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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, AUGUST 17, 2017 FEATURES Sad about growing older Dear Annie: I’m 81 years never acknowledged? What do I old. Of all the issues I read about do with the guilt I feel for being regarding seniors, no one seems angry with my precious husband to acknowledge this one, and I when I want to do something but just know I am not alone in this: we just sit home and dissolve the grief of trying to come to into meaningless TV because he grips with the fact that I am old. can’t physically do it anymore? What do I do when I First let me say that I DEAR can’t see or hear things live with my husband of and have to fake it? 60 years; I have friends ANNIE Bottom line: How do and a good church com- I make myself accept munity; I exercise five the fact that I am old? times a week; and I — Louise A. have fulfilling hobbies. Dear Louise: Let But what do I do with your children or other the frustration I feel that younger family mem- we can no longer stand Lane bers know that you’re or walk the long dis- Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. struggling and what you tances for all the enter- need from them — sup- tainment and activi- ties we used to enjoy? What port, acknowledgment, more do I do with the memories that quality time together or any- should bring me happiness but thing else. Commiserate with friends instead make me sad that they are no longer? How do I deal your own age about your frus- with seeing how traditions that trations. Just being around peo- my parents, grandparents and I ple who “get it” can be incredi- have tried to keep going seem bly healing. It is futile to try to stop your- lost on the new generations? What do I do with seeing fam- self from feeling sad about old ilies having fun together while memories. It is sad. It is hard. no one ever thinks to invite us Accept these feelings, and if older people along? What do I they are too deep and hurtful, do with the cards and photos I processing them with a therapist send and calls I make that are would be helpful. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: This is a response to “Obsessed and Tired,” the young teen who is obsessed with Internet stars. She mentioned that she believes her Internet obsessions are based on her lack of friends, but when I was a teen who was obsessed with anime, I used that interest to make friends. I went to con- ventions, joined clubs and went to events — all places where I could meet people who liked and enjoyed the same things as I did — and I met (and still meet) lots of new friends while enjoy- ing the things I like. Luckily for “Obsessed,” this is an age in which the seemingly “nerdy” groups of young peo- ple are becoming more social and outgoing and have more to access and share. So I would sug- gest to her that she research and look into various events, conven- tions or even fan group meet-ups (usually made through Facebook groups) to branch out her social network and make new friends while fully enjoying the things she likes. — A Fellow Nerd Dear Fellow Nerd: I love this idea. I’ve passed your mes- sage along to “Obsessed and Tired.” Thank you for writing. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re not interested in being a decent communicator or an adequate leader. You want to be great. That’s why you’ll work out the solutions before you point out the problem. What use is complaining if you can’t make it better? TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The research suggests that for many people, talking about themselves can be more rewarding than food or money. Giving someone the opportunity to do this is thereby a very valuable gift. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). When you feel a little blue, you’re apt to behave in ways to reinforce the mood. It’s why having a reason to fake happiness — such as to interact with children, strangers or your boss — can be a passageway to real happiness. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’re trying to keep it classy. You behave as though your every moment were going to be broadcast to the people you most want to impress. It will help to remember who those people are and keep them in mind through your day. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ve a ritualistic approach to things about your life that don’t really require such care. It’s working for you. So don’t skip steps, and don’t change details or the order. Rituals give things meaning and make them interesting, and they have a habit-forming potential. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll be the most disciplined and mentally sharp within the first four hours after waking. Take advantage of this by get- ting the hard work done and over with. By lunch, you’ll already be ahead of the game. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Sleep is a process based on phases. It doesn’t work right if the phases are interrupted. In that case you have to go back to the beginning and start all over. Work is the same. Shield against interruptions, as there will be FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE many today. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). No matter how hard you look, the workings of the heart can never be fully seen or understood. Anyway, some things are best approached with the cursory attention that keeps daily life moving along. Ruminate at a later date. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll be in a position to be rated, judged, critiqued or followed. Your audience will be skeptical, and you can win them over with your delivery of information you know to be true. They’ll feel your integrity. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your original plan won’t seem nearly as exciting once you realize that other people are out in the big, wide world having some fun. Review your priorities so that whatever you decide, you can do it consciously and feel good about it. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Whatever you get into today (work, relationships, projects) leave yourself an out. That’s only smart. As things devel- op, so will your feelings, and right now you don’t know how you’ll feel about it next week. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Entitlement is a contagious disease. One person decides “I deserve this!” and the next gets the bug: “Well if he deserves it then maybe I deserve that and more.” Choose your company carefully. Prize humility and modesty. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 18). Your com- mitments follow a natural course; they ripen and fall from the vine. This frees up your time. You’ll get a thrill from learning. Each skill you acquire in 2018 will double your odds of being successful. To you this is about much more than money, but you’ll love the extra cash anyway, and you’ll buy something big in June. Libra and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 3, 24, 39 and 45.