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6A FEATURES Gay teen rejected by family Dear Annie: I am a 15-year- forgiven. Is there anything I can old boy, and my family hates me do? — “Riley” Dear Riley: I know life is very because I am gay. For as long as I can remember, I’ve known I hard right now, but I beg you, am attracted to other guys. My please, do not hurt yourself. And parents found out last year and if you feel that you are going to, became extremely angry with dial 911. If you are not in me. All I feel now is their DEAR immediate danger and hatred. They say I am a would just like to talk disgrace. Though they ANNIE to someone who under- still take care of my needs stands what you’re going — food, clothes, shelter, through, I highly recom- etc. — they say that when mend calling the Trevor I turn 18, I’ll be on my Lifeline, at 866-488- own. I am not included 7386. The Trevor Proj- in any family outings or ect is a nonprofit orga- welcome at any of my Annie Lane nization that focuses relatives’ homes. Creators Syndicate Inc. on suicide prevention I try really hard to get among LGBTQ youths, them to love me again. I work hard at school and have and someone is there to help 24 excellent grades. I am constantly hours a day, seven days a week. doing work around the house, but Whoever answers can provide nothing gets acknowledged. I try resources for coping with the to apologize for being gay, but hardships you’re facing at home. You are beautiful and per- they won’t hear it. The only one in my family fect just the way you are. Hang who still seems to love me is my in there and there will be happier big brother, but he is in the Army days in your future. I promise. Dear Annie: A farm that has and only comes home a couple of times a year. He has talked to been in my family for four gen- my parents on my behalf, but they erations was passed down to me. don’t listen to him at all. I have I love this land. It is not a great considered suicide, but I really investment, I admit, but I don’t don’t want to die. I just want to be want to sell it. Instead, I would like for my children to own it when I die. My children don’t share the same connection to the farm that I do. I understand that they most likely will want to sell it so they can use the proceeds for some- thing else. I am OK with that. The problem? My husband insists that I should put his name on the deed now or provide in my will that he will inherit the farm from me if I die before he does. He insists that I should do so “as a sign of respect.” He says that he might need to sell it to pay for his care in old age. I doubt that, because we are reasonably well- off, but I have offered to put the land in a trust so that if he doesn’t have enough money to pay for his care, the income from the farm can be used to support him. He is not satisfied. I am worn-out from arguing. What should I do? — Love This Land Dear Love This Land: It is your ancestral farm, and you should do with it whatever you please. But seeing as you men- tioned that money isn’t really a concern, have you looked into donating the land? You seem to have such a deep connection with it that you might find joy in know- ing it went to a good cause. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Sometimes the more you learn about something, the more you want to learn. Sometimes what you learn helps you decide it’s not for you. You’ll know right away which way it’s going and act quickly on the knowledge. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Work-life balance is a common buzzword these days, and yet it’s a moot point when you’re involved in enjoyable work with people you love. This is something you’re creating for yourself with the actions you take. ble, apply the golden rule. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The success of this day depends on simple sorting. It’s about matching what you have to give to the people who most need it. Even better — what do you enjoy giving? Find the ideal receiver for that and everyone will be happy. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You want to connect, but it will be hard today, as the people around you are so different from you and not in a good way. Stop judging, and just observe for a while until you feel a little more comfortable. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Young people require your tenderness; elders require your compassion; and all the in-between people mostly just need respect and a little attention. Cover this social checklist and it will be an excellent day, indeed. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Someone who intends to look out for your best interests may instead be unintentionally holding you back from getting the very best education you can be getting. Don’t let your love for a person cloud practical judgment. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Nothing will give you more enjoyment than adding to your skills and your knowledge base today. There are more ways available to you than ever for this. Even top universities offer free courses online. Shop around. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). From family favorite to local star to full-blown fame — this is the journey of more people than ever in the current media-saturated milieu. Perhaps you don’t quest for fame, but you’ll definitely see the benefit of good publicity. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Remember that closed minds and hard hearts are softened by small, weak, vulnerable things. Better to inspire people to drop their defenses than to take up arms against them today. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re the leader — maybe not officially, but you’re the one everyone is following, so... close enough. Keep driving the action with your subtle, genial ways. Do you really need the title? There are many benefits to not having it. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Life is weird. You live it forward, but you understand it backward. With that in mind, don’t stress yourself over the minor choices of the day. Leave that for the amusement of future-you. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The weak will require your tolerance, and the strong will take even more of it, if you’ve got it. You should be able to muster some, and if you’re having trou- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 19). The start of 2018 will serve your highest good — piping hot and delicious, too. Even your accidents will have happy results. Next month features a surprise visit. Also there’s a key in- vestment opportunity before Halloween. Gemini and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 50, 5, 24 and 17.
