — but in a healthy, positive a “girls’ night in,” and he’s had a way, free of guilt-tripping and “guys’ night in.” They’ve hosted accusations. For example, you a dinner party for my daughter- might tell your son, “We’d love to in-law’s side of the family. How- come over sometime when you’re ever, as parents of the other child settled in and it’s convenient for in that marriage, we have yet to you.” The main point is not to be invited to their new home for a blow up. Dear Annie: Wow! I couldn’t agree more with “Don’t Shoot,” who hates having her picture taken and posted online. I am a very private person and do not understand people’s crazy obses- sion with living their lives on the internet. I’ve no interest in telling the world what I ate for breakfast. When I ask folks not to include my picture or my name in post- ings, I get the same reaction as “Don’t Shoot” — that I need to get with the program. My husband and I made a pact not to bring our phones to the dinner table, includ- ing when we are out to dinner. It amazes me to see folks sitting together with their heads down, peering into their phones and hav- ing conversations with everyone except the person sitting across from them. Where did we lose our manners? — “Outta Touch” in Virginia Dear “Outta Touch”: It is sad to see a couple looking at their phones more than each other’s face. Witnessing that makes me worry we’ve lost not just man- ners but a bit of our humanity. Fortunately, since printing “Don’t Shoot’s” letter, I’ve heard from dozens of people echoing this sen- timent, which means there’s hope. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 15, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You sense how your loved ones are feeling and cater to that emotional state. For people who have you in their lives, that pretty much comes with the package. Not everyone you know will be so emotionally intelligent today. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s only natural to want to be near the person who makes you feel good about yourself. Those who make it all about themselves, on the other hand, are repellent to you. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The situation may seem to call for a reaction, but there’s a huge benefit to being slow to react, if any reaction is necessary at all. This is one of those times when you might do nothing at all and the problem solves itself. work to make things better, whether or not it’s the popular choice. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). If you want to say no, just say it and be quick about it and all will be well. Saying maybe (when you mean no) will hang both you and the other person in an uncomfortable limbo. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There’s far too much work to get it all done in a day, but if you start early you’ll have a fighting chance. The morning hours show you energetic, and with a determined gleam in your eye. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Tidiness will lead to happiness. The success key today could be as simple as cleaning up some part of your life that’s gotten out of hand. This kind of effort may very well change everything. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If anyone can de-escalate the tension and purge the atmosphere of negative vibes, it’s you. Mostly this is done by changing the subject. It also doesn’t hurt that you refuse to buy into other people’s realities. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Although you’re very likely to take other people’s needs and wants into consideration before you make your move, you are also aware that ultimately they are not the ones who have to live with the consequences. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Poke into your fears. Whatever you do to face them, deal with them or even avoid them — it will make your life better. That’s as long as you’re not ignor- ing fear (which is a strategy that sometimes works, but not today). PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re confi- dent in your knowledge, yet you’re also well aware that there are many other truths and ways. Your open mind will serve you well and net you more friends and supporters than one with a more rigid mindset. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). This is not a good day to share the details of a relation- ship, especially facts that could cast a bad light. You may come to forgive some trans- gressions that others won’t, and in that case you’ll be glad you kept them to yourself. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 16). You’re growing in power and will be surrounded by people who can handle that instead of be threatened by it. The next 10 weeks introduce new plans and people to your life. A problem that affects your family will finally be solved at the start of 2018. A quest will begin in March. Aquarius and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 40, 2, 20 and 18. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just because something is socially acceptable, that doesn’t make it right. You’ll notice an injustice and FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
