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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2017 FEATURES Ostracized over parentage Dear Annie: I need your advice. Dear Annie: My wife and I are In my social life and at my places in our late 20s and have been mar- of employment, I used to tell people ried since we were 18. We have that the man who raised me with my two wonderful children. The prob- mom was not my biological father. lem I’m having is dealing with my At work, customers and co-work- wife’s mother. ers would say unkind things to me We recently moved to a new city about that. Then, a few so my wife could be closer DEAR weeks later, I would get let to her side of the family, go for no logical reason, or which was fine with me ANNIE it would turn into a hos- because she never really tile work environment and had much of a relationship I would be forced to quit. with her mother growing The final straw came when up. We have now lived in I was leaving church and this city for three years, the clergyperson shook my and in that time, my wife’s hand goodbye and at the mother has never made an Lane same time pushed me out Annie attempt to re-establish any Creators Syndicate Inc. the door. I had a DNA test type of relationship with done, and it turns out that my wife — or our children, my dad is my biological father. for that matter. I don’t feel I owe people an Every time there is a fam- explanation, and even if I did, they ily function going on, my moth- would probably not believe me any- er-in-law does everything in her way. How do I handle these horrible power to keep my wife from find- people? — Really Dad’s Little Girl ing out about it so that our family Dear Really Dad’s Little Girl: is excluded. And whenever we host I’m thinking there must be more family functions, my wife’s mother to the story than you’ve included always has an excuse for why she in your letter, because their behav- won’t be able to attend. ior sounds bizarre. Your biology is In addition, my wife and I have none of their business. If you were not had one night to ourselves since terminated because of your parent- we were in high school. We even age, you should have legal recourse. took our firstborn on our honey- moon because we couldn’t get a Contact an attorney. baby sitter. I think that is where grandparents and other family members should be involved. It’s hard on my wife. We have two very well-behaved kids, and it’s kill- ing my wife that her mother won’t watch our kids. I know that my wife wants to create a relationship with her mom that she never had, just as she wants our children to have a grandmother in their lives. I am so sick and tired of watching my wife reach out to her mom. Am I wrong for want- ing to protect my wife from certain heartbreak? Or should I let this go and let my wife handle her mother? Any advice would be greatly appre- ciated. — Protective Husband Dear Protective Husband: Your mother-in-law sounds like a real piece of work, but there isn’t much you can do about changing her attitude or behavior. You can and should continue giving your wife support and encouragement, but ultimately her relationship with her mother is between the two of them and not you. As for getting away together alone for a night or weekend, what about other mem- bers of her side of the family? If no one will help, then maybe you could consider moving closer to your side of the family. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Recently, some- thing might have happened between you and another person that, in one way, signaled that one of you understood what the other was going through. But in another way, it was offensive. So much lies in the interpretation! Emotions need a rest. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your experience of the world is unique and all yours. So don’t be surprised when they don’t seem to be on the same page. They might still get there. All that’s needed? A few flips. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Maybe the job is getting repetitive. Or maybe your life is getting repetitive. Though you don’t get paid for life outside of work, it can become just as monotonous as the 9-5 grind. But something will break the cycle of repetition. And that will please you immensely. sense of humor. It’s the magic combo. You can’t lose. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The overarch- ing feeling is the thing. If someone picks up on the details and tries to make a case, well ... that may be sound in theory, but theory is not practice. What’s real is what’s going on. So: What’s going on? SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you can resolve the historical, you can resolve the present. Bonus: Sometimes this happens without actually having to get your hands dirty in the present. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What you wouldn’t give for a clean slate. It’s the wish of everyone: Don’t forget it. And the grace of so- ciety is that minor infractions can be rewritten and glossed over with the stroke of a wand. Really! So just start new. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Things today will be the same as yesterday, and yet you’re a lot different — not a little, a lot. Why? Answer this question and your next big idea is on the tails of it. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Running into an ex is only fun if you happen to be looking even better than you were. It’s why you give extra effort to the mirror today. You never know! LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Whatever led you to your love, you’ll follow it again and again. It’s not because you think it will lead to your love; it’s because you know it will lead to your rapture. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Someone is being super mean to you. This goes way back. It’s not about you, but that doesn’t make it any easier not to take it personally. Stand strong. The cosmic forces are with you. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Oh! The same old questions will come again and again ... but you don’t have to give the same tired answers. Change it up. They’ll ask, “How are you?” And your creative answer will better your fortune. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 15). You are strong on your own, and yet you’ll also have a hero in your life this year. In 2018 you’ll make a trade that improves your lot. Also you may be willing to give something up for love — but not everything! A brush with fame has a lesson in it. You’ll be building a team in Feb- ruary. Pisces and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 33, 39, 19, and 14. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your responsi- bilities will be more fun than you anticipated they would be. Involve people who share your FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. 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