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Traumatized over male nurse
Dear Annie: I would like settings seems to be that a male
your opinion on a very distress- nurse is entitled to tell me what he
ing problem that I — along with can do with or to my body.
Fortunately, I was given a
a lot of other females, I’m sure
— have. It concerns my desire to female nurse after I spoke with
have control over who sees my a supervisor and convinced her
body while in a nonemergency that I would leave the hospital and
die before allowing this
medical situation.
DEAR
strange man to take care
I recently was con-
of me. It’s not as if the
fined to a hospital bed
ANNIE
majority of nurses aren’t
for four days because of
women and readily avail-
a nonemergency situa-
able anyway. Please help
tion. While there, a male
by putting out the word
nurse tried to pressure me
of how much damage
into letting him conduct
can be done to people
very private and intrusive
like me. — Tortured in
exams and procedures on
Lane
New York
me. He became almost Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Dear
Tortured:
belligerent in trying to
Health care provid-
make me believe that he
had “every right” to do what he ers should put each individual
wanted simply because he was a patient’s needs front and center.
When you made clear that you
trained nurse.
Annie, I was sexually abused were uncomfortable with this
in the past and am traumatized nurse’s touching you, he should
at the mere thought of a strange have stopped, even if he was just
man — even if he is a nurse — trying to administer care. After
touching me. Please don’t write all, it’s not “care” if it’s unwanted
me off as just some kook who and distressing. Though hospi-
doesn’t want to be hassled; it goes tals aren’t required to give female
so much deeper than that, and nurses to female patients, many
unless people have been through will try to accommodate such
what I’ve been through, they requests, especially if the patient
can’t understand. The philosophy has been a victim of abuse in the
of a lot of hospitals and medical past. The next time you’re sched-
uling a visit to the hospital or doc-
tor’s office, let the staff know your
needs upfront.
Additionally, this might be a
good time to revisit counseling to
address the trauma of your abuse.
If you need help finding a coun-
selor, you can call the Substance
Abuse and Mental Health Ser-
vices Administration’s National
Helpline at 800-662-4357.
Dear Annie: I suspect that
most millennials do not even read
newspapers, but here is my mes-
sage for them.
If you are planning a wed-
ding, find someone to advise you
on wedding protocols, including
writing proper thank-you notes.
Do not use the Internet to thank
gift givers. Your generation seems
to be focused on making wed-
dings big affairs — yet often with-
out the level of expertise or man-
ners that should accompany such
an event. Keep it small, gracious
and welcoming for the folks giv-
ing you their best wishes. — Dis-
gusted in Florida
Dear Disgusted: I agree that
modest weddings are wonder-
ful weddings. Social media have
contributed to the “go big or go
home” attitude many people seem
to have toward wedding planning.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
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Forward movement usually depends on mutual
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certain person’s warmth, and you’d like to get
more of it, if possible. Don’t even worry about
ingratiating yourself to this person. Instead use
the warmth to grow the seeds of greatness
inside yourself.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll need to
educate someone, which is of course best
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if you do everything right, your subject may
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ROSE IS ROSE
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