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What is etiquette for miscarriage?
Dear Annie: My sister had a for your sister’s loss. Tell her one
miscarriage this week, and I’m time how very sorry you are for
at a bit of a loss. I want to sup- her loss and that you love her
port her but fear that I am put- very much. Say it only once, and
ting too much of a focus on it. say it kindly and compassion-
I’m not sure whether I’m expect- ately. Sending flowers would be
ing a certain type of response a thoughtful gesture, and I would
unfairly from her — sad-
encourage you to do so if
DEAR
ness, anger, frustration
you are so inclined.
Sadly, you are cor-
— but she seems to just
ANNIE
want to move on. With
rect that miscarriages are
the rest of our family,
common, occurring in
there’s a feeling of hope-
roughly 15 out of every
100 pregnancies, and
lessness all around, as
that it’s not something
we’re not sure how to be
people talk about often. I
there for her and her hus-
think that silence is con-
band. I was going to send
Lane
nected to a long-held
them flowers and a sym- Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
(and erroneous) socie-
pathy card, but my other
tal belief that a woman
sister thought it could be
too much of a reminder. I think is somehow to blame for losing
a lot of the uncertainty of what a pregnancy.
But miscarriages shouldn’t
to do stems from the topic of
miscarriages being a bit taboo. be taboo at all. I, for one, would
However, I know they are more love to see a world where there
common than many think. I’ve is more support for women from
known a few people who have women who have had miscar-
experienced miscarriages, but it’s riages. We need to shore them up
not always talked about openly. and recognize that their bodies
I’m not sure why they are viewed were actually working perfectly.
Dear Annie: I have a boy-
as shameful or a secret or some-
thing to hide. Annie, I’d love to friend, whom I love dearly. But
hear your thoughts on this. — one thing he does makes me
crazy. He’s always commenting
Unsure in Ithaca
Dear Unsure: I am so sorry on other girls’ beauty. We will
be watching TV, and he’ll say,
“She is beautiful and has a nice
voice” or “She is really pretty but
can’t act.” He tells me I’m beau-
tiful, but I wouldn’t say the same
things in his presence about men
I see. I did that once so that he
could see how it feels, but he
keeps on doing it. I know guys
talk this way to one another,
and that’s fine. But I don’t know
why he has to always say this
to me. And sometimes it’s with
facial expressions and hand ges-
tures to indicate how “hot” she
is. — A Secure Woman Feeling
Uncomfortable
Dear Secure Woman Feel-
ing Uncomfortable: You could
ask him to stop sharing these
thoughts, but it wouldn’t stop
him from having them. And I
have a feeling that would start
to nag at you, too, because you’d
always wonder, “What’s he
thinking about her?”
The comments may annoy
you less if you look at them as
a sign of how open he feels with
you. Not only does he think
you’re gorgeous (and he tells you
so); he also feels close enough to
talk to you as a friend. Embrace
that and you’ll feel even more
secure.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). All your
prophecies will not be self-fulfilling, thank
goodness! However, the more you think
something, the more power you give it, and
that goes double for today, so focus yourself
well.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Thought for
the evening: It’s impossible to make anyone
feel a certain way, but you can certainly be
the wind that blows the sails toward that
emotional destination.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There will be a
change in your team. This is not a change
for better or worse; rather, it’s a change that
everyone will have to get used to if you’re to
continue forward as a group.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t have
to be an experienced cook to know a recipe
for trouble. Two or more incendiary elements
are all that’s needed. The real question here:
What is your tolerance for trouble?
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). While it’s true
that all good things must come to an end,
so must bad things, mediocre things and
eventually (but not soon enough) dreadfully
boring things. You’re getting better at wrap-
ping things up and keeping faith that there’s
better to come.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A string of good
moods will lift you through the weekend as
though your heart really does have wings.
Of course, the influence of that certain
special person doesn’t hurt.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You learn
a lot about people because you don’t
make assumptions about what’s going
on with them. Your listening skills are all
you need to deepen a connection and
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
create understanding.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You look so
good dealing with a less-than-ideal situation
that it makes you appear much more com-
petent and attractive than someone who
doesn’t have anywhere close to the amount
of hassles you do.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Relaxed
and playful — that’s the way to be. There’s
hardly a single thing today at work or in your
personal life that warrants a stressed-out
response.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What’s
hard for you is easy for another. What’s hard
for another is easy for you. So exchange
work and help each other out, why don’t
you? Great things will come of it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You can’t
change them, but you can change you —
and oddly that will inspire just the change
you were hoping for. So go on and boldly do
what you would if they didn’t even exist.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Just because
a person possesses something doesn’t
mean he or she feels good about it, appre-
ciates it or is even remotely confident in it.
Just remember that superficial appearances
are often carefully constructed.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 15).
You’ll be awarded, and rightly so: You’ve
grown stronger, better at what you do and
certain enough of yourself to weather the
very wind that would have ruffled your feath-
ers long ago. Because of this, you can let
down your defenses and accept new love,
challenge and more with a lighter, abler atti-
tude. Capricorn and Scorpio adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 7, 13, 30, 48 and 19.