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6A FEATURES Kids misbehaving isn’t cute Dear Annie: Maybe I am erty is OK! What kind of overly sensitive, but there values are we teaching our are so many commercials young? with children doing things I grew up in the 1950s. that they really should not If I had done something like be doing, and it makes me that, I would have received a wonder about the younger spanking. Spanking is now adults who find this considered child DEAR cute. Currently, there abuse. Parents need is an ad for a travel to use some alterna- ANNIE company featuring a tive and stick with teacher who is ready it. If I see a child for vacation. The who is well-behaved kids in the classroom in public and near are tearing up the me, I try to com- place. One kid is in pliment the parent. the fish tank. Others I’m curious about Lane are beating the fur- Annie your thoughts on Creators Syndicate Inc. this. — Watching in niture with bats and Disbelief sticks. I have seen Dear Watching in Dis- a commercial in which two girls are kicking in the sides belief: I grew up in the 90s, of an air conditioner because and I still don’t think that it broke down. There is a children should be allowed commercial in which two to act destructively or dis- young boys who are being respectfully. I’m especially baby-sat by their uncle concerned when I turn on the destroy the house. They TV and see children being jump on all the furniture, tear rude to teachers — who up feather pillows. Grandma have one of the most import- calls and asks, “Are we hav- ant jobs in the world. Why advertisements feature such ing fun yet?” What kind of message behavior as if it were cute is does this send to our chil- beyond me. But I think your dren? Destruction of prop- practice of complimenting the parents of well-behaved children is a kind and upbeat step in the opposite direc- tion, and I encourage all my readers to start doing the same. Dear Annie: I’d like to add to your response to the grandmother of the 7-year- old who wanted to invite only her new “besties” to her birthday party, leav- ing some of her old friends out. You said to invite all of the friends anyway because kids change their minds all the time and they might be best friends again by the next week. You were right. Leaving children out, push- ing them to the sidelines, is a bad habit to get into. When we do, we are often creat- ing bullying and other dys- functional behaviors that can turn truly dangerous. And it’s never too early to begin teaching children to be kind and considerate of others’ feelings. — Beth in Oregon Dear Beth: A million times yes. Empathy is a trait that can and should be nur- tured in children early on. Thank you for your letter. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JUNE 28, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Boredom lacks the fiery passion of other emotions, but it’s just as im- portant as many of those super-charged feelings. You won’t find your peak creativity, originality or unique genius without tolerating some degree of boredom. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Instead of ruminat- ing about what went wrong back there, imagine that it didn’t. Think of yourself as saying and doing it the way you would have liked it to go. This increases your chances of getting it right the next time. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You lived your story; you earned it! That doesn’t mean that you want to tell it to everyone. In fact, you’ll be effectively choosey in this regard, waiting for the right audi- ence and the moments of maximum impact. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you’re only partway into the situation, it will take energy from the rest of your life and give you back nothing in return. For a proper return you’ll have to ramp up your commitment or get out completely. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Those who have earned big-time results are the only ones who can afford to talk a big talk — though, usually, because experience has taught them the precar- iousness of success and the value of modesty, they choose not to. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If there’s any- thing you need more of, it’s not money or fun, it’s meaning. When meaningfully engaged you become more yourself and yet somehow simul- taneously more everyone else, too, melding with the universal mind. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Love the mess. Frame it as you would the artwork of a beloved young child. In many ways, you are the parent and the child all in one, and you’re in need of a little praise and enthusiasm for the early attempts. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Comfortable ideas about who you are will keep you interacting in a certain way that may or may not benefit you, let alone keep you interested in yourself. Trade comfort for boldness, routine for adventure, worry for curiosity. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You may feel like you’re being put on the spot today. If so, consider mov- ing “the spot” off to the side a bit. The sideshow will attract a crowd without having the same pres- sures and liabilities of the mainstage productions. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The nature of market- ing is hype. Since you’re being marketed to during your every waking hour, it only follows to pick up and use language of hype in your you-to-you communications. Recognize it for the exaggera- tion it is. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). True to his methodical, consistent nature, the tortoise wins the race. Plod- ding ever forward is harder than it looks — espe- cially for those who are easily distracted (which is everyone) — but it works. You can do this! FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When you laid down the boundary for your friend, you had a good reason. But the scene has changed and so have the both of you. It’s time for some new rules that better fit this current incarnation of the relationship. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 29). You’re becoming increasingly informed and in touch with your surroundings and yet you’re not completely tied to things as they exist. Parameters change. You’ll come into a brand new scene and alter it forever for the better. Affection and devotion will be heaped on you in 2018. Travel figures prom- inently. Sagittarius and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 3, 38, 34 and 40.
