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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, AUGUST 11, 2017 FEATURES Dish washing debate Dear Annie: This is a con- much as I hate to be wishy- stant debate in my house, and I washy, I have to say it depends. am sure it is in others. I would Filling up the sink, as your son like to know your opinion on does, is more environmentally this. friendly because it uses a lot I say that if you clean less water. So if you’re con- cerned with saving dishes under running DEAR the planet or reducing hot water (with soap, your water bill, that’s of course), you can ANNIE the optimal method. get them cleaner. My Personally, I prefer son believes the best using running water, method is to fill the for the reasons you whole sink with soapy mentioned. It’s faster, water first and then and it just feels cleaner. wash all the dishes Dear Annie: Your in the same water. I Lane advice to “Mother- personally think this Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. less in the Midwest,” wastes time, because in whose mother has the time it takes to wait for the sink to fill, I could have inexplicably always been cruel half the dishes done if I were to her, was spot on. I really liked to clean them my way. Also, your line, “Your head must be I think his way is unsanitary; a friend to your heart.” Hav- even though you are using hot ing been raised by an unloving, water and soap, the water still toxic mother, I can also offer a collects residue and germs from line: “Live with no regrets.” I was in my 40s (I’m now what was on the plates previ- ously. So I find filling the sink 64) before I finally realized that not only a waste of time but there was nothing I could do to also unsanitary. What is your change this unhappy woman, opinion? Fill the sink or clean so I had to change how I let her the dishes under running fresh get to me and had to keep a lov- ing distance, for my sake and hot water? — Washing Well Dear Washing Well: As my family’s. (I often neglected my family members over her needs and wants.) After my loving father died, I continued to check on her and address any needs she had that I could help with from a distance. I knew that if I repaid ugly with ugly, I would regret it. That’s just not me, and it’s just not right. I realized I had to love my mom even though her behav- iors made it impossible to like her. When she passed away, I had a most unexpected reac- tion: relief! How sad is that? People say I am a kind, loving and caring person. I still miss my sweet dad, but to this day, I do not miss her. On Moth- er’s Day, when social media are blowing up with emotion, I still can’t work up an “I miss her.” I know she had issues, and I did love her. I joke with my sister that I hope I can count on heav- en’s having “many mansions” — with mine being in a dif- ferent neighborhood than our mother’s. — Relieved in the South Dear Relieved: Life is too short to live with regrets. Kudos on your positive attitude, and thanks for sharing. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re building a fortress of love around you now. Love cannot immunize you against all future sadness and emotional pain, but it will definitely make it much easier to bear. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ve plenty around you who, like dogs, love you uncondition- ally and are excited to see you. It’s the cat-like people who are featured today, though. They might ignore you until they’re suddenly in the mood for attention. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you were a flower you wouldn’t be a rose with protective thorns to keep people from hastily plucking you up. You’d be a wildflower that grows where it wants. Being picked or not picked isn’t the point for a wildflower. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s hard to do things just for your own self-improvement. There- fore, you don’t call it “fun.” It certainly isn’t selfish, as no one selfishly causes their own discomfort. Do things just for you anyway, if only as an exer- cise to prove that you can. regardless of what happens next, you’ll be better for it. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You so freely give your love to everyone who needs it. What about you? You need it, too, possibly more urgently than anyone else around you today. Turn it inward. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Do you wonder why the cold people seem to gravitate to you? It’s because you’re fire and they sense they’ll be able to warm up around you. They’re right about that today. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Any attempt to control essentially uncontrollable forces will fall somewhere between laughable and futile. Disturbing elements are part of the landscape of life. The trick is to go around them, paying as little attention as possible. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The bleak even- tually gives way to sparkling interests — or does it create them? It will be your restlessness along with your enthusiasm that give meaning and color to your work and relationships. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s no shame in leaving the party at 9:30 p.m. Once you’ve done what you set out to do, found what you were looking for and gotten what you came for, there’s no reason to stay. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The damage we do over the course of a relationship or a job can’t always be put right again, but when it’s beyond repair we can still rebuild from scratch. The important thing is to have a hopeful attitude. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Some endeavors are like the carnival that comes to town to delight you then takes its music and roller coasters to the next location. So what? Play the games; lose some money; ride the rides. It’s more fun than staying home! TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 12). To sum the world up in a word: magic. The spell is in this bit of knowledge: Most problems are caused inside the relationship with the self — a relationship that will be healed, nurtured and well-tended this solar return. With great daring and caring, you’ll help yourself become the hero of your own story. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 13, 22, 28, 1 and 18. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). To give your heart to another when you feel the impulse to do so is usually the right choice. That doesn’t mean it will work out. No one is guaranteed the joy. But FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE