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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JUNE 14, 2017 FEATURES Suspicious of dad’s girlfriend Dear Annie: Two years after can’t move in yet because she’s my mentally ill mother passed “still cleaning out” her current away, my retired 76-year-old place. Yet my dad just revised the father, “Juan,” started dating a deed to give her the house upon 61-year-old woman, “Lucy.” At his passing. My sister and I question first, Lucy was friendly to my sister and me, and we hoped we Lucy’s intentions, and we’re wor- ried she’s using my dad. could fill a gap, because DEAR Our small family is now she was estranged from divided in a way I never her own family and had ANNIE thought possible. Any lost her previous husband suggestions about how in a tragic New Year’s to salvage the relation- Eve accident years prior. ship with my father with- She has no children of her out causing his girlfriend own. My family, includ- to further isolate him ing my three children, was from my sister and me? welcoming. My father is Lane — Looking to Bridge the kind and generous to Lucy Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. Girlfriend Divide with trips and gifts, and Dear Looking: Sharks it’s good he has someone can smell blood from a mile away. who brings that out in him. But now, as the relationship Your father has probably been has progressed, they are shut- hurting and feeling lonely for a ting us out of their lives. Lucy has long time. He was vulnerable. caused rifts between us with gos- I’m not prepared to declare Lucy sip and talking behind our backs. a shark just based on your letter; She persuaded him to buy a house it’s possible that she truly loves and move away from his network your father and you and she just of friends and family. She pushed have your differences. If she’s a my father into using my sister’s shark, her fin will surface in time. and my trust assets to buy said In the meantime, consult a law- house, and she doesn’t actually yer to explore any legal options live with my father. He’s rented you might have should things with her an apartment of her own for Lucy and your dad escalate. Even three years now. She says she more importantly, be as much a part of your dad’s life as possible so that he is not isolated. Take him to lunch, or go for walks together. The more he feels connected to family the less dependent he will be on his girlfriend. Dear Annie: This is in response to “Worried Times Two,” who were concerned about their potentially unsafe ex-daughter- in-law’s having custody of their grandchildren. You may be inter- ested in suggesting that in this sit- uation, their son could ask the judge or magistrate to appoint a special advocate. It would be in the best interest of the children. Court-appointed special guardians can do amazingly thorough inves- tigations and make recommenda- tions to the court. I felt very sad about the situation described and have been involved over the past 24 years as an advocate in similar situations. I would like these chil- dren to get the help they need. — Court-Appointed Special Advo- cate/Guardian Ad Litem Dear CASA/GAL: I appre- ciate your bringing such a great resource to my attention. Thank you. Those interested in having an advocate appointed can visit http://www.casaforchildren.org for more information. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re seeking inspiration, and you’ll find it both in those you want to be like and in those you don’t want to be like. Stand where you can see and hear the people you find interesting. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s the perfect moment to do a mental scan of your current skillset to remind yourself of what you’re good at and what you’d like to get good at. (If you don’t know what you’re good at, you’ll miss the chance to sell it!) GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There’s no reason to bargain with boredom. Instead, take this emotion as a flag that signals it is time to shake things up, put things back, write things down or all of the above. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Everyday life is rich. You sense this and appreciate it. Some- one else will help you in this regard, enjoying the details and the particular way you attend to them. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Do the most import- ant thing first. Once that’s out of the way, you can relax. The relaxed you is more effective, because an easygoing mindset helps you re- sist getting caught up in the extraneous parts that ultimately won’t matter. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Although it would be wonderful to find a perfect showcase for your work, the fact is that there probably isn’t one yet. You’ll have to make one, or one will be made to accommodate the work, once you do it. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re attracted to a type of person who may or may not be good for you. This is a day of noticing — of ob- serving yourself and how you change or don’t around the people you spend your life with. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The relationship requirements are not rules, more like patterns. You set up the expectation early on and keep delivering in one way or another. Now you don’t like what’s being required of you, and today is about changing it. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You don’t have to be lost to wonder how you’re going to find your way to the next place. If you’re not too proud to ask for directions, you’ll get there faster. Sidle up to an expert and you’ll learn more than you asked for. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Anger is not like a drug; it is a drug. It alters a person’s chemistry more effectively than a lot of other substances. Keep this in mind while dealing with people who seem to lean on this emo- tion. Maybe it’s not about you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). “No comment” is always an option. No one (other than your own brain) is commanding you to speak. By not weighing in with an opinion, you’ll leave your options open. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You don’t expect people to be what they are not. Everyone is quirky. You realize this and act accordingly. People love you for that. You’ll be the most nonjudgmental person on your block. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 15). Aug- mented powers of observation will help you to better sense what people want and grow in your capacity to deliver. It’s good to be in de- mand, and when this has to do with business, you’ll be paid handsomely. Lucky meetings happen in August and November. Money comes from out of the blue in July. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 22, 27 and 50.
