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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 1, 2017 FEATURES Rearranging the furniture Dear Annie: My husband You can erect boundaries, and I have been married 34 but because your husband is years. He’s a wonderful man. closer to her, he needs to do His sister, “Debbie,” is awful. the heavy lifting. My husband remodeled our Express to him just how old house, and as soon as Deb- much Debbie’s visits impact bie saw it she started hound- you, between the furniture-re- arranging and the ing him to come do DEAR binge-drinking. And hers. She lives three with regard to that states away. She ANNIE second point: She wants him to remodel her kitchen and add clearly has an alcohol problem. If you and a bathroom. She told your husband con- him that she would pay him $10 an hour tinue to host her even when she’s drink- to do it. He said no: ing, you could be He knows that she is Lane never happy with the Annie enabling her. Make Creators Syndicate Inc. her staying with you work anybody does on her house. conditional on her not She also has a drinking drinking. Tell her if she drinks problem. From the second and drives, you will call 911, she rolls into our driveway, because she’s a danger to her- she has an open beer in her self and everyone else on the hand. We’ve seen her drink road. Dear Annie: I have writ- five beers and call each one her “first beer today.” I can’t ten scientific papers on a vari- decide if she thinks we are stu- ety of cancers, including skin pid or blind. My husband and melanoma, which takes more I have tried to talk to her about lives every year. Unless caught her drinking problem, and early, the prognosis remains she just accuses us of stretch- grim. While the shape, color ing the truth. — Way Past and size of a blemish might suggest a malignancy, only a Annoyed Dear Way Past Annoyed: surgical biopsy can secure a diagnosis. Here’s my problem: While in a crowd — usually on a beach or by a pool — I have noticed someone with a sus- picious blemish. Though I’m tempted to suggest an exam by a physician, two fears have made me hold my tongue: the distress caused by a total stranger confronting a per- son in such an intimate way, and the needless anxiety if a biopsy shows no sign of a malignancy. — Heads-Up on Melanoma Dear HUOM: Perhaps you could print out some cards that say something to the effect of, “I’m a medical doc- tor. I am giving you this card because I noticed a blemish on your skin that I believe you should have examined by a physician.” Keep them in your wallet to discreetly hand out when necessary. This would give them space to decide whether to see a doctor, with- out having to get into a con- versation about it. No doubt it will still be a little uncomfort- able — but if it saves even one person’s life, it’s worth a thou- sand awkward moments. 7C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Modes of mind can be triggered automatically before you even notice or know what’s happening. For this reason you can’t be blamed for your moods, though you’re still responsible for managing them. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There are people who are just better for you. They bring out the better side of you. They make the stresses of daily life seem like no pressure at all, because you see yourself as they see you — strong and capable. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s possible you’ll think more deeply than clearly, which won’t be helpful. So when you feel yourself getting very ponderous without a direction, simply stop asking questions and do something physical, such as walking. moments spill into the rest of the hours. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Remember the mo- ment when you owned the room, though quite by accident, making people laugh and want to play? Well, it gave you a taste for being the center of attention, and you’ll figure out how to get back there today. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Memory is kind. Happy ones get better over time, and sad ones fade. What happens over the course of this day will be a perfect package for nostalgia to wrap itself around in the future. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Emotional states are infectious. Yawns, laughter, nerves and just about anything you can feel have the possi- bility of rubbing off on others. Associate with the happy and fortunate people and be one yourself. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ve a very upbeat attitude, and there’s nothing petty that can bother you or throw you off your game. Truly, optimism makes you immune to 80 percent of the things that bother those around you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Since there will be people around you who have expertise they either don’t mind sharing or would absolutely love to share, you’ll be in a lucky position to learn — and possibly have your problem solved for you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You command atten- tion, sometimes uncomfortably so. Sometimes you’d rather deflect it or hide out than take your moments. It’s fine to feel shy, but is this a missed opportunity to channel awareness to what’s important to you? PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Don’t worry about willpower. Your imagination is so vivid today that when you direct it to see and taste what your work will bring you, you won’t even need willpow- er to move toward that gleaming prize. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You are dedicated to your chosen work and willing to apply yourself more intensely than before. In fact, the subject of your strong feelings may take over your life in the next few days. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Serenity is not some distant ideal. You already experience it many times a day. It’s just a matter of letting those FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 2). You’ve seen enough plans come to fruition to think a little bigger and enough dashed hopes to respect the risk and sweat investment that must be made on the regular. Family celebrates together in December and May. You’ll get a fresh start for a relationship that’s been through a lot. Cancer and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 12, 2, 22, 7 and 31.