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6A FEATURES She’s shoplifting with kids Dear Annie: My son and his ior with my daughter-in-law. I wife have been married for 11 did not want to confront her in years, and my daughter-in-law, the store and cause a scene. Any age 31, has struggled with alco- suggestions on how to handle holism, depression and anxiety this with her and how to continue for the past six years. She’s also the conversation with my grand- attempted suicide a few times in daughters? — Concerned for the past three years. She Granddaughters DEAR is under the care of a psy- Dear Concerned for chiatrist. But who knows Granddaughters: It’s ANNIE whether she is telling not just Mom’s shoplift- him the truth? She also ing that these girls are is a shoplifter. My two dealing with. Even if they young granddaughters might seem too young to know that their mother understand what’s going does this. I’ve spoken on at home (alcohol- with my granddaughters ism, anxiety and clinical Lane about this, as has my son, Annie depression), I’d wager Creators Syndicate Inc. and they both know it is they’re picking up on wrong and have asked more than you realize. their mother to stop. Broaden the conversation to She shoplifted again yester- be not just about the shoplifting day while we were shopping incidents but also about their lives with my 9-year-old granddaugh- and feelings in general. Include ter. While my granddaughter and your son in these conversations. I were alone for a few minutes in You might privately suggest to the store, we discussed what to him that he set up an appoint- do if Mommy were to be caught ment with a child psychologist. going out the door with the stolen If they’re internalizing the stress items. The plan was to just keep of their home lives right now, it walking to the car. I did not want could impact their development my granddaughter to be subject to and have lifelong effects. Dear Annie: I have a friend that. But yet again, my daughter- who has been married for many in-law got away with it. I’ve not broached this behav- years and is in a loving relation- THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ship with his wife. For some rea- son, over a decade ago, his wife ended their physical relation- ship. There was no reason for this abrupt change. After a few years, he casu- ally mentioned to his wife that he had noticed that there had been no physical contact for a while. She began to cry and promised to “do better.” It was a very short con- versation, with no recriminations, no questions as to why this had occurred, just acceptance. Years went on, and there was still nothing. For some, infidel- ity, counseling or even divorce would have been the next step. None of those was acceptable to my friend. Instead, he unilaterally decided that his wife was no lon- ger his wife. He would now spend the rest of his life living with his former wife, now his newly dis- covered “long-lost sister.” He still loved her just as much as before, still enjoyed living together as friends. It was a “no mess, no fuss, no bother” relationship-sal- vaging solution. — Hope This Helps Dear Hope This Helps: Part- ners can enjoy a strong sense of companionship without physical love. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Soon you’ll go from stealing the show to having your own show. But you’re not quite ready for either one just yet. Quiet observation and careful listening are the skills you most need to employ for now. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). People have unspoken demands of one another, and the agreement to those demands is often also something that is never discussed. But when it’s time to change the deal, as it is now, the way to do it is with words. lean. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you’re the one in charge, it’s easier to say yes. That’s why effective leaders have to be people who aren’t afraid of being unpopular and declining the proposals of their constituents. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). A slow, gradual approach will be very favorable for this leg of the journey. You’ll be stronger and more certain by the time you get there, and you’ll be received with confidence and trust. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You need to express yourself. The added pressure you put on yourself about whether that expression is good enough is really unnecessary and could actually be quite harmful if you let it stop you. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). To regret wasting your time is an even further waste of your time. So instead, you’ll take action. You’ll plug a leak, break a chain or erase the board and start all over. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you can’t figure out the business side of a problem, it’s per- haps because the other sides of it are a little murky as well. But the good news is, as you sort through, organize and get clear, all sides improve at once. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It will be difficult to get anything personal done if you involve too many people. When it comes to working alone, motivation is the hardest part, but after you get motivated you can work much faster than you would with a group. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The stumbles and heartache and sacrifices — they weren’t for nothing. You’ll solve the problem, win the proj- ect, save the day. At the very least you’ll have a better idea than you would have come up with last month. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). A large gesture creates a big impression. That it’s the right impression is more important than its size, though. Think about what you’re trying to ac- complish, and make a plan instead of rushing forward with the first idea. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’d like to believe that people always get what they give, although it just doesn’t seem to happen in some cases. Even if it’s only true some of the time, it’s still worth putting into practice. Your life is richer for it. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 17). Because you know that the minutes go by regardless of what you’ve put inside them, you are ever vigilant to fill your time with what has meaning and value to you. You have never been so in touch with what moves you, and new inspiration and motivation comes each and every month of your next solar return. Aquarius and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 11, 40, 2 and 9. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The ego gets small- er the same way the body does. Don’t feed it as much. Don’t give it everything it wants. The ego will serve you best when it’s strong but FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
