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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 7, 2017 FEATURES Facing down rejection Dear Annie: I am in my 20s kids, and I want to get back to help- and working multiple jobs. A few ing them do their best. But after years ago, I began substitute teach- this series of rejections, seeing the ing at the elementary school in the dark side of working with chil- town I grew up in. For about two dren and being away for so long, years, I filled in for many teach- I find myself afraid to go back. A ers and even worked long term a place I once enjoyed now makes my stomach turn when I few times, but I was never DEAR think of going there. How a permanent employee do I conquer this fear and at the school. It was fun ANNIE get over these disappoint- connecting with the kids, ments? — Feeling Like a and I even ate lunch with Failure one student regularly after Dear Feeling Like a being his aide for a few Failure: You applied to weeks. Additionally, I one teaching job, and you worked as a supervisor for made it to the final round the school’s summer day Annie Lane of the interview process. care program. Creators Syndicate Inc. In my view, that’s a win. I aspired to work there Ask the folks who inter- full time but was not hired, despite interviewing multi- viewed you whether they would ple times. I decided I just needed a be willing to provide some feed- break from substitute teaching, so back. I’m not sure what your edu- I did not go back until late in the cation level is, but it’s possible that year, and when I did, the classes I you need to complete additional had were anything but fun. I tried schooling to be a viable candidate. Today’s job market is highly to reconnect with the student I had lunch with, but his teacher would competitive, and hardly anyone not permit me to do that again, gets the first job he or she applies despite thanking me for doing it to. You’re probably going to have to apply to lots more, and that’s previously. I was so hurt after all of this OK. If teaching is what you really that I decided to give up on teach- want to do — it sure seems as if ing. Now I find myself missing the it is — then you won’t be happy until you’ve given it everything you’ve got. Dear Annie: My dear neigh- bor “Susie” and I attend the same exercise class twice a week. She wants to alternate who drives to the class, but neither she nor her husband is a good driver. He has vision problems and had an acci- dent, and she is a nervous driver, as well as a nervous passenger, calling out whether it is OK to proceed at an intersection. I really don’t want her to be the driver. How do I diplomatically tell her that I would prefer to drive or meet her at exercise classes with- out hurting our relationship? — Perturbed Passenger Dear Perturbed Passenger: People tend to get defensive about their driving skills, so you’ll need to sugarcoat this bitter pill as heav- ily as you can. Bring it up at a calm time, not when you’re in the car together, and present the issue as being more about you (e.g., “I get carsick easily if I’m not driving”) than her. Tell her you’d prefer driving to the classes. If she reacts poorly, give her time to cool off, and start driving on your own. You cannot continue riding with unsafe drivers simply out of guilt. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re a person who’s not afraid of being wrong because you really want to know what’s right, and so you’ll meet even your own perception with some measure of doubt. This takes a secure person. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Familiar emo- tions, even negative ones, get comfortable. To feel a certain way might be nothing more than a habit. The more times you conjure up a feeling, the easier it will be to do so. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You may find yourself replaying a drama over and over, and it’s certainly getting old. But don’t worry: The addition of even one new friend is enough to shake up the whole dynamic. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The miners weren’t the only ones to get rich in the gold rush. Those in the business of selling shovels did mighty fine as well. There’s some kind of shovel-equivalent in your realm. Do you know what it is yet? LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s easier to be yourself when you’re comfortable. Getting comfortable is the tricky part, especially in situations and around people very foreign to you. Settling in will take time and repeated exposure. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you knew you were going to get criticized for it, would you still do it? Better question: What if you knew that no matter what choice you made, it would get criticized? What would you do then? LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you try too hard to forget something you’ll remember it well, and if you try too hard to remember some- thing you’ll forget it. The answer is to write things down. Somehow this will magically FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE help with both remembering and forgetting. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Anticipate boredom, and decide that you’re going to do something about it beyond your phone. For instance, paying attention to something different in the scene will open the way to new insights. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). When others behave badly, it makes you want to do better. The misbehavior of others will cause you to check yourself to make sure you are not committing a similar offense. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your origi- nality will shine through today. You’ll be in the same situation as the others and take some- thing totally different from it. For this reason, they need you and you need them. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Occasionally, the social aspect of your work can go against your mood. But once you adjust and get into the flow, your mood will change for the better. There’s a prize at the end of the interaction. This one is not to be missed. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll be drawn to neutral places and underwhelming experiences, because environments that lack excitement encourage imagination. In the quiet, you’ll solve a problem. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 8). You’ll wield great powers of magnetism this solar return, some of which come from knowing what you want and being confident in your plan. You’ll get a number of joiners before the end of the year. A special person will come back into your life. An out-of-balance exchange will become equal and just. Aries and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 16, 20 and 1.
