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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2017 FEATURES Don’t come to his funeral Dear Annie: This is a prob- invited guests know to keep the lem I know my family will address to themselves because have pretty soon. My mother it’s a private event. If the ser- married my stepfather, “Skip,” vice is being held on private after my father died 19 years property, you can explain the ago. My stepfather had eight situation to the owners and ask children before they got mar- for their assistance in keeping out unwanted guests, ried, so I have eight DEAR who would technically stepsiblings. My mom be trespassing. passed away a few ANNIE All that said, the years ago. onus is on the three Three of Skip’s sons brothers to respect won’t speak to him or their father’s final visit because he gave wishes. Should they his daughter power manage to attend of attorney and they the funeral, keep the were very upset by Lane focus off them and on that. Anyway, the prob- Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. remembering and cele- lem now is that Skip brating the life of your doesn’t want his sons at his funeral at all. Besides these stepfather. Dear Annie: I just read three sons, he has another son and four daughters. And he has your column with the letter told all five of them to make from “Sad and Over It, With sure the other three aren’t there. Empty Pockets.” It was about My question is: What can be a deadbeat son’s not paying his done to get them to stay away parents back for a student loan. at the funeral without causing I almost fell off my chair. That a problem and without getting is almost the same situation I the law involved? Please help am in. About nine years ago, I me to tell them how to fix this. co-signed a student loan for — Very Unhappy Dear Very Unhappy: You my granddaughter. She prom- can try keeping the location of ised to pay it back. She said the service a secret and let all she really wanted to attend this 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. expensive school. After about seven months, she quit. She has not made a payment in almost two years. The balance owed is a little over $10,000. I get collection calls daily. I explain that I am on Social Security and have low income. They don’t care. I sent my granddaughter a letter stating that she has to do something. She told me she isn’t working and has two kids to take care of. I tell her to call the agency and arrange to make interest payments. She refuses. I thought about calling an attorney but was worried that her mother (my daughter) would be upset with me. Well, after reading your reply to “Sad and Over It, With Empty Pock- ets,” I will be calling an attor- ney this week. Thank you, Annie. You have been a great help to me. — Empty Pockets, Too Dear Empty Pockets, Too: I’m proud of you for stand- ing up for yourself. I hope the attorney’s letter straightens your granddaughter out and you’re made whole. Remember that assertiveness is not cru- elty; it’s merely self-respect. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ll think logically and ask, “What am I trying to accom- plish here?” but don’t get too intellectual on it. Sometimes you just have to feel it and make your move. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’re not lazy about work, and neither will you be lazy in matters of love or friendship. You’ll go even when you feel like stopping in order to please or help another. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Instead of of worrying about how your needs will get met, you focus your attention on serving the people you care about. Service has a way of turning up your personal power — and your mood. CANCER (June 22-July 22). As you think of the one that got away, know that and this per- son’s unique and appealing qualities are myth- ically and enormously exaggerated through the lens of memory. Also know that someone thinks of you in this way. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Ideally you would devote yourself to an important cause, although that does get a little complicated, and you may have trouble finding your “in.” There’s actually more potential in that silly little cause that’s grabbing at your attention. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Not everything requires a thought process to move forward. When a thing is ready to take off, it will. Growth isn’t always a plan. It’s often just what happens in a conducive environment. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You can tell when a person is listening to you but not understanding you, or looking at you but not listening to you. You won’t take it personally. Rather, you’ll use it as a chance to experiment to find more effec- tive communication. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It seems like good ideas are being snatched up all around you. Actually, they were snatched up long ago, and now they’re just getting reworked. There’s more where that came from. Seek antiquated inspiration. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you focus on what’s wrong, people will tune out. Also, if you dance around the subject, your mes- sage won’t land. So be as clear and direct as possible about what you want. Don’t forget the sugarcoating, though! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s a message in joy and a message in pain. Both will point you in the direction of more happiness and enjoyment today, so be quick to pick up on the hints. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your focus will be more inward this weekend and that’s an ad- mirable direction that will serve you much better than distractions that keep you from examining your own mind. Building a rich inner life will lead to a rich exterior life. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). This is a day for skipping steps because you need to get quickly to the heart of the matter. For instance, you may assume a warm familiarity with someone you hardly know in order to become fast friends. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 14) You’ve kept an attitude of gratitude through seemingly unfavorable circumstances, and something tremendously fortunate came of it. Surprisingly, it will be more of a challenge to keep a grasteful heart through the wonderful good that happens this year, such as the windfall next month and January’s award. Try, though! Scorpio and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 40, 33, 12 and 19.
