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6A FEATURES Daughter is being bullied Dear Annie: My daughter, an Should I speak to the girls them- eighth-grader, had always enjoyed selves (individually) in a noncon- going to school until recently. She frontational way about why they has many friends and has always are doing this? Do you have any received straight A’s. My wife and suggestions on how to handle this I have heard from some of her situation? — Desperate Dad Dear Desperate Dad: Your friends’ parents that she is being daughter needs help, but bullied by two of the pop- DEAR only in a way that comes ular girls, both online and from someone else. Have with gossip behind her ANNIE you talked to her teachers back. We have no evidence or school administrators? of the online bullying, as Most schools are deter- it has been erased. My mined to prevent bullying. daughter confirms the bul- The adults need to be sen- lying and says one of the sitive of the need to keep girls even gets in her face you and your daughter out at school, flips her off and Annie Lane of it so it doesn’t look as calls her names. Creators Syndicate Inc. if your daughter came cry- She doesn’t want us to ing to Daddy to fight her get involved, because she thinks that would make it even battles. At the same time, encour- worse, so she goes about her busi- age the school administrators to ness, smiles and attempts to be cor- talk to your daughter’s friends and dial with the girls. I see these two their parents to find out the facts often at sporting events, and we so they can confront the bullies to have spoken to the mother of one make sure they stop. If they don’t, of them before, so I am considering you might consider finding a new speaking to her about it despite my school. There are too many sto- daughter’s wishes. Their fathers are ries involving teenage bullying that out of the picture; one is in jail. And have tragic endings. Your aware- neither mother seems to have much ness and sensitivity are extraor- control or the ability to enforce dis- dinary and might well save your cipline, so I don’t know whether daughter from something serious. Dear Annie: My wife and my discussion would make a I were discussing a reply we difference. have noticed from young adults recently. When we are waited on in stores, restaurants and the like, these young people respond to our “thank you” with “no problem.” After many years of using and hearing “you’re welcome” as the appropriate response, this answer — indicating that we are being done a favor — is a bit grating. Granted, this is not an earth-shak- ing event, but nonetheless we both find it less than appropriate. Could you give us your thoughts on this linguistic change? — Out of Touch Dear Out of Touch: This is a generational thing. Whereas baby boomers say “you’re wel- come,” millennials say “no prob- lem.” They mean the same thing. As someone who grew up hearing “you’re welcome,” you find it grat- ing when someone says “no prob- lem” because you interpret it to mean that the person thinks he or she has done you a favor. But that is almost certainly not what the per- son means. Ask any young person. When young people say “no prob- lem,” they are really saying, “It’s nothing. No need to thank me. I was happy to serve you.” If you interpret it that way, you’ll feel a lot better about it. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Ailments of the soul require the healing balm of faith. As it is with all balms, the healing isn’t really in the ointment. The balm creates a condi- tion in which the body can put itself back together. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Good news is fun to deliver. You’ll be tempted to leave the bad news for someone else to tell, or maybe if you ignore it, it will somehow go away. Hey, it’s actually worked before. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Being good can be hard. Draining. It is possible that you actually feel weary from constantly doing the right thing. Maybe there’s such a thing as being too good. Anyway, you don’t need to do wrong. Rest and do nothing instead. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your en- couragement will boost the morale of your group. Your role as cheerleader is crucial, because all those little extra things you do — the efforts you make that you don’t have to make — create cohesion. You’re the glue. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s a powerful, driving beat behind your love — a rhythm that moves everything forward. Just be careful not to overpower anyone with your energy, because that would be counterpro- ductive to your desire. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Expectations are so tricky. Often people really will rise to the guidelines that expectations impose. But right now, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by what occurs when you loosen up in your expectations of a loved one. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The technology will fail, glitch and even seem to mock you today, but this is all a test of your patience, FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE and ultimately very easily solved. These issues make you extra appreciative of the devices that serve you daily. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your deft han- dling of a delicate matter will earn you the trust and respect of the kind of intelligent, sensitive people who recognize the value of social skills such as yours. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve come to the bridge. As you make your way across, appreciate all that went into building this shortcut that joins all the places you want to go. This appreciation may keep you from burning the bridge later. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The im- possibilities may be, upon second thought, quite possible after all. In fact, there’s a whole range of things that might occur were any one of the elements involved to be changed or subtracted. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sit quietly, processing your thoughts until you feel that you can accept what’s going on in your life. You might not get to that point, but you will make progress. Anyway, there is no greater success than coming to terms with now. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). People who are just trying to help often don’t know how best to do it. Friends might overstep boundaries. Your tact will go a long way. If there’s a choice between taking issue with something and letting it go, do the latter. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 27). You’ve the savvy to turn a small amount into a hefty sum. This isn’t about gambling; it’s about intelligent investing. Sagittarius and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky num- bers are: 20, 4, 11, 13 and 9.
