THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, AUGUST 28, 2017
FEATURES
Dealing with the past
Dear Annie: My husband, asleep, unclothed, on the bed.
“Matthew,” and I started dating at
Matthew and I were engaged at
15, got married at 21 and have been the time he and Will were room-
happily married for 45 years. We mates. I had always trusted Mat-
have two happy and successful chil- thew and thought that I had been his
dren and four beautiful grandchil- only sexual partner, as he was mine.
Life the last six months
dren. I thank God everyday
DEAR
between us has not been
for what we have.
But something came up
good. He swears to me he
ANNIE
did not have sex with her,
one night six months ago,
but when I question him
when my husband’s old
about details his reply is: “I
roommate, “Will,” called.
don’t remember.”
We were telling those
I am nagging the poor
“remember when” stories,
man to death, but I am so
when Will said, “Ask Mat-
miserable I can’t stand it.
thew if he remembers the
Lane
I think if Matthew would
night I accidentally walked Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
come clean and answer all
in on him and Tina sound
of my questions I could let
asleep lying naked on his
this go. I would appreciate your take
waterbed!”
We were on speakerphone, and on this matter and I know he reads
when my husband heard this com- your column. I’ll be waiting for
ment, it looked like he was about to your answer, as I feel it will be to go
fall through the floor. I immediately to counseling. — To Let It Go or Not
Dear To Let It Go or Not: I’m
said, “Oh, sure, Matthew told me
all about that, but I’ve forgotten the sorry you’re in this position. One
exact details over the years.” Will foolish, reckless night does not
proceeded to explain that he had negate the love you and your hus-
been riding around and picked up a band have shared for 50 years —
couple of girls and brought them to but the fact is you’ve been deeply
the house. When it was time for Will hurt. Though this happened a long
to take the girls home, he knocked time ago, to you it’s a fresh wound.
on the door but there was no answer. Your husband needs to respect that.
Knowing the details of their
That is when he discovered the two
encounter won’t give you peace of
mind. But as you mentioned, talking
out your concerns with a marriage
counselor could help a great deal.
The sooner you make that call, the
sooner you and your husband can
put this behind you and perhaps feel
closer than ever.
Dear Annie: It seems bache-
lor parties have turned into mon-
eymaking events. My 23-year-old
son has been invited to many of
them lately. Grooms hold gambling
nights or raffles to offset the cost of
the honeymoon. I would not have a
problem with this, but my son gets
invited to these events when he’s not
even invited to the wedding. I was
under the impression that if you are
invited to the prewedding festivities
you are also invited to the wedding.
Am I just old-fashioned? — Nancy
in Ohio
Dear Nancy in Ohio: Wed-
dings have changed a lot in the last
few decades, but etiquette remains
important — and inviting someone
to a prewedding event but not to the
wedding itself is a major breach of
etiquette. It makes people feel as
if they’re on the B-list. If your son
won’t be a guest at the wedding, he
should not feel pressured to attend
the bachelor party, period.
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). No matter what
else is going on in this big group around
you, you remain uniquely yourself, con-
cerned with your own business. Mindfulness
of what is before you — this is tranquility.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There’s
something to be said for automatic mode.
You don’t always have to “feel it” to do it.
Sometimes it’s just about showing up. And if
your autopilot can get you there without too
much thinking, thank it for a job well done.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You need a
close relationship with another person to
help you feel valued and cared for. Everyone
does! That’s what friends are for. If your
friends aren’t serving that role, it’s time to
look at the relationships.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). It may feel as
though you’re not doing much, but in reality
it takes massive amounts of brainpower to
sustain your current lifestyle and manner
of being. Thank your body and mind for
keeping up with you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). As for those
relationships that are more exciting than
they are stable, you may still find you have a
place for them. The solid people in your life
help you endure the roller coaster relation-
ships.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If it seems too
hard, and you don’t want to do it (but you
must), start with smaller increments of work.
If an hour is too hard, think of a half hour, or
15 minutes. You can do just about anything
for 10 minutes. Start there.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Professional
success will be simple: Maintain your energy
and love for the work. Bonus points if you
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
can find a mentor. You will be especially re-
sponsive to the encouragement of a Gemini.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Talking is
optional; you certainly don’t have to try to im-
press anyone. Listening is harder. It’s often
enough to honor others with your attention.
You’d be surprised how little eyeball-to-eye-
ball time some people actually get.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). This day
gives you a chance to practice the art of
managing other people’s expectations. Be
careful what’s implied and doubly careful
with what’s promised.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your fate
is linked to others’, so select partners, dates
and friends with care. It only takes one per-
sonal connection to get a party started, give
a project wings or push an idea into form.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People
will come through for you and help you
solve whatever problems arise. Show your
gratitude and there will be more where this
came from.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your mood:
ultra-driven. So you’ll get what you want and
then have to deal with the reality of what you
worked for. Therefore wanting well is crucial
these days.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 29). Love
is your essence, and it’s reflected back to
you from the majesty of nature, the fantasy
world of fiction, the beauty of a loved one’s
eyes. New experiences envelop you in 2018;
a lifestyle transformation is in store. You’ll
hone a talent and fit it to a lucrative niche.
Invest and believe in yourself. Cancer and
Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 9, 30, 11, 27 and 17.