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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JULY 4, 2017 FEATURES Absentee grandparents Dear Annie: I am distraught it would make waves with the other by my mother-in-law and father- siblings. The other daughters-in- in-law. My husband and I have law love her. To my mother- and father-in- been happily married for more than 20 years, and we have three great law, I’d like to say: Our boys see boys. My in-laws make no effort all their teammates’ grandparents at to see our family. My kids’ sport- their sporting events and know that you choose not to come to ing events and accom- DEAR cheer them on. And when plishments go unrecog- we go to their cousins’ nized. What makes it ANNIE games and see you there, harder to deal with is that it hurts them. they are involved with all To all you parents and their other grandchildren. grandparents out there: My husband is an abso- Don’t play favorites. — A lutely amazing father. Any Family Left Out mother would be proud of Dear Left Out: It’s not him. I try so hard to be a Annie Lane so much that you are being good wife and mother. Creators Syndicate Inc. left out as they are missing How do I continue to out. Your sons and hus- have a relationship with my in-laws when they show no band sound wonderful. You might encourage your hus- interest in having a relationship with me or my kids? I call my band to stand up to his parents and mother-in-law; she doesn’t return express how hurt he and his family the calls. We hand-deliver the boys’ are by their indifference. Perhaps game schedules; she says she never there is some long-held grudge gets them. We give gifts, and she they’re holding that would come to doesn’t even acknowledge them. light if he confronted them. In any And she will “forget” to invite us to case, don’t worry too much about what they think. Any parents who family events. I know that my husband is hurt intentionally play favorites with and wonders why he isn’t good their children or grandchildren are enough for their attention. I’m not worth trying to curry favor afraid to talk to my mother-in-law with. Dear Annie: I’m 81 years old because, knowing her personality, 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. and still fairly active. I’m in fine enough health. My problem is that I wake up at night and worry about what to do with all the stuff in my large house. My daughter used to help me, but she is busy with her own life. I need to talk with a senior counselor who can help me work out a plan and direct me to resources that can help me dispose of my items. Any advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated. By the way, I think many seniors are struggling with differ- ent issues that aren’t dire but cause sleepless nights. It would be a great service to encourage seniors to send questions that are about their lives, because there are more and more people who are moving into the senior years and don’t know what to do. — Tossing and Turning Dear Tossing and Turning: The National Association of Senior Move Managers (NASMM) helps seniors downsize their possessions, whether they’re actually moving to a new location or they’re staying at home. Contact the NASMM at 877-606-2766. I’d like to echo your sentiment. I would love to hear from more seniors about the issues they’re fac- ing. Please write. pleasure?” ARIES (March 21-April 19). Sometimes you’re charged with being a cog in the wheel, and other times your job is to hold the handlebars, steer and balance. Both jobs can have their advantages and disadvantag- es, so whichever it is, embrace it. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Solitude has a transcendent power, and so does unity. Too much of either state is diminishing, though. Your balance of social time and alone time may need some tweaking. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Our minds are so subjective that the idea of reality can be a squirrelly one. If you ignore it and it doesn’t go away, it’s probably reality. That’s good news. Reality can be much more easily dealt with than non-reality. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can’t think your way to peace, because thinking doesn’t bring peace. Peace exists between the thoughts, also around them. Music will be an easy and interesting way to organize mental clutter. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Just as the Greek hero Odysseus found a way to resist the song of the sirens, you will find a way to resist the temptations on the sidelines today. Odysseus had help from his crew, and so will you if you call on yours. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If you feel you have to inflate your confidence or brag or otherwise stuff your “resume,” the situation is already doomed. Go where the love is instead! Who you are isn’t what you have, own or do. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Anyone can connect all of the wrong things and come to some pretty dismal conclusions. You’ll connect the shining dots of rightness, and the conclusion that naturally follows will be bright and welcoming. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People will say that “something has to be done,” but does it? If nothing were done, what then? If you put it to the test and “something” still “has to be done,” then you’re the one to do it. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). To be selfless and remain calm is the aim of people everywhere (especially women). And then one day (to- day) you’re simply not in the mood. Rage on. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Part of you will engage; the other part watches. Which is real? You’re the sky, not the weather. The clouds may decorate or menace, but don’t be bothered; clouds pass. You’re the constant. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Any path you commit to will get you there. So the better question isn’t, “Which one will get me there?” It’s, “Which path might I commit to with FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s the unknowable, and then there’s the not-worth- knowing, and both may seem to be unworthy of the chase. However, pursuing the first category will bring many revelations. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 5). Your loved ones come to know more of you, and indeed, you grow in new ways, so there is more to know. To be understood and celebrated for your uniqueness is both a comfort and a thrill. September and Febru- ary are your luckiest financial months. New relationships and deals will be established in October. Libra and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 27, 43, 9, 22 and 15.
